David is the creator of Ruby on Rails, cofounder & CTO at Basecamp, best-selling author, Le Mans class-winning racing driver, frequent podcast guest, and family man.

2:50 Security concerns

• Social Media
• COVID times
• Parenting boundaries

13:45 Privacy

• Picture surplus
• Authenticity

16:45 Engagement with parenting on the web

• The highlight parenting reel
• Avoid the humble brag as a parent
• Internet jousts

DHH recommended books:

• The Myth of the Spoiled Child - Alfie Kohn
• Punished by Rewards - Alfie Kohn * The Self-Driven Child - Ned Johnson

26:30 Introducing privileges to his kids

• Capitalism
• Against artificial constraints placed on by parents
• A life not centered around materialism

The Road To Wigan Pier - George Orwell

38:38 Genius / Fails

• Arit makes a crib boundary with a creative new upcycle
• KWu wrestles with a photo book for her kids
• Chris fails on fail this week
• DHH is off by an hour as his kids come home right as this podcast starts
• Allison’s daughter challenges her patience during bed time

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In today's episode we discuss what everyone is talking about, COVID-19. Yes, we talk about it. We're talking about the new normal, full time remote work, childcare - or the lack there of, how to communicate the situation to our children, and what this means for our world moving forward. Tune in!

00:55 COVID-19 check in

• On a scale of freaking out vs totally chill… How many tweets are you reading?
• Self quarantine pre plan
• Chris has a dry run when his son catches the flu... *The actual flu.

05:40 The new normal

• Will grocery stores shut down?
• Limit social outings
• Sports, events, and all gatherings are being cancelled… more of an inconvenience

09:10 Tech has shut. it. down.

• Everyone is working for home, asap
• What’s the deal with other industries?
• If you can stay home, stay home

13:20 New policies

• What about goals?
• College kids subbing as the new neighborhood babysitters
• Privilege in steady jobs
• Preschools and schools - some open vs. some closed

24:10 What about the kids?

• Toddlers situation.. They need room to move, but also need to be hand-washed supervised
• Parenting milestones

27:55 Full time work from home

• Hermit life has become even more hermit-y
• Parenting switch offs

29:15 How to communicate covid-19 to our children

• One kid was shown a picture of the virus.. So now all the kids in preschool want to see a picture of the virus
• Middle school kids are informed with a bit more detail
• Those are the rules!
• No more toys at school

37:28 Genius // fail

• Chris blames the cats… but they were framed!! By his corgi
• Allison has a COVID-19 #fail
• KWu’s strategy is to switch over to online purchases when possible.. Minimal contact #genius

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Katherine Wu

00:20 Welcome

• We discuss what it's like to work for a company that you may not agree with their ethics
• The difficult decisions and thoughts when you have a family and dependents counting on you

00:55 Examples of companies dealing with ethical controversy

• Companies working with ICE, kickstarter
• Ethical clients, customers, organizers, labor oriented - who’s responsible?

02:34 Technology, good or evil?

• Surveillance
• Hyper aware of indications within our jobs and technology
• Being in the tech industry, able to create foundational tech communication - bonus
• US culture is more politically aware within the last few years

06:40 Being more involved

• Lessons of the past
• Minority identity
• What are we if we don’t participate

09:30 Support and encouragement to leave a job, things to consider

• Financial decisions play a huge role
• Putting family at financial risk
• Healthcare
• Retirement benefits

16:44 Inflexible costs of leaving a job

• Childcare
• Extra childcare - nannies livelihood
• Donation makeup for moral indications

19:35 What can we do?

• Don’t public shame others
• Leaving a role is instant, but long term change takes time
• Use your voice for what you support
• Vote with your wallet

28:15 Genius / Fail moments

• Allison's son gets groovy with techno in the AM
• Adarsh’s son is back in the hospital from another day at the park..
• The monkey bars!
• Kids are being taught how to talk about their feelings #hugeWin

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Allison McMillan
Adarsh Pandit