{"version":"https://jsonfeed.org/version/1","title":"Parent Driven Development","home_page_url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com","feed_url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/json","description":"Turns out children arrive with no manual. There's no coherent online tutorial.\r\n\r\nBetween staying up to date with emerging technologies and balancing work and home life in an industry that often requires un-timeable bug fixes, on call schedules, and more, working parents are balancing a lot.\r\n\r\nParents are also exploring additional technical issues like \"screen time\" or internet privacy, coming at these issues from a different perspective as technologists ourselves.\r\n\r\nWe cover all of these topics and more using a panel of parents coming from diverse perspectives and a variety of technological backgrounds. We'll shine light onto these issues and provide a valuable food for thought for these folks.\r\n\r\nWant to ask a question that the panelists can discuss in an episode? Email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.\r\n\r\nAnd if you're loving the podcast and want to support us, please visit our [Patreon](https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev)! \r\n","_fireside":{"subtitle":"A podcast about parenting in tech","pubdate":"2021-03-31T05:00:00.000-04:00","explicit":false,"owner":"Parent Driven Development","image":"https://assets.fireside.fm/file/fireside-images/podcasts/images/e/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/cover.jpg?v=1"},"items":[{"id":"f86e6737-80b6-49a5-81f7-e9e36a1e1ee1","title":"067: Goodbye, for now","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/goodbye-for-now","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 067: Goodbye, for now.\n\n1:00 Parent Driven Development reflects on what it’s like being a panelist on the podcast\n\n\nImposter syndrome\nMultiple purposes to be an effective parent \nExpanding perspectives, ideas, and parenting techniques\nAbility to relate with one another\n\n\n8:40 What we hope to our listeners take away from the podcast\n\n\nThere is no one way to parent \nYou’ll continue to grow as a parent\nYou are not alone - every parent, kid, family, circumstances are different\n\n\n13:30 What would we have done differently?\n\n\nEarlier sponsorship \nEpisode format\n\n\n16:15 Parting words for listeners\n\n\nThank you!!\nYou’re doing a great job. \n\n\n17:17 Final genius and fail moments\n\n\nChris Sexton’s daughter uses the word arithmetic with her peers, but no one knows the word leading her to question whether her parents played a prank on her.\nAllison calms down her family with deep breathing after her daughter has a potty accident.\nKWu’s 3-year-old son feels super proud after helping shovel the snow, and he helped!\nChris Arcand finds the perfect snow sled for his son to be towed around in the deep Minnesota snow. \n\n\nHow can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nChris Arcand\nChris Sexton\nKWu\nAllison ","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 067: Goodbye, for now.</h2>\n\n<h3>1:00 Parent Driven Development reflects on what it’s like being a panelist on the podcast</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Imposter syndrome</li>\n<li>Multiple purposes to be an effective parent </li>\n<li>Expanding perspectives, ideas, and parenting techniques</li>\n<li>Ability to relate with one another</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>8:40 What we hope to our listeners take away from the podcast</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>There is no one way to parent </li>\n<li>You’ll continue to grow as a parent</li>\n<li>You are not alone - every parent, kid, family, circumstances are different</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>13:30 What would we have done differently?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Earlier sponsorship </li>\n<li>Episode format</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>16:15 Parting words for listeners</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Thank you!!</li>\n<li>You’re doing a great job. </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>17:17 Final genius and fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Chris Sexton’s daughter uses the word arithmetic with her peers, but no one knows the word leading her to question whether her parents played a prank on her.</li>\n<li>Allison calms down her family with deep breathing after her daughter has a potty accident.</li>\n<li>KWu’s 3-year-old son feels super proud after helping shovel the snow, and he helped!</li>\n<li>Chris Arcand finds the perfect snow sled for his son to be towed around in the deep Minnesota snow. </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/chrisarcand\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Arcand</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison</a> </p>","summary":"Allison, KWu, Chris A, and Chris S come together for a goodbye, for now, episode to reflect on their experience being a panelist on the Parent Driven Development Podcast.  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Jean doesn’t miss writing code, but she does miss deleting it.\n\n0:53 Finding a new job during the pandemic\n\n\nDesire strikes for leadership\nThe hiring process\n\n\n5:20 How did the pandemic change your thought process\n\n\nIntentionality of specific desires - management, leadership, flexibility\nEnjoying the journey rather than letting comparison or stress take over\n\n\n7:30 What would Jean do differently now?\n\n\nFinding ways to lean into async communication with a remote team in different time zones, while keeping the team engaged and connected with each other\nHybrid mix of in-person and remote is the future for companies\n\n\n13:13 Pre-pandemic commute tales\n\n\nFeels like a different lifetime\n\n\n15:40 New expectations for Range during the pandemic\n\n\nGetting rid of the 9-5; windowed work with colored labels\nCore hours for team meetings\nSetting boundaries \n\n\n19:40 Genius and fail moments\n\n\nKWu closed her son’s fingers between a door hinge… #fail\nAllison’s daughter turns 3 and shines at her yearly doctor's appointment. #genius\nJean downloaded TikTok and discovered the best parenting hack to tell your kids to do a task, rather than ask. #genius\nChris brings back his daughter's love of Star Wars. #genius\n\n\nHow can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nAllison \nKWu\nChris SextonSpecial Guest: Jean Hsu.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>66: Finding a new job during the pandemic.</h2>\n\n<h3>Welcome, Jean Hsu!</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/jyhsu\" rel=\"nofollow\">Jean Hsu</a> is a writer, coach, and software engineer turned leadership coach after working for a decade in Silicon Valley. She is the VP of engineering at <a href=\"https://www.range.co/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Range Labs</a> and Co-founder of <a href=\"https://coleadership.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Co Leadership</a>, which focuses on filling the gaps in leadership development in the tech industry. Jean doesn’t miss writing code, but she does miss deleting it.</p>\n\n<h3>0:53 Finding a new job during the pandemic</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Desire strikes for leadership</li>\n<li>The hiring process</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>5:20 How did the pandemic change your thought process</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Intentionality of specific desires - management, leadership, flexibility</li>\n<li>Enjoying the journey rather than letting comparison or stress take over</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>7:30 What would Jean do differently now?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Finding ways to lean into async communication with a remote team in different time zones, while keeping the team engaged and connected with each other</li>\n<li>Hybrid mix of in-person and remote is the future for companies</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>13:13 Pre-pandemic commute tales</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Feels like a different lifetime</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>15:40 New expectations for Range during the pandemic</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Getting rid of the 9-5; windowed work with colored labels</li>\n<li>Core hours for team meetings</li>\n<li>Setting boundaries </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>19:40 Genius and fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>KWu closed her son’s fingers between a door hinge… #fail</li>\n<li>Allison’s daughter turns 3 and shines at her yearly doctor&#39;s appointment. #genius</li>\n<li>Jean downloaded TikTok and discovered the best parenting hack to tell your kids to do a task, rather than ask. #genius</li>\n<li>Chris brings back his daughter&#39;s love of Star Wars. #genius</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison</a> <br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a></p><p>Special Guest: Jean Hsu.</p>","summary":"Software engineer turned leadership coach, Jean Hsu, joins the panelist to share her experiences find a new job during the pandemic, her thought process, the non-negotiables , and the new remote standard.  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In 2021, Felienne was awarded the Dutch Prize for ICT research.\n\n0:50 How does Felienne become interested in programming education?\n\n\nResearch field towards programming education\nLove of kids\n\n\n3:33 Methods and strategies to help kids understand\n\n\nRelevant for professionals \nFull concentration disables full memory, so she lowers the cognitive load\nAfter time, memory starts to build and functioning increases\n\n\n6:02 Maximizing different learning styles in kids\n\n\nLearn their preferences\nChallenges their default learning style\n\n\n9:57 Felienne’s new book\n\n\nHow people learn programming\nThe more information you know about your brain can help you understand how you learn\n\n\n11:40 Interesting findings\n\n\nCognitive load\n\n\n14:00 Top tips related to programming\n\n\nRefactoring for personal comprehension \nLet go of one golden standard that code is suppose to look like\n\n\n17:29 Specific differences between professionals and kids\n\n\nMotivation \nConcrete vs open ended expression\n\n\n20:50 - 1 take away\n\n\nTake the kids hands, and guide them\n\n\n22:20\n\n\nAllison and her husband score a few days each solo as they transition back into their home #genius\nFelienne’s students fuss over the different symbols of division in coding #fail\n\n\nHow can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nAllison Special Guest: Felienne Hermans.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 065: Teaching Programming to Kids with Felienne</h2>\n\n<h3>Welcome, Felienne!</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/Felienne\" rel=\"nofollow\">Felienne</a> is the creator of the Hedy programming language, and was one of the founders of the Joy of Coding conference. Since 2016, she has been a host at SE radio, one of the most popular software engineering podcasts on the web. Felienne is the author of “<a href=\"https://www.felienne.com/book\" rel=\"nofollow\">The Programmer’s Brain</a>” a book that helps programmers understand how their brains work and how to use it more effectively. 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But at least they’re eating vegetables! \nAllison’s son gets shut down from her parenting synchronicity with her husband. \n\n\nHow can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nKWu\nAllison ","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 064: Moving and Renovating</h2>\n\n<h3>0:30 Moving and renting realities</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>KWu moves</li>\n<li>Allison’s home renovations</li>\n<li>Preparation before the kids</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>4:30 Toys</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Ethical parenting of getting rid of toys</li>\n<li>Hiding and cleaning out old toys from the kids (out of sight out of mind)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>10:05 Establishing new house rules</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Setting realistic expectations on new floors, new rooms, new finishes</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07SD38SGV/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1&pldnSite=1\" rel=\"nofollow\">Furniture socks</a></li>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07RQMYMKW/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1&pldnSite=1\" rel=\"nofollow\">Furniture caster cups</a></li>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/Respect-Take-Things-Learning-Along%C2%AE/dp/1575421607\" rel=\"nofollow\">Respect and Take Care of Things</a></li>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.freespirit.com/series/learning-to-get-along/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Learning to get along book series</a></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>18:35 Caution police in new house</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Acceptance is key</li>\n<li>Roommates with no impulse control.. your kids. ;) </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>22:40 Genius and fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>KWu’s kids got into some old and slimy carrots meant for the compost.. But at least they’re eating vegetables! </li>\n<li>Allison’s son gets shut down from her parenting synchronicity with her husband. </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison</a> </p>","summary":"Allison and KWu share their experience on their current house renovations and moving. The good and bad, and the recent acceptance of having little roommates with no impulse control. ","date_published":"2021-02-17T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/2dfccd3e-643e-4e90-9a7b-49e18846bc24.