Parent Driven Development
Episode 033: Raising Children Away From Family
00:28 Welcome, Adarsh Pandit
Adarsh is a self taught coder, scientist and consultant. He is the founder of Cylinder Digital, a software design and development studio, and is on the board of Ruby Together.
This episode we discuss what it’s like to raise a family, while living away from your parents and other family members.
03:00 The difficulties of raising a family away from family
- Lack of support
- Career trade offs
- Finding a sitter
07:01 Home-Ops: The Business Side of Raising a Family
- Who can help with childcare?
- Realizing the limitations of parents age and health as they get older
- Adjusting child care depending on the time, day or event that they are covering for. - who can drive?
13:30 - Coping with coordination
- Co-op babysitting
- Drop off playdates with neighbors
17:11 Finding the Right Child/Child and Parent/Parent Match
- Finding the perfect family match: kids need to get along and parents need to get along
- Building rapport with other families to become close enough to ask for favors for pick-up give specific dietary requirements, disciplining other kids and have other parents disciplining your kids
- “it’s probably fine” - trusting other parents with your kids
22:15 The Importance of Being a Patient Parent Without Extra Family Support
- Effective response to kids
- Managing stress - yoga, lots of water, getting outside, eating well
23:37 Work Flexibility
- Staying organized as a working parent
- Being a consultant has been helpful for Adarsh because he can dial up or down depending on the demands of the children.
- The benefits of being at home or working at home - enjoy the time with your toddlers because there will be a day they will not want your attention any more.
30:03 The Trade Offs of Having Two Working Parents
- Potential extra PTO for one the parents
- One parent typically has a more flexible schedule
32:30 Fail Moments
- More poop stories, because poop is always funny. #Fail
36:16 Showing Empathy Towards our Kids
- Kids are actually little people with little personalities and their own personal functions, weird!?
- Allowing kids to figure things out on their own.
39:30 Genius Moments
- Allison invites her son Devin on stage during a conference event and he tells says… “Mommy, I just want to be just like you when I grow up” #genius
- KWu’s diaper change at the playground #fail… having a spare outfit in the diaper bag #genius
- Adarsh gets his son to poop in the toilet #genius
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