00:28 Welcome, Adarsh Pandit

• Adarsh is a self taught coder, scientist and consultant. He is the founder of Cylinder Digital, a software design and development studio, and is on the board of Ruby Together.

• This episode we discuss what it’s like to raise a family, while living away from your parents and other family members.

03:00 The difficulties of raising a family away from family

• Lack of support
• Career trade offs
• Finding a sitter

07:01 Home-Ops: The Business Side of Raising a Family

• Who can help with childcare?
• Realizing the limitations of parents age and health as they get older
• Adjusting child care depending on the time, day or event that they are covering for. - who can drive?

13:30 - Coping with coordination

• Co-op babysitting
• Drop off playdates with neighbors

17:11 Finding the Right Child/Child and Parent/Parent Match

• Finding the perfect family match: kids need to get along and parents need to get along
• Building rapport with other families to become close enough to ask for favors for pick-up give specific dietary requirements, disciplining other kids and have other parents disciplining your kids
• “it’s probably fine” - trusting other parents with your kids

22:15 The Importance of Being a Patient Parent Without Extra Family Support

• Effective response to kids
• Managing stress - yoga, lots of water, getting outside, eating well

23:37 Work Flexibility

• Staying organized as a working parent
• Being a consultant has been helpful for Adarsh because he can dial up or down depending on the demands of the children.
• The benefits of being at home or working at home - enjoy the time with your toddlers because there will be a day they will not want your attention any more.

30:03 The Trade Offs of Having Two Working Parents

• Potential extra PTO for one the parents
• One parent typically has a more flexible schedule

32:30 Fail Moments

• More poop stories, because poop is always funny. #Fail

36:16 Showing Empathy Towards our Kids

• Kids are actually little people with little personalities and their own personal functions, weird!?
• Allowing kids to figure things out on their own.

39:30 Genius Moments

• Allison invites her son Devin on stage during a conference event and he tells says… “Mommy, I just want to be just like you when I grow up” #genius
• KWu’s diaper change at the playground #fail… having a spare outfit in the diaper bag #genius
• Adarsh gets his son to poop in the toilet #genius

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Panel

KWu
Allison McMillan
Adarsh Pandit