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":17395600,"duration_in_seconds":1630}]},{"id":"31a28c8d-0ecf-4771-933b-06df13114d82","title":"063: Fear in Parenting ","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/fear-in-parenting","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 063: Fear in Parenting\n\n0:40 Fear and stress of parenting\n\n\nFrom independent… to having dependents \nTrends of becoming more conservative once a parent\n\n\n2:50 Decision making process\n\n\nHigh alert, more burden than non-parents \nDifferent decisions and problems at different stages of the kids\nBackground buzz of constant anxiety \n\n\n6:40 Different stresses\n\n\nPhysical dangers for smaller kids, choking hazards\nTrying to avoid helicopter parenting \nScreen interest, programming, and patience \n\n\n10:55 Big anxieties\n\n\nScreen time !! Constant worry and stress for modern parents with kids\nAugmenting reality through screens - stress for middle school aged parents \nHow to foster new sibling relationships\n\n\nSiblings Without Rivalry - book\n\n\nHow to avoid middle child syndrome with three kids, carve out alone time with each child\nFeeling guilty to tell kids to play by themselves.. But it’s also important to learn \n\n\n21:35 Genius and fail moments from the last week\n\n\nKWu moves to a new house and her son is waking every night from terrors or feeling too cold as she’s been keeping the thermostat down real low. #fail\nJess’s son is a pretty adventurous eater and recently discovered balsamic vinegar which is now a new favorite! #genius \nChris makes biscuits and conjures a family night which turned into a great family time. #genius\n\n\nHow can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nJess\nChris S\nKWu","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 063: Fear in Parenting</h2>\n\n<h3>0:40 Fear and stress of parenting</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>From independent… to having dependents </li>\n<li>Trends of becoming more conservative once a parent</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>2:50 Decision making process</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>High alert, more burden than non-parents </li>\n<li>Different decisions and problems at different stages of the kids</li>\n<li>Background buzz of constant anxiety </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>6:40 Different stresses</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Physical dangers for smaller kids, choking hazards</li>\n<li>Trying to avoid helicopter parenting </li>\n<li>Screen interest, programming, and patience </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>10:55 Big anxieties</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Screen time !! Constant worry and stress for modern parents with kids</li>\n<li>Augmenting reality through screens - stress for middle school aged parents </li>\n<li>How to foster new sibling relationships</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3><a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/Siblings-Without-Rivalry-Children-Together/dp/0393342212\" rel=\"nofollow\">Siblings Without Rivalry</a> - book</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>How to avoid middle child syndrome with three kids, carve out alone time with each child</li>\n<li>Feeling guilty to tell kids to play by themselves.. But it’s also important to learn </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>21:35 Genius and fail moments from the last week</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>KWu moves to a new house and her son is waking every night from terrors or feeling too cold as she’s been keeping the thermostat down real low. #fail</li>\n<li>Jess’s son is a pretty adventurous eater and recently discovered balsamic vinegar which is now a new favorite! #genius </li>\n<li>Chris makes biscuits and conjures a family night which turned into a great family time. #genius</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/jszmajda\" rel=\"nofollow\">Jess</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris S</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a></p>","summary":"Do you have anxiety as a parent? 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They touch on their favorite episodes and guests over the years, as well as some favorite parenting genius and fail moments!\n\n1:30  Episode 43 - Managing parents on your team with Nick Means\n\n3:10 Episode 19 - Being Adults, Live from Ruby Conf with Jonan Scheffler\n\n7:25 Episode 11 - Being a Trans-Parent with Jess Szmajda\n\n10:35 Episode 26 - Breastfeeding with Allison, Mandy, and KWu\n\n13:06 Episode 13 - Babies at Work Program with Leah Silber\n\n14:38 Episode 39 - Parenting Roles and Gender Equity with Richard Schneeman\n\n15:50 Episode 34 - Extracurricular Activities with Barrett Clark\n\n18:18 Episode 20 - Fertility Struggles with Adam Cuppy\n\n19:55 Josh's rememberable genuis and fail moments\n\n22:40 Genius / fails\n\n\nAllison questions herself as a parent due to a Hanukkah gift gone wrong\nJosh bans Elf on Shelf and his daughter starts to question Santa Claus \nChris nails the Christmas lights on his son’s bed.. But then begins to question everything when he begins to struggle getting his son out of the car to go to school.\nKWu and her son enjoy a fresh snowfall! \n\n\nHow can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nKWu\nJosh\nAllison \nChris S","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>062: Celebrating Our Favorite Episodes from the past 3 Years!</h2>\n\n<h2>Episode Highlights</h2>\n\n<p>KWu, Chris, Josh, and Allison reflect on the past 3-years of podcasting. They touch on their favorite episodes and guests over the years, as well as some favorite parenting genius and fail moments!</p>\n\n<h3>1:30  Episode 43 - Managing parents on your team with Nick Means</h3>\n\n<h3>3:10 Episode 19 - Being Adults, Live from Ruby Conf with Jonan Scheffler</h3>\n\n<h3>7:25 Episode 11 - Being a Trans-Parent with Jess Szmajda</h3>\n\n<h3>10:35 Episode 26 - Breastfeeding with Allison, Mandy, and KWu</h3>\n\n<h3>13:06 Episode 13 - Babies at Work Program with Leah Silber</h3>\n\n<h3>14:38 Episode 39 - Parenting Roles and Gender Equity with Richard Schneeman</h3>\n\n<h3>15:50 Episode 34 - Extracurricular Activities with Barrett Clark</h3>\n\n<h3>18:18 Episode 20 - Fertility Struggles with Adam Cuppy</h3>\n\n<h3>19:55 Josh&#39;s rememberable genuis and fail moments</h3>\n\n<h3>22:40 Genius / fails</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Allison questions herself as a parent due to a Hanukkah gift gone wrong</li>\n<li>Josh bans Elf on Shelf and his daughter starts to question Santa Claus </li>\n<li>Chris nails the Christmas lights on his son’s bed.. But then begins to question everything when he begins to struggle getting his son out of the car to go to school.</li>\n<li>KWu and her son enjoy a fresh snowfall! </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison</a> <br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris S</a></p>","summary":"KWu, Chris, Josh, and Allison reflect on the past 3-years of podcasting. They touch on their favorite episodes and guests over the years, as well as some favorite parenting genius and fail moments!","date_published":"2021-01-20T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/9aa96271-f22f-4ceb-8ecf-f40933f0a99a.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":30074062,"duration_in_seconds":2251}]},{"id":"8db7808f-e8f6-4b48-953c-e80a50065026","title":"061: DHH - Internet Famous with Kids","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/dhh","content_text":"Ep 61 : DHH on being Internet Famous with Kids\n\n1:48 Welcome, DHH\n\nDavid is the creator of Ruby on Rails, cofounder &amp; CTO at Basecamp, best-selling author, Le Mans class-winning racing driver, frequent podcast guest, and family man.\n\n2:50 Security concerns\n\n\nSocial Media\nCOVID times\nParenting boundaries\n\n\n13:45 Privacy\n\n\nPicture surplus \nAuthenticity \n\n\n16:45 Engagement with parenting on the web\n\n\nThe highlight parenting reel\nAvoid the humble brag as a parent\nInternet jousts \n\n\nDHH recommended books:\n\n\nThe Myth of the Spoiled Child - Alfie Kohn\nPunished by Rewards - Alfie Kohn\n* The Self-Driven Child - Ned Johnson\n\n\n26:30 Introducing privileges to his kids\n\n\nCapitalism \nAgainst artificial constraints placed on by parents\nA life not centered around materialism\n\n\nThe Road To Wigan Pier - George Orwell\n\n38:38 Genius / Fails\n\n\nArit makes a crib boundary with a creative new upcycle\nKWu wrestles with a photo book for her kids\nChris fails on fail this week\nDHH is off by an hour as his kids come home right as this podcast starts\nAllison’s daughter challenges her patience during bed time\n\n\nHow can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nAllison \nChris S\nArit\nKWuSpecial Guest: David Heinemeier Hansson .Sponsored By:Honeybadger: So Let’s face it, your code is going to have errors, even code written by an amazing developer such as yourself. When errors happen, it's nice to know that Honeybadger has your back. \r\n\r\nHoneybadger makes you a DevOps hero by combining error monitoring, uptime monitoring and check-in monitoring into a single, easy to use platform.\r\n\r\nHoneybadger sends you alerts real time with all the context needed to see what's causing the error and where it's hiding so you can quickly fix it and get on with your day.\r\n\r\nThe included uptime and cron monitoring also lets you know when your external services are having issues or your background jobs go missing or silently fail.\r\n\r\nGo to Honeybadger.io and discover how Starr, Josh, and Ben created a 100% bootstrapped monitoring solution. \r\n\r\nWhy is this important? Self funding means they only answer to you, the developer, rather than a venture capital overlord.\r\n\r\nVisit Honeybadger.io today and mention this podcast to get started for 30% off\r\n","content_html":"<h1>Ep 61 : DHH on being Internet Famous with Kids</h1>\n\n<h3>1:48 Welcome, <a href=\"https://twitter.com/dhh\" rel=\"nofollow\">DHH</a></h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://dhh.dk/\" rel=\"nofollow\">David</a> is the creator of Ruby on Rails, cofounder &amp; CTO at Basecamp, best-selling author, Le Mans class-winning racing driver, frequent podcast guest, and family man.</p>\n\n<h3>2:50 Security concerns</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Social Media</li>\n<li>COVID times</li>\n<li>Parenting boundaries</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>13:45 Privacy</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Picture surplus </li>\n<li>Authenticity </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>16:45 Engagement with parenting on the web</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>The highlight parenting reel</li>\n<li>Avoid the humble brag as a parent</li>\n<li>Internet jousts </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>DHH recommended books:</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/Myth-Spoiled-Child-Challenging-Conventional/dp/0738217247/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1609190913&sr=8-1\" rel=\"nofollow\">The Myth of the Spoiled Child</a> - Alfie Kohn</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/Punished-Rewards-Trouble-Incentive-Praise/dp/0618001816\" rel=\"nofollow\">Punished by Rewards</a> - Alfie Kohn\n*<a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/Self-Driven-Child-Science-Giving-Control/dp/0735222517\" rel=\"nofollow\"> The Self-Driven Child</a> - Ned Johnson</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>26:30 Introducing privileges to his kids</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Capitalism </li>\n<li>Against artificial constraints placed on by parents</li>\n<li>A life not centered around materialism</li>\n</ul>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/Road-Wigan-Pier-George-Orwell/dp/0156767503\" rel=\"nofollow\">The Road To Wigan Pier</a> - George Orwell</p>\n\n<h3>38:38 Genius / Fails</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Arit makes a crib boundary with a creative new upcycle</li>\n<li>KWu wrestles with a photo book for her kids</li>\n<li>Chris fails on fail this week</li>\n<li>DHH is off by an hour as his kids come home right as this podcast starts</li>\n<li>Allison’s daughter challenges her patience during bed time</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison</a> <br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris S</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/AritAmana\" rel=\"nofollow\">Arit</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a></p><p>Special Guest: David Heinemeier Hansson .</p><p>Sponsored By:</p><ul><li><a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.honeybadger.io/\">Honeybadger</a>: <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.honeybadger.io/\">So Let’s face it, your code is going to have errors, even code written by an amazing developer such as yourself. When errors happen, it&#39;s nice to know that Honeybadger has your back. \r\n\r\nHoneybadger makes you a DevOps hero by combining error monitoring, uptime monitoring and check-in monitoring into a single, easy to use platform.\r\n\r\nHoneybadger sends you alerts real time with all the context needed to see what&#39;s causing the error and where it&#39;s hiding so you can quickly fix it and get on with your day.\r\n\r\nThe included uptime and cron monitoring also lets you know when your external services are having issues or your background jobs go missing or silently fail.\r\n\r\nGo to Honeybadger.io and discover how Starr, Josh, and Ben created a 100% bootstrapped monitoring solution. \r\n\r\nWhy is this important? Self funding means they only answer to you, the developer, rather than a venture capital overlord.\r\n\r\nVisit Honeybadger.io today and mention this podcast to get started for 30% off\r\n</a></li></ul>","summary":"DHH joins the podcast to talk about his experience as a parent while being internet famous. The group touches on security concerns, privacy, financial privilege, and share an eye role over highlight parenting reels on social media. Plus DHH suggests a few favorite parenting books.  ","date_published":"2021-01-06T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/8db7808f-e8f6-4b48-953c-e80a50065026.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":41660794,"duration_in_seconds":2837}]},{"id":"5d069928-5d8f-4ccd-aa29-4a2d40d83657","title":"60: Must Haves","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/must-haves","content_text":"Ep 60 : Must Haves for Parents\n\nFacebook Rabbit Holes for Parents + Kid Toys\n\n\nSubculture for wooden toys\nThe Nugget couch \nParents become hyper focused on specific products\nCareful what your Google\nHow to choose your Facebook groups\nThe Social Dilemma \nSocial media groups are \"bad\"/addicting, but also useful..\nGeo-fencing - creating fairer ways for international purchases\nThe lottery\nLucie's List\nPandemic toys for the New Year\nMore pressure for parents \nMoms targeted mostly in the Facebook Groups\nMarketing kids toys with trigger language: “Investment piece” \n\n\nParents: You are doing a GREAT job.\n\nGenius / Fails\n\nKWu tries to rotate out toys and clothes for her son, but things aren’t going well.\nAllison smoothly close out virtual Ruby conf while managing multiple interruptions from her kids\n\nHow can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nKWu\nAllison ","content_html":"<h1>Ep 60 : Must Haves for Parents</h1>\n\n<h3>Facebook Rabbit Holes for Parents + Kid Toys</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Subculture for wooden toys</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://nuggetcomfort.com/products/the-nugget\" rel=\"nofollow\">The Nugget couch</a> </li>\n<li>Parents become hyper focused on specific products</li>\n<li>Careful what your Google</li>\n<li>How to choose your Facebook groups</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uaaC57tcci0\" rel=\"nofollow\">The Social Dilemma</a> </li>\n<li>Social media groups are &quot;bad&quot;/addicting, but also useful..</li>\n<li>Geo-fencing - creating fairer ways for international purchases</li>\n<li>The lottery</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.lucieslist.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Lucie&#39;s List</a></li>\n<li>Pandemic toys for the New Year</li>\n<li>More pressure for parents </li>\n<li>Moms targeted mostly in the Facebook Groups</li>\n<li>Marketing kids toys with trigger language: “Investment piece” </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h2>Parents: You are doing a GREAT job.</h2>\n\n<h3>Genius / Fails</h3>\n\n<p>KWu tries to rotate out toys and clothes for her son, but things aren’t going well.<br>\nAllison smoothly close out virtual Ruby conf while managing multiple interruptions from her kids</p>\n\n<h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison</a> </p>","summary":"KWu and Allison talk about the ins and outs of Facebook groups for parents. The inevitable power kids-products have to validate one as a parent and high expectation of gifts this holiday season.","date_published":"2020-12-23T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/5d069928-5d8f-4ccd-aa29-4a2d40d83657.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":16947413,"duration_in_seconds":1712}]},{"id":"58ebe486-66a4-4d13-beaa-7f1ac4870df9","title":"059: Hiring and Interviewing ","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/hiring-and-interviewing","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\n059: Hiring and Interviewing\n\nJess, Chris S, and Allison discuss the hiring and interviewing process in tech. They share their experience as the interviewee, as well as the interviewer. The team identifies the underlying bias in the process, good signs and bad signs, and why it's important to set up a potential interviewee in the best environment possible. \n\n01:45 Hiring and Interviewing in tech\n\n\nJess writes a book and gets a new job\nHow to reduce bias in interviewing process\n\n\n03:33 Tech interviews hinder parents and caregivers\n\n\nTake-home vs pairing session \nHiring managers should set up the interviewee in the best possible scenario \n6-8 hours for a take-home test, unrealistic for caregivings\n\n\n09:50 How to access talent\n\n\nEveryway is flawed\nTake-home - kids constantly interrupting \nPaired - many engineers are introverted\nSolutions: Short at-home mixed with pairing, or problem prompt \n\n\n13:30 Bias\n\n\nHow to reduce: rubric for every round, being aware of the bias\nAllison asks about parental leave, and feels the tone shift drastically\nLegal protection, but a lot of fuzzy areas\n\n\n16:45 Good signs for parents interviewing\n\n\nIts a non-event when a child pops into the room while on a call\nCompanies reward evenly\nTalk with team members outside the interviewing committee \nTalk with someone you relate to on the team, mom, trans, BIPOC, etc\n\n\n20:30 Bad signs for parents interviewing\n\n\nThe entire tone changes after asking about parental leave..\nJudgmental, leadership team of non-parents \n\n\n22:00 Handing flexibility\n\n\nAsk about parental leave, primary and secondary leave \nBe honest with needs \nWorkplace flexibility \n\n\n28:37 Genius / fail\n\n\nJess deals with her son having accidents constantly \nChris and his kids play board games and jam out to all songs names satellite \nAllison’s daughter sparks chaos when she leaves her room after bedtime… but soon learns to stay in her room to tire herself out.\n\n\nHow can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nJess\nAllison \nChris SSponsored By:The Preschool Box: Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!\r\nThe Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!\r\n\r\nEach month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!\r\n\r\nThese monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!\r\n\r\nAnd the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on!\r\nThe work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!\r\n\r\nLet The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together!\r\nHead over right now to:\r\nthepreschoolbox.com\r\nand use code \"PARENTDRIVEN\" to get $5 off your first preschool box! Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>059: Hiring and Interviewing</h2>\n\n<p>Jess, Chris S, and Allison discuss the hiring and interviewing process in tech. They share their experience as the interviewee, as well as the interviewer. The team identifies the underlying bias in the process, good signs and bad signs, and why it&#39;s important to set up a potential interviewee in the best environment possible. </p>\n\n<h3>01:45 Hiring and Interviewing in tech</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Jess writes a book and gets a new job</li>\n<li>How to reduce bias in interviewing process</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>03:33 Tech interviews hinder parents and caregivers</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Take-home vs pairing session </li>\n<li>Hiring managers should set up the interviewee in the best possible scenario </li>\n<li>6-8 hours for a take-home test, unrealistic for caregivings</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>09:50 How to access talent</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Everyway is flawed</li>\n<li>Take-home - kids constantly interrupting </li>\n<li>Paired - many engineers are introverted</li>\n<li>Solutions: Short at-home mixed with pairing, or problem prompt </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>13:30 Bias</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>How to reduce: rubric for every round, being aware of the bias</li>\n<li>Allison asks about parental leave, and feels the tone shift drastically<br></li>\n<li>Legal protection, but a lot of fuzzy areas<br></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>16:45 Good signs for parents interviewing</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Its a non-event when a child pops into the room while on a call</li>\n<li>Companies reward evenly</li>\n<li>Talk with team members outside the interviewing committee </li>\n<li>Talk with someone you relate to on the team, mom, trans, BIPOC, etc</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>20:30 Bad signs for parents interviewing</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>The entire tone changes after asking about parental leave..</li>\n<li>Judgmental, leadership team of non-parents </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>22:00 Handing flexibility</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Ask about parental leave, primary and secondary leave </li>\n<li>Be honest with needs </li>\n<li>Workplace flexibility </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>28:37 Genius / fail</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Jess deals with her son having accidents constantly </li>\n<li>Chris and his kids play board games and jam out to all songs names satellite </li>\n<li>Allison’s daughter sparks chaos when she leaves her room after bedtime… but soon learns to stay in her room to tire herself out.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/jszmajda\" rel=\"nofollow\">Jess</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison</a> <br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris S</a></p><p>Sponsored By:</p><ul><li><a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/\">The Preschool Box</a>: <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/\">Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!\r\nThe Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!\r\n\r\nEach month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!\r\n\r\nThese monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!\r\n\r\nAnd the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on!\r\nThe work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!\r\n\r\nLet The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together!\r\nHead over right now to:\r\nthepreschoolbox.com\r\nand use code &quot;PARENTDRIVEN&quot; to get $5 off your first preschool box!</a> Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN</li></ul>","summary":"Jess, Chris S, and Allison discuss the hiring and interviewing process in tech. They share their experience as the interviewee, as well as the interviewer. The team identifies the underlying bias in the process, good signs and bad signs, and why it's important to set up a potential interviewee in the best environment possible. ","date_published":"2020-12-09T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/58ebe486-66a4-4d13-beaa-7f1ac4870df9.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":28422986,"duration_in_seconds":2221}]},{"id":"c671c8af-7834-45a9-9175-d1072aa5610c","title":"058: Co-Parenting","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/coparenting","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 058: Co-parenting with Brandon Hays\n\nWelcome Brandon!\n\nBrandon Hays is a dad and engineering leader based in Austin, TX. His professional mission is to help the tech industry improve by organizing people to accomplish things together in environments that recognize and support their \"human-ness\". His personal mission is to survive parenthood until the kids are in college.\n\n02:40 Brandon's co-parenting\n\n\nStarting with traditional gender roles\nCo-parenting was a foriegn concept until remote work..\nThe invisible work becomes more visible\nCovid has forced parents to confront the amount of work it takes to raise kids\n\n\n06:30 Co-parenting during the pandemic\n\n\nAwareness that things changed… kids cannot return to school\nBrandon becomes the educator during the pandemic \nThe amount of work to parent became too high when everything shut down\nReworking the home dynamic when one partner needs help\nAsking for flexibility in places where he had previous thought was not available before\n\n\n10:53 Working out responsibility between partners\n\n\nClear contracts\nSplitting up tasks and making them known to each partner\nAlternating cooking dinner and clean up\nFamily clean day\nCreating activities for kids, even after a long day\nCheck in with your partner, how are you feeling burden? \n\n\n14:05 Recognize your partner's strengths\n\n\nBeing comfortable with how each partner co-parents\nRecognition of each partner\nOptimize each parenting style and continue to check in\nAsking and taking the self-care when it is needed\n\n\n17:30 Working together\n\n19:10 How has Covid refocused things?!\n\n\nStrengthened the team mentality \nHard to sustain the intensity of the pandemic\nConstant change, the on-call parent\n\n\n24:40 Prioritization - Do our actions line up with our values?\n\n27:00 Take away: preserve time for planning and reflection\n\n28:35 Genius / fail moments\n\n\nAllison checks in while her son is in virtual school and feels major mom guilt… \nChris’s family visits and brings his camper for a huge win!\nArit slyly phases out her daughters stuffed animal #genius\nJess’s son goes full into minecraft, but it may be too much.. #possiblegenius\nKWu repurposed geotags for wooden toys for her kids #genius \nBrandon get creative taking pictures of his kids in their natural habitat\n\n\nHow can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nChris Arcand\nJess\nArit\nAllison \nKWuSpecial Guest: Brandon Hays.Sponsored By:The Preschool Box: Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!\r\nThe Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!\r\n\r\nEach month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!\r\n\r\nThese monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!\r\n\r\nAnd the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on!\r\nThe work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!\r\n\r\nLet The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together!\r\nHead over right now to:\r\nthepreschoolbox.com\r\nand use code \"PARENTDRIVEN\" to get $5 off your first preschool box! Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 058: Co-parenting with Brandon Hays</h2>\n\n<h3>Welcome Brandon!</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/tehviking\" rel=\"nofollow\">Brandon Hays</a> is a dad and engineering leader based in Austin, TX. His professional mission is to help the tech industry improve by organizing people to accomplish things together in environments that recognize and support their &quot;human-ness&quot;. His personal mission is to survive parenthood until the kids are in college.</p>\n\n<h3>02:40 Brandon&#39;s co-parenting</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Starting with traditional gender roles</li>\n<li>Co-parenting was a foriegn concept until remote work..</li>\n<li>The invisible work becomes more visible</li>\n<li>Covid has forced parents to confront the amount of work it takes to raise kids</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>06:30 Co-parenting during the pandemic</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Awareness that things changed… kids cannot return to school</li>\n<li>Brandon becomes the educator during the pandemic </li>\n<li>The amount of work to parent became too high when everything shut down</li>\n<li>Reworking the home dynamic when one partner needs help</li>\n<li>Asking for flexibility in places where he had previous thought was not available before</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>10:53 Working out responsibility between partners</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Clear contracts</li>\n<li>Splitting up tasks and making them known to each partner</li>\n<li>Alternating cooking dinner and clean up</li>\n<li>Family clean day</li>\n<li>Creating activities for kids, even after a long day</li>\n<li>Check in with your partner, how are you feeling burden? </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>14:05 Recognize your partner&#39;s strengths</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Being comfortable with how each partner co-parents<br></li>\n<li>Recognition of each partner</li>\n<li>Optimize each parenting style and continue to check in</li>\n<li>Asking and taking the self-care when it is needed</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>17:30 Working together</h3>\n\n<h3>19:10 How has Covid refocused things?!</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Strengthened the team mentality </li>\n<li>Hard to sustain the intensity of the pandemic</li>\n<li>Constant change, the on-call parent</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>24:40 Prioritization - Do our actions line up with our values?</h3>\n\n<h3>27:00 Take away: preserve time for planning and reflection</h3>\n\n<h3>28:35 Genius / fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Allison checks in while her son is in virtual school and feels major mom guilt… </li>\n<li>Chris’s family visits and brings his camper for a huge win!</li>\n<li>Arit slyly phases out her daughters stuffed animal #genius</li>\n<li>Jess’s son goes full into minecraft, but it may be too much.. #possiblegenius</li>\n<li>KWu repurposed geotags for wooden toys for her kids #genius </li>\n<li>Brandon get creative taking pictures of his kids in their natural habitat</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/chrisarcand\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Arcand</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jszmajda\" rel=\"nofollow\">Jess</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/AritAmana\" rel=\"nofollow\">Arit</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison</a> <br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a></p><p>Special Guest: Brandon Hays.</p><p>Sponsored By:</p><ul><li><a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/\">The Preschool Box</a>: <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/\">Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!\r\nThe Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!\r\n\r\nEach month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!\r\n\r\nThese monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!\r\n\r\nAnd the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on!\r\nThe work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!\r\n\r\nLet The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together!\r\nHead over right now to:\r\nthepreschoolbox.com\r\nand use code &quot;PARENTDRIVEN&quot; to get $5 off your first preschool box!</a> Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN</li></ul>","summary":"Brandon Hays joins the panelist to discuss how the pandemic has impacted parenting, co-parenting and the new responsibilities that come along with it.","date_published":"2020-11-25T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/c671c8af-7834-45a9-9175-d1072aa5610c.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":23646350,"duration_in_seconds":2448}]},{"id":"8fc684c1-a7e4-4847-9024-3ca1b8d65b28","title":"057: Virtual School","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/virtual-school","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 057: Virtual School\n\n03:04 Welcome to Parent Driven Development \n\n03:30 Virtual school with school age children\n\n\nKindergarten, middle school, high school\nMissing out on the life experiences\nPros and cons \n\n\n05:25 Exposure to other students\n\n\nNot enough time to build up relationships within the zoom chats\nTeachers stepping up to engage the kids with each other and in class\nTough in kindergarten because the kids can’t break off without a teacher \n\n\n11:29 Less the supervising time on virtual school\n\n\nFirst week, very hands on, but less and less over time\nKids have learned to adapt quite quickly \n\n\n14:00 Extra hands to help\n\n\nParents can do work, but not focused work while supervising zoom school\nExtra help definitely makes a difference \n\n\n15:45 Homework\n\n\nLosing track of how to turn in assignments for middle/highschoolers\nNo take home HW for kindergarten \nState assessments \nPerk - you can rewatch the class video if you have questions \n\n\n21:45 Teacher Props!\n\n\nPowerpoints\nYoga and stretch breaks\nPartner reads\nSide chats\nParent updates\n\n\n25:00 Is life better with zoom school?\n\n\nAllison is satisfied with the cards dealt, but mourns the first day of school memories \nChris thinks in some ways, it’s better\n\n\n30:15 Genius / fail moments\n\n\nChris figures out how to turn facetime back on his son’s devices, but has to keep track of his use.. #genius/fail\nAllison plans her move around the time of year her kids would need to change seasonal clothes. Less work, more organized #genius\n\n\nHow can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nChris S\nAllison Sponsored By:Nurture Life: Parents everywhere are going through so much stress and uncertainty right now. It’s hard to find sources of relief nowadays. This is why we are Parent Driven Development love Nurture Life. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for babies starting at 10 months old, toddlers, kids, and teens, delivered fresh right to your door. Meals are designed to meet the nutrient and portion needs for each age group, and are developed by Nurture Life’s registered dietitians and chefs. \r\n\r\n\r\nMeals are focused on organic produce, antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, and offer a FULL serving of veggies in every meal. Nurture Life has recently launched new and exciting meals, such as the Chicken, sweet potato, &amp; waffle finger food for babies and the Butter Chicken with Peas, Rice, &amp; Mini Naan for toddlers, kids, &amp; Teens. In addition to these new offerings, there will also be additional meals that will be available on the menu for a limited time period to continue to provide innovative, flavorful and unique meals options for families. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life easy subscription model allows you to sign up for weekly deliveries, skip weeks, or pause your subscription whenever you want. You can build your own box to select the right mix of meals for your family by age group, dietary restrictions, and allergies. \r\n\r\n\r\nGet the best meals for your kids and family delivered right to your door—available for every zip code across the contiguous United States. Get 30% off your first TWO Nurture Life orders with code PARENTDRIVEN30. \r\n\r\nVisit nurturelife.com to redeem and find a moment of relief when it comes to meal time. Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN30The Preschool Box: Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!\r\nThe Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!\r\n\r\nEach month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!\r\n\r\nThese monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!\r\n\r\nAnd the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on!\r\nThe work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!\r\n\r\nLet The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together!\r\nHead over right now to:\r\nthepreschoolbox.com\r\nand use code \"PARENTDRIVEN\" to get $5 off your first preschool box! Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 057: Virtual School</h2>\n\n<h3>03:04 Welcome to <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Parent Driven Development </a></h3>\n\n<h3>03:30 Virtual school with school age children</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Kindergarten, middle school, high school</li>\n<li>Missing out on the life experiences</li>\n<li>Pros and cons </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>05:25 Exposure to other students</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Not enough time to build up relationships within the zoom chats</li>\n<li>Teachers stepping up to engage the kids with each other and in class</li>\n<li>Tough in kindergarten because the kids can’t break off without a teacher </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>11:29 Less the supervising time on virtual school</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>First week, very hands on, but less and less over time</li>\n<li>Kids have learned to adapt quite quickly </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>14:00 Extra hands to help</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Parents can do work, but not focused work while supervising zoom school</li>\n<li>Extra help definitely makes a difference </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>15:45 Homework</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Losing track of how to turn in assignments for middle/highschoolers</li>\n<li>No take home HW for kindergarten </li>\n<li>State assessments </li>\n<li>Perk - you can rewatch the class video if you have questions </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>21:45 Teacher Props!</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Powerpoints</li>\n<li>Yoga and stretch breaks</li>\n<li>Partner reads</li>\n<li>Side chats</li>\n<li>Parent updates</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>25:00 Is life better with zoom school?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Allison is satisfied with the cards dealt, but mourns the first day of school memories </li>\n<li>Chris thinks in some ways, it’s better</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>30:15 Genius / fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Chris figures out how to turn facetime back on his son’s devices, but has to keep track of his use.. #genius/fail</li>\n<li>Allison plans her move around the time of year her kids would need to change seasonal clothes. Less work, more organized #genius</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris S</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison</a> </p><p>Sponsored By:</p><ul><li><a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.nurturelife.com/?utm_source=instagram&amp;utm_medium=social_paid&amp;utm_campaign=conversion&amp;utm_content=influencer_parentdrivendevelopment-20200326&amp;pc=PARENTDRIVEN\">Nurture Life</a>: <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.nurturelife.com/?utm_source=instagram&amp;utm_medium=social_paid&amp;utm_campaign=conversion&amp;utm_content=influencer_parentdrivendevelopment-20200326&amp;pc=PARENTDRIVEN\">Parents everywhere are going through so much stress and uncertainty right now. It’s hard to find sources of relief nowadays. This is why we are Parent Driven Development love Nurture Life. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for babies starting at 10 months old, toddlers, kids, and teens, delivered fresh right to your door. Meals are designed to meet the nutrient and portion needs for each age group, and are developed by Nurture Life’s registered dietitians and chefs. \r\n\r\n\r\nMeals are focused on organic produce, antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, and offer a FULL serving of veggies in every meal. Nurture Life has recently launched new and exciting meals, such as the Chicken, sweet potato, &amp; waffle finger food for babies and the Butter Chicken with Peas, Rice, &amp; Mini Naan for toddlers, kids, &amp; Teens. In addition to these new offerings, there will also be additional meals that will be available on the menu for a limited time period to continue to provide innovative, flavorful and unique meals options for families. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life easy subscription model allows you to sign up for weekly deliveries, skip weeks, or pause your subscription whenever you want. You can build your own box to select the right mix of meals for your family by age group, dietary restrictions, and allergies. \r\n\r\n\r\nGet the best meals for your kids and family delivered right to your door—available for every zip code across the contiguous United States. Get 30% off your first TWO Nurture Life orders with code PARENTDRIVEN30. \r\n\r\nVisit nurturelife.com to redeem and find a moment of relief when it comes to meal time.</a> Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN30</li><li><a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/\">The Preschool Box</a>: <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/\">Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!\r\nThe Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!\r\n\r\nEach month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!\r\n\r\nThese monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!\r\n\r\nAnd the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on!\r\nThe work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!\r\n\r\nLet The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together!\r\nHead over right now to:\r\nthepreschoolbox.com\r\nand use code &quot;PARENTDRIVEN&quot; to get $5 off your first preschool box!</a> Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN</li></ul>","summary":"Chris and Allison discuss the pros and cons of virtual school, how they're managing the new school year and whether or not they think life is better with zoom school.","date_published":"2020-11-11T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/8fc684c1-a7e4-4847-9024-3ca1b8d65b28.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":22615927,"duration_in_seconds":2074}]},{"id":"e58f1e1d-82ae-4e03-bebe-41f4db992b54","title":"056: Child Care Educators with Jessica Sager","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/all-our-kin","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 056: Child Care Educators with Jessica Sager of All Our Kin.\n\nAll Our Kin is a nationally recognized nonprofit organization that trains, supports, and sustains family child care educators—transforming opportunities by ensuring that children and families have the foundation they need to succeed in school and in life.\n\nJessica Sager is the co-founder and chief executive officer of All Our Kin. A graduate of Barnard College and Yale Law School, Jessica co-teaches a Yale University seminar on “Child Care, Society, and Public Policy”. She has provided commentary on child care issues for Time, The Hill, New America, and Education Week. She currently lives in New Haven, CT, with her husband and their fifteen-year-old daughter.\n\n00:58 Welcome, Jessica Sager!\n\n\nPaul Tough: Helping Children Succeed &amp; How Children Succeed\nChild care as profession in the home\nMaking invisible workers as child care professionals visible through All Our Kin\n\n\n04:18 Changing the way we value child care in our society\n\n\nLow income, closures, possible risk of losing convenient access\nMore visible with current covid crisis\nAt a crossroads\n\n\n06:30 We’re not meant to raise kids alone - How All Our Kin helps\n\n\nAll our kin in supporting child care educators around the country through their model\nAdvocate for a different way to treat child care\nDirect work to educators and family; delivery ppe, public health guidance, supporting emotional and mental wellbeing of child care educators, playing new virtual roles\n\n\n10:03 How can others help advocate for child care\n\n\nView as public good\nEmployers need to step up\n\n\n12:40 The impact in marginalized communities\n\n\nPositive impact on the economy; all our kin as a rate of return 15-20% on their investment\nEquity; making sure kids have a safe place to go even during the pandemic\nNon standard hours are needed most by essential workers\n\n\n16:50 Family care network\n\n\nDesigned as a hub and place of support for educators; helping people become licesned to become a professional educator, support them as educators, training on how to run a business, located in a place/community and building out their network.\nEducators are often passionate and utilize all the support and tools of All Our Kin to make meaningful and lasting change\n\n\n20:20 Moving to the virtual space\n\n\nPeople are showing up! Connection is desired and needed\n\n\n22:10 Local support wins\n\n\nCultural differences, but deep similarities for shared passion and love for raising kids\nNew Haven model succeeds in the Bronx and Nebraska \n\n\n25:50 Genius / fail moments\n\n\nKwu makes an awesome new corn chowder recipe, but her toddler wasn’t enjoying it.. #fail\nChris struggles to get his kids online for zoom school.. As a senior engineer himself.. #fail\nJess is at a crossroads over too much screen time for her son… but minecraft.... #genius/fail \nJessica got an adorable pandemic kitten, but the kitten has been zoom bombing important school and work presentations. #genius on the kitten #fail on the zoom bombs\n\n\nHow can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nKWu\nChris S\nJessSpecial Guest: Jessica Sager.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 056: Child Care Educators with Jessica Sager of <a href=\"http://www.allourkin.org/\" rel=\"nofollow\">All Our Kin</a>.</h2>\n\n<p>All Our Kin is a nationally recognized nonprofit organization that trains, supports, and sustains family child care educators—transforming opportunities by ensuring that children and families have the foundation they need to succeed in school and in life.</p>\n\n<p>Jessica Sager is the co-founder and chief executive officer of All Our Kin. A graduate of Barnard College and Yale Law School, Jessica co-teaches a Yale University seminar on “Child Care, Society, and Public Policy”. She has provided commentary on child care issues for Time, The Hill, New America, and Education Week. She currently lives in New Haven, CT, with her husband and their fifteen-year-old daughter.</p>\n\n<h3>00:58 Welcome, <a href=\"https://twitter.com/JessicaSagerAOK\" rel=\"nofollow\">Jessica Sager</a>!</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Paul Tough: <a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1328915425/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=1328915425&linkCode=as2&tag=parentdrivend-20&linkId=b3be62e936537154a801cc4a4bea5963\" rel=\"nofollow\">Helping Children Succeed</a> &amp; <a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0544104404/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0544104404&linkCode=as2&tag=parentdrivend-20&linkId=11d9df235d0967b7c4922d09e3db7e5d\" rel=\"nofollow\">How Children Succeed</a></li>\n<li>Child care as profession in the home</li>\n<li>Making invisible workers as child care professionals visible through All Our Kin</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>04:18 Changing the way we value child care in our society</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Low income, closures, possible risk of losing convenient access</li>\n<li>More visible with current covid crisis</li>\n<li>At a crossroads</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>06:30 We’re not meant to raise kids alone - How All Our Kin helps</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>All our kin in supporting child care educators around the country through their model</li>\n<li>Advocate for a different way to treat child care</li>\n<li>Direct work to educators and family; delivery ppe, public health guidance, supporting emotional and mental wellbeing of child care educators, playing new virtual roles</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>10:03 How can others help advocate for child care</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>View as public good</li>\n<li>Employers need to step up</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>12:40 The impact in marginalized communities</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Positive impact on the economy; all our kin as a rate of return 15-20% on their investment</li>\n<li>Equity; making sure kids have a safe place to go even during the pandemic</li>\n<li>Non standard hours are needed most by essential workers</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>16:50 Family care network</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Designed as a hub and place of support for educators; helping people become licesned to become a professional educator, support them as educators, training on how to run a business, located in a place/community and building out their network.</li>\n<li>Educators are often passionate and utilize all the support and tools of All Our Kin to make meaningful and lasting change</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>20:20 Moving to the virtual space</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>People are showing up! Connection is desired and needed</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>22:10 Local support wins</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Cultural differences, but deep similarities for shared passion and love for raising kids</li>\n<li>New Haven model succeeds in the Bronx and Nebraska </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>25:50 Genius / fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Kwu makes an awesome new corn chowder recipe, but her toddler wasn’t enjoying it.. #fail</li>\n<li>Chris struggles to get his kids online for zoom school.. As a senior engineer himself.. #fail</li>\n<li>Jess is at a crossroads over too much screen time for her son… but minecraft.... #genius/fail </li>\n<li>Jessica got an adorable pandemic kitten, but the kitten has been zoom bombing important school and work presentations. #genius on the kitten #fail on the zoom bombs</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris S</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jszmajda\" rel=\"nofollow\">Jess</a></p><p>Special Guest: Jessica Sager.</p>","summary":"Today we sit down with Jessica Sager, co-founder and CEO of All Our Kin, to discuss the changes of child care during COVID-19 and how we can help make positive changes in our own communities. ","date_published":"2020-10-29T09:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/e58f1e1d-82ae-4e03-bebe-41f4db992b54.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":21446329,"duration_in_seconds":2053}]},{"id":"5d8ec83b-a9d1-45b2-9aff-d42d4b8217de","title":"055: Jambo Books with Mijha Godfrey","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/jambo-books","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 055: Jambo Books\n\n02:22 Welcome, Mijha Godfrey!\n\nMijha Godfrey is the founder of Jambo Books. Jambo, which means both “hello” and “welcome” in Swahili, is a book subscription service for children aged 0 – 13 where all the books feature lead characters who are children of color. The stories in Jambo Books focus on the beauty of childhood, the joys of friendship and family, the thrill of new adventures, the wonderful tapestry that is the life of a child of color.\n\nMijha is passionate about helping parents raise children who won’t need to be taught how to tolerate people who are different from themselves because they will expect and enjoy healthy inclusion.\n\n04:04 The importance of a diverse library\n\n\nNot letting experience resonate in only trauma or holiday\n\n\n05:25 When should parents start showcasing different representations in their community to their children?\n\n\nYesterday.. aka ASAP, as young as infants\nRace is recognized from an early age and the earlier exposure the better\nShowcasing universal things all children go through, not just culturally recognized celebrations\nNormalizing life experience of children of color\n\n\n09:32 Jambo celebrates all representations\n\n\nBooks are a gentle gateway\nLetting children of color know that they belong in all spaces \n\n\n13:40 How do you choose books for Jambo?\n\n\nAll books sent out are fiction\nMust star a child of color\nHas to be a good story, impactful\n\n\n15:45 How do you introduce the ideas in the books to your children?\n\n\nConfront stereotypes head on! \nCan I touch your hair? \n\n\n19:40 What push back have you experienced?\n\n\nStanding strong in their mission\n\n\n24:20 Tips for book storage?\n\n\nMore shelves!\nRecycle and pass forward books in the community \n\n\n26:15 Genius / fail moments\n\n\nKWu's son turned 3! Yayy.. but feeling guilty that she is a couple years behind on the yearly photo albums. #fail\nAllison's daughter boy-cots her virtual doctors appointment, her son zips off virtual kindergarten and chaos is all happening at once! #fail\nArit's daughters nails a technical aspect of potty training. #genius\nMijha's daughter reads a book that sparks a racail conversation on a playdate. History well learned, but not wanting to her daughter to do the race work #winfail\n\n\nHow can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community!\n\nPanel\n\nKWu\nAllison\nAritSpecial Guest: Mijha Godfrey.Sponsored By:Nurture Life: Parents everywhere are going through so much stress and uncertainty right now. It’s hard to find sources of relief nowadays. This is why we are Parent Driven Development love Nurture Life. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for babies starting at 10 months old, toddlers, kids, and teens, delivered fresh right to your door. Meals are designed to meet the nutrient and portion needs for each age group, and are developed by Nurture Life’s registered dietitians and chefs. \r\n\r\n\r\nMeals are focused on organic produce, antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, and offer a FULL serving of veggies in every meal. Nurture Life has recently launched new and exciting meals, such as the Chicken, sweet potato, &amp; waffle finger food for babies and the Butter Chicken with Peas, Rice, &amp; Mini Naan for toddlers, kids, &amp; Teens. In addition to these new offerings, there will also be additional meals that will be available on the menu for a limited time period to continue to provide innovative, flavorful and unique meals options for families. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life easy subscription model allows you to sign up for weekly deliveries, skip weeks, or pause your subscription whenever you want. You can build your own box to select the right mix of meals for your family by age group, dietary restrictions, and allergies. \r\n\r\n\r\nGet the best meals for your kids and family delivered right to your door—available for every zip code across the contiguous United States. Get 30% off your first TWO Nurture Life orders with code PARENTDRIVEN30. \r\n\r\nVisit nurturelife.com to redeem and find a moment of relief when it comes to meal time. Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN30","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 055: <a href=\"https://jambobooks.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Jambo Books</a></h2>\n\n<h3>02:22 Welcome, Mijha Godfrey!</h3>\n\n<p>Mijha Godfrey is the founder of <a href=\"https://twitter.com/jambobooks\" rel=\"nofollow\">Jambo Books</a>. Jambo, which means both “hello” and “welcome” in Swahili, is a book subscription service for children aged 0 – 13 where all the books feature lead characters who are children of color. The stories in <a href=\"https://jambobooks.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Jambo Books</a> focus on the beauty of childhood, the joys of friendship and family, the thrill of new adventures, the wonderful tapestry that is the life of a child of color.</p>\n\n<p>Mijha is passionate about helping parents raise children who won’t need to be taught how to tolerate people who are different from themselves because they will expect and enjoy healthy inclusion.</p>\n\n<h3>04:04 The importance of a diverse library</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Not letting experience resonate in only trauma or holiday</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>05:25 When should parents start showcasing different representations in their community to their children?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Yesterday.. aka ASAP, as young as infants</li>\n<li>Race is recognized from an early age and the earlier exposure the better</li>\n<li>Showcasing universal things all children go through, not just culturally recognized celebrations</li>\n<li>Normalizing life experience of children of color</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>09:32 Jambo celebrates all representations</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Books are a gentle gateway</li>\n<li>Letting children of color know that they belong in all spaces </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>13:40 How do you choose books for Jambo?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>All books sent out are fiction</li>\n<li>Must star a child of color</li>\n<li>Has to be a good story, impactful</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>15:45 How do you introduce the ideas in the books to your children?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Confront stereotypes head on! </li>\n<li>Can I touch your hair? </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>19:40 What push back have you experienced?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Standing strong in their mission</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>24:20 Tips for book storage?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>More shelves!</li>\n<li>Recycle and pass forward books in the community </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>26:15 Genius / fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>KWu&#39;s son turned 3! Yayy.. but feeling guilty that she is a couple years behind on the yearly photo albums. #fail</li>\n<li>Allison&#39;s daughter boy-cots her virtual doctors appointment, her son zips off virtual kindergarten and chaos is all happening at once! #fail</li>\n<li>Arit&#39;s daughters nails a technical aspect of potty training. #genius</li>\n<li>Mijha&#39;s daughter reads a book that sparks a racail conversation on a playdate. History well learned, but not wanting to her daughter to do the race work #winfail</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community!</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/AritAmana\" rel=\"nofollow\">Arit</a></p><p>Special Guest: Mijha Godfrey.</p><p>Sponsored By:</p><ul><li><a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.nurturelife.com/?utm_source=instagram&amp;utm_medium=social_paid&amp;utm_campaign=conversion&amp;utm_content=influencer_parentdrivendevelopment-20200326&amp;pc=PARENTDRIVEN\">Nurture Life</a>: <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.nurturelife.com/?utm_source=instagram&amp;utm_medium=social_paid&amp;utm_campaign=conversion&amp;utm_content=influencer_parentdrivendevelopment-20200326&amp;pc=PARENTDRIVEN\">Parents everywhere are going through so much stress and uncertainty right now. It’s hard to find sources of relief nowadays. This is why we are Parent Driven Development love Nurture Life. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for babies starting at 10 months old, toddlers, kids, and teens, delivered fresh right to your door. Meals are designed to meet the nutrient and portion needs for each age group, and are developed by Nurture Life’s registered dietitians and chefs. \r\n\r\n\r\nMeals are focused on organic produce, antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, and offer a FULL serving of veggies in every meal. Nurture Life has recently launched new and exciting meals, such as the Chicken, sweet potato, &amp; waffle finger food for babies and the Butter Chicken with Peas, Rice, &amp; Mini Naan for toddlers, kids, &amp; Teens. In addition to these new offerings, there will also be additional meals that will be available on the menu for a limited time period to continue to provide innovative, flavorful and unique meals options for families. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life easy subscription model allows you to sign up for weekly deliveries, skip weeks, or pause your subscription whenever you want. You can build your own box to select the right mix of meals for your family by age group, dietary restrictions, and allergies. \r\n\r\n\r\nGet the best meals for your kids and family delivered right to your door—available for every zip code across the contiguous United States. Get 30% off your first TWO Nurture Life orders with code PARENTDRIVEN30. \r\n\r\nVisit nurturelife.com to redeem and find a moment of relief when it comes to meal time.</a> Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN30</li></ul>","summary":"Jambo Book Club sends members 2-3 age-appropriate books each month that feature children of color as the stars of their own stories.","date_published":"2020-10-14T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/5d8ec83b-a9d1-45b2-9aff-d42d4b8217de.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":22115369,"duration_in_seconds":2296}]},{"id":"dfec39fa-1123-4ff2-8f31-9fb7f30c09da","title":"054: How to Manage Your Tech Career With Kids","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/how-to-manage-tech-career-with-kids","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 054: How to Manage Your Tech Career With Kids\n\n01:17 How do personal priorities and desired job circumstances change?\n\n\nFlexibility + time off\nManaging parents during emergencies\nBuilding resilience within a company\n\n\n08:18 Chaos monkey\n\n\nApplying the method to people \nSetting quality expectations that everyone agrees on\n\n\n10:45 Benefits are important\n\n\nHealthcare, dental care, infertility, adoption, etc…\n\n\n12:46 Perceiving direct reports from a manager perspective about what parents really care about\n\n\nSalary should fit one's needs, they aren’t worried if their kids need braces\nWhat employees care about matters! \nManagers syncing up for 1:1 calls is essential\nStanding meetings\n\n\n17:30 Time management\n\n\nPlanning interruptions as a parent \nCoding flow \nEssential reminders \nWorking nights and weekends by choice \n\n\n27:57 Genius / fail moments\n\n\nChris Arcand hacked his three-year-old sleep with a soothing sound bath #genius\nChris Sexton’s son is a Scout and had to tackle the virtual retreat by sleeping in the yard for one week to mimic the real thing. Quarantine win #genius\n\n\nHow can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community!\n\nPanel\n\nChris Arcand\nChris Sexton","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 054: How to Manage Your Tech Career With Kids</h2>\n\n<h3>01:17 How do personal priorities and desired job circumstances change?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Flexibility + time off</li>\n<li>Managing parents during emergencies</li>\n<li>Building resilience within a company</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>08:18 Chaos monkey</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Applying the method to people </li>\n<li>Setting quality expectations that everyone agrees on</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>10:45 Benefits are important</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Healthcare, dental care, infertility, adoption, etc…</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>12:46 Perceiving direct reports from a manager perspective about what parents really care about</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Salary should fit one&#39;s needs, they aren’t worried if their kids need braces</li>\n<li>What employees care about matters! </li>\n<li>Managers syncing up for 1:1 calls is essential</li>\n<li>Standing meetings</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>17:30 Time management</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Planning interruptions as a parent </li>\n<li>Coding flow </li>\n<li>Essential reminders </li>\n<li>Working nights and weekends by choice </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>27:57 Genius / fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Chris Arcand hacked his three-year-old sleep with a soothing sound bath #genius</li>\n<li>Chris Sexton’s son is a Scout and had to tackle the virtual retreat by sleeping in the yard for one week to mimic the real thing. Quarantine win #genius</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community!</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/chrisarcand\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Arcand</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a></p>","summary":"Chris and Chris discuss their experiences with balancing their tech careers, being a manager and raising kids! They also share key strategies on how to manage parents on their teams for optimal workflow. ","date_published":"2020-09-30T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/dfec39fa-1123-4ff2-8f31-9fb7f30c09da.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":26705497,"duration_in_seconds":2015}]},{"id":"e0130c9a-3a5d-4bf9-b418-0bba2d834fbe","title":"053: The Parenting Playbook with Anna Mackenzie","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/the-parenting-playbook","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 053: The Parenting Playbook with Anna Mackenzie\n\nSponsor: Nurture Life\n\nWelcome, Anna Mackenzie\n\nAnna Mackenzie is a Software Engineer who is dedicated to improving parental leave policies in tech. She is currently working at Voiceflow, a software startup that specializes in workflow tools for building voice experiences. She is the co-author of “The Expecting Playbook,” a toolkit that helps start-ups of all sizes to roll out supportive parental leave policies. Her follow-up book, titled “The Parental Playbook,” provides start-ups with the necessary tools to support parents upon their return to work. In 2018, Anna was named as one of the Top 25 Women of Influence in Canada, as well as one of the Top 30 Women In Tech Making a Difference by the DMZ.\n\n02:40 How did you come up with the idea? Why write these books?\n\n\nBeing a minority in the industry \nStarting to ask difficult questions to companies she was interviewing for\nNo startup policy that lead to leadership roles for women\nCompanies need a better hiring practices for women\n\n\n05:50 Asking about parental leave during interviews\n\n\nMaternity AND paternity leave\nAre companies set up to have employees transition easily in and out of leave?\n\n\n08:40 Changing perspective in the workplace\n\n\nThe work place was designed for a world that no longer exists\nThe necessary reason to be LOUD about things you believe in\n\n\n13:35 Good policies get great people\n\n\nEmployer thinking about childcare &gt; parents thinking about childcare\nDiversity includes parents\n\n\n17:10 How are companies adjusting to parents during COVID19\n\n\nMoms are typically affected more\nHow can we restructure what work looks like - long overdue!\n\n\n18:40 How to be inclusive of parents when they come back from leave\n\n\nChanging activities other than happy hour\nAdding a lock to the pumping room\nThe importance of having diverse leadership and voices\n\n\n20:45 Psychological safety\n\n\nWhat’s OK for parents to mention to their team?\nWill the team think less because a parent is sleep deprived \nEmployees do better work\n\n\n26:15 Genius / fail moments\n\n\nKWu gets her son to help with the dishes one utensil at a time to keep him from making a mess in the living room. #genius \nAllison creates an obstacle course to keep her kids occupied, which includes a captain’s hat! #genius\nArit stays consistent potty training her daughter and finally gets onto the other side of potty training! #HUGEwin\nAnna’s dog gets sprayed by a skunk at a friend's house, cleans him off and then goes home, to only get skunked again in her backyard!! #fail\n\n\nHow can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community!\n\nPanel\n\nAllison McMillan\nArit Amana\nKWuSpecial Guest: Anna Mackenzie.Sponsored By:Nurture Life: Parents everywhere are going through so much stress and uncertainty right now. It’s hard to find sources of relief nowadays. This is why we are Parent Driven Development love Nurture Life. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for babies starting at 10 months old, toddlers, kids, and teens, delivered fresh right to your door. Meals are designed to meet the nutrient and portion needs for each age group, and are developed by Nurture Life’s registered dietitians and chefs. \r\n\r\n\r\nMeals are focused on organic produce, antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, and offer a FULL serving of veggies in every meal. Nurture Life has recently launched new and exciting meals, such as the Chicken, sweet potato, &amp; waffle finger food for babies and the Butter Chicken with Peas, Rice, &amp; Mini Naan for toddlers, kids, &amp; Teens. In addition to these new offerings, there will also be additional meals that will be available on the menu for a limited time period to continue to provide innovative, flavorful and unique meals options for families. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life easy subscription model allows you to sign up for weekly deliveries, skip weeks, or pause your subscription whenever you want. You can build your own box to select the right mix of meals for your family by age group, dietary restrictions, and allergies. \r\n\r\n\r\nGet the best meals for your kids and family delivered right to your door—available for every zip code across the contiguous United States. Get 30% off your first TWO Nurture Life orders with code PARENTDRIVEN30. \r\n\r\nVisit nurturelife.com to redeem and find a moment of relief when it comes to meal time. Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN30","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 053: <a href=\"http://v.fastcdn.co/u/418c7173/35282756-0-The-Parenting-Playbo.pdf\" rel=\"nofollow\">The Parenting Playbook</a> with Anna Mackenzie</h2>\n\n<h2>Sponsor: <a href=\"https://www.nurturelife.com/?utm_source=instagram&utm_medium=social_paid&utm_campaign=conversion&utm_content=influencer_parentdrivendevelopment-20200326&pc=PARENTDRIVEN\" rel=\"nofollow\">Nurture Life</a></h2>\n\n<h3>Welcome, <a href=\"https://twitter.com/whatsupanna\" rel=\"nofollow\">Anna Mackenzie</a></h3>\n\n<p>Anna Mackenzie is a Software Engineer who is dedicated to improving parental leave policies in tech. She is currently working at Voiceflow, a software startup that specializes in workflow tools for building voice experiences. She is the co-author of “The Expecting Playbook,” a toolkit that helps start-ups of all sizes to roll out supportive parental leave policies. Her follow-up book, titled “The Parental Playbook,” provides start-ups with the necessary tools to support parents upon their return to work. In 2018, Anna was named as one of the Top 25 Women of Influence in Canada, as well as one of the Top 30 Women In Tech Making a Difference by the DMZ.</p>\n\n<h3>02:40 How did you come up with the idea? Why write these books?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Being a minority in the industry </li>\n<li>Starting to ask difficult questions to companies she was interviewing for</li>\n<li>No startup policy that lead to leadership roles for women</li>\n<li>Companies need a better hiring practices for women</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>05:50 Asking about parental leave during interviews</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Maternity AND paternity leave</li>\n<li>Are companies set up to have employees transition easily in and out of leave?</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>08:40 Changing perspective in the workplace</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>The work place was designed for a world that no longer exists</li>\n<li>The necessary reason to be LOUD about things you believe in</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>13:35 Good policies get great people</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Employer thinking about childcare &gt; parents thinking about childcare</li>\n<li>Diversity includes parents</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>17:10 How are companies adjusting to parents during COVID19</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Moms are typically affected more</li>\n<li>How can we restructure what work looks like - long overdue!</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>18:40 How to be inclusive of parents when they come back from leave</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Changing activities other than happy hour</li>\n<li>Adding a lock to the pumping room</li>\n<li>The importance of having diverse leadership and voices</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>20:45 Psychological safety</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>What’s OK for parents to mention to their team?</li>\n<li>Will the team think less because a parent is sleep deprived </li>\n<li>Employees do better work</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>26:15 Genius / fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>KWu gets her son to help with the dishes one utensil at a time to keep him from making a mess in the living room. #genius </li>\n<li>Allison creates an obstacle course to keep her kids occupied, which includes a captain’s hat! #genius</li>\n<li>Arit stays consistent potty training her daughter and finally gets onto the other side of potty training! #HUGEwin</li>\n<li>Anna’s dog gets sprayed by a skunk at a friend&#39;s house, cleans him off and then goes home, to only get skunked again in her backyard!! #fail</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community!</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/AritAmana\" rel=\"nofollow\">Arit Amana</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a></p><p>Special Guest: Anna Mackenzie.</p><p>Sponsored By:</p><ul><li><a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.nurturelife.com/?utm_source=instagram&amp;utm_medium=social_paid&amp;utm_campaign=conversion&amp;utm_content=influencer_parentdrivendevelopment-20200326&amp;pc=PARENTDRIVEN\">Nurture Life</a>: <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.nurturelife.com/?utm_source=instagram&amp;utm_medium=social_paid&amp;utm_campaign=conversion&amp;utm_content=influencer_parentdrivendevelopment-20200326&amp;pc=PARENTDRIVEN\">Parents everywhere are going through so much stress and uncertainty right now. It’s hard to find sources of relief nowadays. This is why we are Parent Driven Development love Nurture Life. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for babies starting at 10 months old, toddlers, kids, and teens, delivered fresh right to your door. Meals are designed to meet the nutrient and portion needs for each age group, and are developed by Nurture Life’s registered dietitians and chefs. \r\n\r\n\r\nMeals are focused on organic produce, antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, and offer a FULL serving of veggies in every meal. Nurture Life has recently launched new and exciting meals, such as the Chicken, sweet potato, &amp; waffle finger food for babies and the Butter Chicken with Peas, Rice, &amp; Mini Naan for toddlers, kids, &amp; Teens. In addition to these new offerings, there will also be additional meals that will be available on the menu for a limited time period to continue to provide innovative, flavorful and unique meals options for families. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life easy subscription model allows you to sign up for weekly deliveries, skip weeks, or pause your subscription whenever you want. You can build your own box to select the right mix of meals for your family by age group, dietary restrictions, and allergies. \r\n\r\n\r\nGet the best meals for your kids and family delivered right to your door—available for every zip code across the contiguous United States. Get 30% off your first TWO Nurture Life orders with code PARENTDRIVEN30. \r\n\r\nVisit nurturelife.com to redeem and find a moment of relief when it comes to meal time.</a> Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN30</li></ul>","summary":"Anna Mackenzie joins the podcast to talk about The Parenting Playbook, a book she co-authored that helps startups navigate how to create quality policies that support parents. ","date_published":"2020-09-16T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/e0130c9a-3a5d-4bf9-b418-0bba2d834fbe.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":22306330,"duration_in_seconds":2142}]},{"id":"56f37a26-1cad-4e17-acc4-7314e97d9bd3","title":"052: Taking Breaks","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/taking-breaks","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 052: Taking Breaks\n\n02:16 Taking breaks as a parent, how have you been coping?\n\n\nIs everyone taking breaks?\nChris breaks with home projects\nAllison opts for a few full days off, rather than breaking during her day\nKWu dives into Downton Abbey\n\n\n07:32 Productive breaks\n\n\nIncreasing your home ROI\nDecreasing internet time during “breaks”\nHome improvements\n\n\n09:15 A break crisis!\n\n\nDinner Time chaos\nHow syncing self care time with business trips is no longer an option\nMaking an intention plan for a stay-cation \n\n\n15:35 Planning for fun\n\n\nAnimal Crossing\nMaking lists\n\n\n18:43 Choosing not to make the adult decision\n\n\nBinging on a novel late at night\nSometimes choosing the wrong thing is the right decision\n\n\n23:25 Genius / Fail moments\n\n\nChris shares his parents-only “secret food” with the kids #genius\nAllison spooks her kids by hiding from them after they don’t want to go along with their normal bedtime routine and it was a major success #genius\nKWu says yes in the moment but wasn’t actually prepared for her son to join her in the kitchen.. #fail\n\n\nHow can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community!\n\n*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.\n\nPanel\n\nChris Sexton\nAllison McMillan\nKWuSponsored By:WonderCrate: Are your kids tired of looking at Zoom all day? Keep learning fun and hands-on this school year with Wonder Crate. Wonder Crate is a subscription box created by a former educator to introduce kids to inspirational role models, sparks curiosity and connects kids to their own possibilities. Each monthly kit comes to your doorstep with a book AND fun hands-on activities to educate, entertain and empower!\r\n\r\nIn our September box kids will read about Marie Curie and discover how this brilliant young girl who loved math and physics became the first woman to win a Nobel Prize. Then they will perform their own experiments with magnets and magnetic slime. Get ready to be inspired! Head on over to wondercratekids.com and use code PARENTDRIVEN to get 25% off your first box.  Promo Code: PARENTDRIVENThe Preschool Box: Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!\r\nThe Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!\r\n\r\nEach month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!\r\n\r\nThese monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!\r\n\r\nAnd the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on!\r\nThe work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!\r\n\r\nLet The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together!\r\nHead over right now to:\r\nthepreschoolbox.com\r\nand use code \"PARENTDRIVEN\" to get $5 off your first preschool box! Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 052: Taking Breaks</h2>\n\n<h3>02:16 Taking breaks as a parent, how have you been coping?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Is everyone taking breaks?</li>\n<li>Chris breaks with home projects</li>\n<li>Allison opts for a few full days off, rather than breaking during her day</li>\n<li>KWu dives into <a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B004KAQQ5E/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B004KAQQ5E&linkCode=as2&tag=parentdrivend-20&linkId=b55bfd713a79c6abf4f9c6ea8e4c60c6\" rel=\"nofollow\">Downton Abbey</a></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>07:32 Productive breaks</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Increasing your home ROI</li>\n<li>Decreasing internet time during “breaks”</li>\n<li>Home improvements</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>09:15 A break crisis!</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Dinner Time chaos</li>\n<li>How syncing self care time with business trips is no longer an option</li>\n<li>Making an intention plan for a stay-cation </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>15:35 Planning for fun</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07SL6ZXBL/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B07SL6ZXBL&linkCode=as2&tag=parentdrivend-20&linkId=3ee6c16aa6d2b59ebde325b35a4a11c9\" rel=\"nofollow\">Animal Crossing</a></li>\n<li>Making lists</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>18:43 Choosing not to make the adult decision</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Binging on a novel late at night</li>\n<li>Sometimes choosing the wrong thing is the right decision</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>23:25 Genius / Fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Chris shares his parents-only “secret food” with the kids #genius</li>\n<li>Allison spooks her kids by hiding from them after they don’t want to go along with their normal bedtime routine and it was a major success #genius</li>\n<li>KWu says yes in the moment but wasn’t actually prepared for her son to join her in the kitchen.. #fail</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community!</p>\n\n<p>*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a></p><p>Sponsored By:</p><ul><li><a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.wondercratekids.com/\">WonderCrate</a>: <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.wondercratekids.com/\">Are your kids tired of looking at Zoom all day? Keep learning fun and hands-on this school year with Wonder Crate. Wonder Crate is a subscription box created by a former educator to introduce kids to inspirational role models, sparks curiosity and connects kids to their own possibilities. Each monthly kit comes to your doorstep with a book AND fun hands-on activities to educate, entertain and empower!\r\n\r\nIn our September box kids will read about Marie Curie and discover how this brilliant young girl who loved math and physics became the first woman to win a Nobel Prize. Then they will perform their own experiments with magnets and magnetic slime. Get ready to be inspired! Head on over to wondercratekids.com and use code PARENTDRIVEN to get 25% off your first box. </a> Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN</li><li><a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/\">The Preschool Box</a>: <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/\">Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!\r\nThe Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!\r\n\r\nEach month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!\r\n\r\nThese monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!\r\n\r\nAnd the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on!\r\nThe work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!\r\n\r\nLet The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together!\r\nHead over right now to:\r\nthepreschoolbox.com\r\nand use code &quot;PARENTDRIVEN&quot; to get $5 off your first preschool box!</a> Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN</li></ul>","summary":"This week, Allison, KWu and Chris discuss the importance of taking breaks, how they take breaks, and why sometimes choosing the adult decision isn't always necessary. ","date_published":"2020-09-02T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/56f37a26-1cad-4e17-acc4-7314e97d9bd3.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":22827328,"duration_in_seconds":1932}]},{"id":"986af2b0-70f3-4642-a71e-d5fec1c4a1dc","title":"051: Allowances for parents with Scott Hanselman","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/scott-hanselman","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 051: Allowances for Parents with Scott Hanselman\n\nWelcome, Scott Hanselman\n\nScott is a programmer, teacher, and speaker. He works out of his home office in Portland, Oregon for the Web Platform Team at Microsoft. Scott has been blogging for 10 years and enjoys blogging about technology, culture, gadgets, diversity, code, and the web. Scott is excited about community, social equity, media, entrepreneurship and above all, the open web.\n\n02:49 Allowances for kids and parents\n\n\nFather of two boys\nThe large “A”, and the little “a”\nPartner side-eyeing \nHow to make online banking unscrollable\nSunday cash withdraw\n\n\n06:01 The mental shift around money\n\n\nHow much money can you spend without consulting your partner?\n\n\n08:05 Marriage first, kids second\n\n\nIntentionality, goals, visions - what’s the plan? \nScott’s marital mission statement* - we’re on the same side\n\n\n10:43 Cash only for allowance\n\n\nThe feeling money brings \nTeaching our children the value of the dollar\nGreenlight APP - mock debit card\nSpend, save, give \n\n\n16:15 Allowance $$$ amounts\n\n\nRequired chores, that you don’t get paid for!\nScott’s perspective around allowance vs. chores\nTeaching the kids how not to be a bad roommate\n\n\n17:50 Should parents incentivized tasks for the kids\n\n\nSpread the effort - rotate chores\nHaving the kids contribute \nPerception management - to teach our kids the value of a dollar\n\n\n23:45 Family commitments as roommates and peers\n\n\nContext switching with parenting\n\n\n24:16 Genius / fail moments\n\n\nChris’s son, 3-year-old, tunes into Disney Plus only to watch a movie that is terrifying to him #fail \nArit’s daughter as a mishap with potty training #fail \nScott tries to show his kids movie classics, but #fails by choosing the wrong ones, on the otherside Scott and his family are doing a deep dive of American History inspired by current events #genius\nAllison has a #genius when her kids create and play Ice Cube games to keep themselves entertained\n\n\n### How can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community!\n\nPanel\n\nAllison McMillan\nArit Amana\nChris ArcandSpecial Guest: Scott Hanselman.Sponsored By:The Preschool Box: Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!\r\nThe Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!\r\n\r\nEach month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!\r\n\r\nThese monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!\r\n\r\nAnd the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on!\r\nThe work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!\r\n\r\nLet The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together!\r\nHead over right now to:\r\nthepreschoolbox.com\r\nand use code \"PARENTDRIVEN\" to get $5 off your first preschool box! Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 051: Allowances for Parents with <a href=\"https://www.hanselman.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Scott Hanselman</a></h2>\n\n<h3>Welcome, <a href=\"https://twitter.com/shanselman\" rel=\"nofollow\">Scott Hanselman</a></h3>\n\n<p>Scott is a programmer, teacher, and speaker. He works out of his home office in Portland, Oregon for the Web Platform Team at Microsoft. Scott has been blogging for 10 years and enjoys blogging about technology, culture, gadgets, diversity, code, and the web. Scott is excited about community, social equity, media, entrepreneurship and above all, the open web.</p>\n\n<h3>02:49 Allowances for kids and parents</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Father of two boys</li>\n<li>The large “A”, and the little “a”</li>\n<li>Partner side-eyeing </li>\n<li>How to make online banking unscrollable</li>\n<li>Sunday cash withdraw</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>06:01 The mental shift around money</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>How much money can you spend without consulting your partner?</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>08:05 Marriage first, kids second</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Intentionality, goals, visions - what’s the plan? </li>\n<li>Scott’s marital mission statement* - we’re on the same side</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>10:43 Cash only for allowance</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>The feeling money brings </li>\n<li>Teaching our children the value of the dollar</li>\n<li>Greenlight APP - mock debit card</li>\n<li>Spend, save, give </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>16:15 Allowance $$$ amounts</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Required chores, that you don’t get paid for!</li>\n<li>Scott’s perspective around allowance vs. chores</li>\n<li>Teaching the kids how not to be a bad roommate</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>17:50 Should parents incentivized tasks for the kids</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Spread the effort - rotate chores</li>\n<li>Having the kids contribute </li>\n<li>Perception management - to teach our kids the value of a dollar</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>23:45 Family commitments as roommates and peers</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Context switching with parenting</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>24:16 Genius / fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Chris’s son, 3-year-old, tunes into Disney Plus only to watch a movie that is terrifying to him #fail </li>\n<li>Arit’s daughter as a mishap with potty training #fail </li>\n<li>Scott tries to show his kids movie classics, but #fails by choosing the wrong ones, on the otherside Scott and his family are doing a deep dive of American History inspired by current events #genius</li>\n<li>Allison has a #genius when her kids create and play Ice Cube games to keep themselves entertained</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>### How can I support the podcast?</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community!</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/AritAmana\" rel=\"nofollow\">Arit Amana</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/chrisarcand\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Arcand</a></p><p>Special Guest: Scott Hanselman.</p><p>Sponsored By:</p><ul><li><a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/\">The Preschool Box</a>: <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/\">Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!\r\nThe Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!\r\n\r\nEach month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!\r\n\r\nThese monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!\r\n\r\nAnd the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on!\r\nThe work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!\r\n\r\nLet The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together!\r\nHead over right now to:\r\nthepreschoolbox.com\r\nand use code &quot;PARENTDRIVEN&quot; to get $5 off your first preschool box!</a> Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN</li></ul>","summary":"Scott Hanselman joins the podcast to talk about his approach on allowances for parents, why they're important and how exactly they can benefit the entire family. ","date_published":"2020-08-19T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/986af2b0-70f3-4642-a71e-d5fec1c4a1dc.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":27844105,"duration_in_seconds":1916}]},{"id":"b46a9fe5-23c8-4025-a029-8b17ce2d6421","title":"050: Agile Household with Yvonne Marcus","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/agile-household","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 050: Agile Household with Yvonne Marcus\n\nYvonne is a home system strategist, mom of two, lover of Girl Scout cookies, cake, craving song parodies and getting outdoors with the family. She is on a mission to revolutionize everyones view of #MomLife. She is the creator of your Agile Home, a four-week course that looks to get your family together, feel like a valued member of the team, instilling autonomy and having fun!\n\n00:50 Welcome, Yvonne Marcus\n\n\nBackground in TV production\nHow Agile Home came about\nBringing Agile into her home\nEstablishing family values\n\n\n07:10 When and how is Agile executed in Yvonne’s house?\n\n\nWFH, toddlers and setting values\nRun as SCRUM\nThe sprint process, and day-to-day process\n\n\n10:40 Are the kids involved?\n\n\nDaily SCRUM board: white board + Scrum board home toolset\nThey participate in bi-weekly check in\nDance party and breaks are essential \n\n\n13:09 Accountability without the nagging\n\n\nAssignments to the person with the more strengths in that specific area\n\n\n14:45 How do we get skeptical families on board?\n\n\nStart with the daily stand-up\nStart on your own, showcase success, then show those with doubts\n\n\n18:50 Quarantine times\n\n\nGet rid of #MomGuilt !\n\n\n20:00 Genius / Fail moments\n\n\nKwu’s children have both fallen to the ground from various chairs in the past week… #fail\nChris Sexton and his wife didn't have any troubles with a PDD Twitter poll.. #win\nArit creates a schedule for her son for his Zoom class and school work after realizing her son kept coming to her with every question #geniusfail\nChris Arcand’s son is starting to say anything and everything he feels. Sassiness to come #fail\nYvonne becomes the fun mom by dying her kids hair #genius\nAllison and her partner create space for “virtual travel” for her to prepare for GitHub’s satellite conference #genius\n\n\n### How can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community!\n\n*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.\n\nPanel\n\nChris Sexton\nAllison McMillan\nKWu\nArit Amana\nChris ArcandSpecial Guest: Yvonne Marcus.Sponsored By:The Preschool Box: Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!\r\nThe Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!\r\n\r\nEach month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!\r\n\r\nThese monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!\r\n\r\nAnd the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on!\r\nThe work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!\r\n\r\nLet The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together!\r\nHead over right now to:\r\nthepreschoolbox.com\r\nand use code \"PARENTDRIVEN\" to get $5 off your first preschool box! Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 050: <a href=\"https://yvonnemarcus.kartra.com/page/xt271\" rel=\"nofollow\">Agile Household</a> with <a href=\"http://www.yvonnemarcus.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Yvonne Marcus</a></h2>\n\n<p>Yvonne is a home system strategist, mom of two, lover of Girl Scout cookies, cake, craving song parodies and getting outdoors with the family. She is on a mission to revolutionize everyones view of #MomLife. She is the creator of your Agile Home, a four-week course that looks to get your family together, feel like a valued member of the team, instilling autonomy and having fun!</p>\n\n<h3>00:50 Welcome, <a href=\"https://twitter.com/agileyvonne\" rel=\"nofollow\">Yvonne Marcus</a></h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Background in TV production</li>\n<li>How Agile Home came about</li>\n<li>Bringing Agile into her home</li>\n<li>Establishing family values</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>07:10 When and how is Agile executed in Yvonne’s house?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>WFH, toddlers and setting values</li>\n<li>Run as <a href=\"https://amzn.to/3f8TYaW\" rel=\"nofollow\">SCRUM</a></li>\n<li>The sprint process, and day-to-day process</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>10:40 Are the kids involved?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Daily SCRUM board: <a href=\"https://amzn.to/2BGMQVC\" rel=\"nofollow\">white board</a> + <a href=\"https://amzn.to/2D96yJX\" rel=\"nofollow\">Scrum board home toolset</a></li>\n<li>They participate in bi-weekly check in</li>\n<li>Dance party and breaks are essential </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>13:09 Accountability without the nagging</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Assignments to the person with the more strengths in that specific area</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>14:45 How do we get skeptical families on board?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Start with the daily stand-up</li>\n<li>Start on your own, showcase success, then show those with doubts</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>18:50 Quarantine times</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Get rid of #MomGuilt !</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>20:00 Genius / Fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Kwu’s children have both fallen to the ground from various chairs in the past week… #fail</li>\n<li>Chris Sexton and his wife didn&#39;t have any troubles with a PDD Twitter poll.. #win</li>\n<li>Arit creates a schedule for her son for his Zoom class and school work after realizing her son kept coming to her with every question #geniusfail</li>\n<li>Chris Arcand’s son is starting to say anything and everything he feels. Sassiness to come #fail</li>\n<li>Yvonne becomes the fun mom by dying her kids hair #genius<br></li>\n<li>Allison and her partner create space for “virtual travel” for her to prepare for GitHub’s satellite conference #genius</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>### How can I support the podcast?</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community!</p>\n\n<p>*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/AritAmana\" rel=\"nofollow\">Arit Amana</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/chrisarcand\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Arcand</a></p><p>Special Guest: Yvonne Marcus.</p><p>Sponsored By:</p><ul><li><a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/\">The Preschool Box</a>: <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/\">Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!\r\nThe Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!\r\n\r\nEach month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!\r\n\r\nThese monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!\r\n\r\nAnd the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on!\r\nThe work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!\r\n\r\nLet The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together!\r\nHead over right now to:\r\nthepreschoolbox.com\r\nand use code &quot;PARENTDRIVEN&quot; to get $5 off your first preschool box!</a> Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN</li></ul>","summary":"Yvonne Marcus joins the panelist to discuss Agile Household. Yvonne created Agile Homes, a four-week course that looks to get your family together by making everyone feel like a valued member of the team, and instilling autonomy and having fun!","date_published":"2020-08-05T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/b46a9fe5-23c8-4025-a029-8b17ce2d6421.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":21060872,"duration_in_seconds":1935}]},{"id":"04dfbe57-2058-414e-b81a-666ab2fac4d7","title":"049: Arit Amana","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/arit-amana","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 049: Arit Amana\n\n01:50 Welcome, Arit!\n\n\nSoftware engineer \nMother of two, 8 and 3 years-old\nBackground in public health\n\n\n02:50 Panel check-in\n\n\nPandemic times\nAdjustment for the kids, work and home life\nStress level through the roof\n\n\n06:20 Childcare Responder Duty while WFH\n\n\nThe younger the child, the more work required for the parent\nCalendar essential for parent and kids\nAnimal crossing is the new obsession and a MUST\n\n\n18:35 Arit jumps into a new role - Dev Community\n\n\nOpen source coding\nAsync communication style\nFlexible during the day with her youngest child\nArit’s older son helps by taking care of his school work on his own\n\n\n23:45 Work-life boundaries\n\n\nAllison works few weeks on, to take a day or two off\n\n\n24:55 Genius / Fail moments\n\n\nArit has success by taking the kids out for a walk after work that get her youngest sleeping through the night #genius\nKwu’s daughter has some spit up discovered on her crib sheets post nap, unsure of what happened.. #geniusfail\nChris and his wife are both working longer even though they are not commuting to work and dinner keeps getting pushed back later and later.. 10p late #genius because everyone is aligned even though hours aren’t typical\nAllison has a win by sharing photo journalism with her five-year-old son and keeps him occupied while also sharing some solid knowledge.\n\n\n### How can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community!\n\n*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.\n\nPanel\n\nAllison\nKWu\nArit \nChris SextonSponsored By:Nurture Life: Parents everywhere are going through so much stress and uncertainty right now. It’s hard to find sources of relief nowadays. This is why we are Parent Driven Development love Nurture Life. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for babies starting at 10 months old, toddlers, kids, and teens, delivered fresh right to your door. Meals are designed to meet the nutrient and portion needs for each age group, and are developed by Nurture Life’s registered dietitians and chefs. \r\n\r\n\r\nMeals are focused on organic produce, antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, and offer a FULL serving of veggies in every meal. Nurture Life has recently launched new and exciting meals, such as the Chicken, sweet potato, &amp; waffle finger food for babies and the Butter Chicken with Peas, Rice, &amp; Mini Naan for toddlers, kids, &amp; Teens. In addition to these new offerings, there will also be additional meals that will be available on the menu for a limited time period to continue to provide innovative, flavorful and unique meals options for families. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life easy subscription model allows you to sign up for weekly deliveries, skip weeks, or pause your subscription whenever you want. You can build your own box to select the right mix of meals for your family by age group, dietary restrictions, and allergies. \r\n\r\n\r\nGet the best meals for your kids and family delivered right to your door—available for every zip code across the contiguous United States. Get 30% off your first TWO Nurture Life orders with code PARENTDRIVEN30. \r\n\r\nVisit nurturelife.com to redeem and find a moment of relief when it comes to meal time. Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN30","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 049: <a href=\"https://twitter.com/AritAmana\" rel=\"nofollow\">Arit Amana</a></h2>\n\n<h3>01:50 Welcome, Arit!</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Software engineer </li>\n<li>Mother of two, 8 and 3 years-old</li>\n<li>Background in public health</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>02:50 Panel check-in</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Pandemic times</li>\n<li>Adjustment for the kids, work and home life</li>\n<li>Stress level through the roof</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>06:20 Childcare Responder Duty while WFH</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>The younger the child, the more work required for the parent</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://amzn.to/30V9sKz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Calendar essential</a> for parent and kids</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://amzn.to/3hE5EEa\" rel=\"nofollow\">Animal crossing</a> is the new obsession and a MUST</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>18:35 Arit jumps into a new role - Dev Community</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Open source coding</li>\n<li>Async communication style</li>\n<li>Flexible during the day with her youngest child</li>\n<li>Arit’s older son helps by taking care of his school work on his own</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>23:45 Work-life boundaries</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Allison works few weeks on, to take a day or two off</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>24:55 Genius / Fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Arit has success by taking the kids out for a walk after work that get her youngest sleeping through the night #genius</li>\n<li>Kwu’s daughter has some spit up discovered on her crib sheets post nap, unsure of what happened.. #geniusfail</li>\n<li>Chris and his wife are both working longer even though they are not commuting to work and dinner keeps getting pushed back later and later.. 10p late #genius because everyone is aligned even though hours aren’t typical</li>\n<li>Allison has a win by sharing photo journalism with her five-year-old son and keeps him occupied while also sharing some solid knowledge.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>### How can I support the podcast?</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community!</p>\n\n<p>*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/AritAmana\" rel=\"nofollow\">Arit</a> <br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a></p><p>Sponsored By:</p><ul><li><a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.nurturelife.com/?utm_source=instagram&amp;utm_medium=social_paid&amp;utm_campaign=conversion&amp;utm_content=influencer_parentdrivendevelopment-20200326&amp;pc=PARENTDRIVEN\">Nurture Life</a>: <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.nurturelife.com/?utm_source=instagram&amp;utm_medium=social_paid&amp;utm_campaign=conversion&amp;utm_content=influencer_parentdrivendevelopment-20200326&amp;pc=PARENTDRIVEN\">Parents everywhere are going through so much stress and uncertainty right now. It’s hard to find sources of relief nowadays. This is why we are Parent Driven Development love Nurture Life. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for babies starting at 10 months old, toddlers, kids, and teens, delivered fresh right to your door. Meals are designed to meet the nutrient and portion needs for each age group, and are developed by Nurture Life’s registered dietitians and chefs. \r\n\r\n\r\nMeals are focused on organic produce, antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, and offer a FULL serving of veggies in every meal. Nurture Life has recently launched new and exciting meals, such as the Chicken, sweet potato, &amp; waffle finger food for babies and the Butter Chicken with Peas, Rice, &amp; Mini Naan for toddlers, kids, &amp; Teens. In addition to these new offerings, there will also be additional meals that will be available on the menu for a limited time period to continue to provide innovative, flavorful and unique meals options for families. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life easy subscription model allows you to sign up for weekly deliveries, skip weeks, or pause your subscription whenever you want. You can build your own box to select the right mix of meals for your family by age group, dietary restrictions, and allergies. \r\n\r\n\r\nGet the best meals for your kids and family delivered right to your door—available for every zip code across the contiguous United States. Get 30% off your first TWO Nurture Life orders with code PARENTDRIVEN30. \r\n\r\nVisit nurturelife.com to redeem and find a moment of relief when it comes to meal time.</a> Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN30</li></ul>","summary":"New panelist Arit Amana joins the group! The group discusses quarantine, childcare duty, WFH, and all the madness in-between.  ","date_published":"2020-07-22T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/04dfbe57-2058-414e-b81a-666ab2fac4d7.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":22956132,"duration_in_seconds":2064}]},{"id":"380a72d5-6ebb-4f14-a3c1-83a9d8941f90","title":"048: Darcy Lockman - All The Rage","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/darcy-lockamn","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 048: Darcy Lockman - All The Rage: Mothers, Fathers and The Myth of Equal Partnership\n\n00:23 Welcome, Darcy!\n\nDarcy Lockman is a former journalist turned clinical psychologist and the author of All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership. Her first book, Brooklyn Zoo, chronicled the year she spent working on the psychiatric ward of a city hospital. She lives and practices (for the time being virtually) in New York City.\n\n00:39 Orgins of All The Rage\n\n\nChild care falls on Darcy more than her husband.. moms more than dads?\nWhy are we living like this?\nThe impact of patriarchy on all of us\n\n\n04:25 Patriarchy instilled into our culture\n\n\nWomen carry 65% childcare work, while men carry 35%\nThe feminine is looked down in society\nCommunality / agency - girls raised to be more communal, boys are raised to be more agentic \nWomen join the workforce, but keep up with childcare duties\n\n\n09:32 How to guide kids with equal partnership at home\n\n\nKids easily influenced from their outside world\nIdentification with the same sex parent\nGender detectives - searching for the group that they belong in\nThe one way glass study\nWomen have this idea that their male partner should not be inconvenienced, and that it’s ok if they are\n\n\n16:17 Is being traditional wrong?\n\n\nWhat good dads get away with\nStay at home mom stigma \n\n\n19:05 Dual earning couples is sole focused on from All The Rage Book\n\n\nAfter work “breaks” ?After work “breaks” ?\nUnequal experience, unequal ability \nTaking care of children takes practice\nPaid paternity leave for men in other countries - use it or lose it \n\n\n24:20 Who is responsible for the mental load?\n\n\nTechniques to share the workload\nWomen tend to feel more responsible and may have to unlearn this feeling of taking no time off\nUnderbenifitor / Overbenifitor - both sides uncomfortable\n\n\n29:50 The pandemic is making the invisible workload more visible\n\n\nPossible progress to be made in couples\n\n\n32:45 Genius / Fail moments\n\n\nJC’s kids have been helping around the house since the pandemic hit, including dinner! #geniuswin\nChris grounds steak with kids to make tacos. They were a hit and ready to go, until Chris accidentally dropped a glass dish right next to the taco meat and glass got in the taco meat… Dinner restart #fail\nDarcy embraces a sugar vacation during the pandemic and let’s her girls feast on junk food that is usually not allowed. #genuisfail maybe??\n\n\nGet your copy of All The Rage!\n\n### How can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community!\n\n*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.\n\nPanel\n\nJC Avena\nChris SextonSpecial Guest: Darcy Lockman.Sponsored By:RAYGUN: This episode is brought to you by RAYGUN. RAYGUN has been called, ’The Greatest Store in the Universe’ by RAYGUN. Saying they are the most important clothing store earth has seen since the early Mesozoic era. They specialize in t-shirts and modesty, and are completely made and produced in the USA. If you breathe oxygen, you’ll love it. Head over to Raygunsite.com to check out your next t-shirt purchase.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 048: Darcy Lockman - <a href=\"https://amzn.to/2EuvzQz\" rel=\"nofollow\">All The Rage: Mothers, Fathers and The Myth of Equal Partnership</a></h2>\n\n<h3>00:23 Welcome, <a href=\"https://twitter.com/Darcy_Lockman\" rel=\"nofollow\">Darcy</a>!</h3>\n\n<p>Darcy Lockman is a former journalist turned clinical psychologist and the author of <a href=\"https://amzn.to/2EuvzQz\" rel=\"nofollow\">All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers, and the Myth of Equal Partnership</a>. Her first book, Brooklyn Zoo, chronicled the year she spent working on the psychiatric ward of a city hospital. She lives and practices (for the time being virtually) in New York City.</p>\n\n<h3>00:39 Orgins of <a href=\"https://amzn.to/2EuvzQz\" rel=\"nofollow\">All The Rage</a></h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Child care falls on Darcy more than her husband.. moms more than dads?</li>\n<li>Why are we living like this?</li>\n<li>The impact of patriarchy on all of us</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>04:25 Patriarchy instilled into our culture</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Women carry 65% childcare work, while men carry 35%</li>\n<li>The feminine is looked down in society</li>\n<li>Communality / agency - girls raised to be more communal, boys are raised to be more agentic </li>\n<li>Women join the workforce, but keep up with childcare duties</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>09:32 How to guide kids with equal partnership at home</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Kids easily influenced from their outside world</li>\n<li>Identification with the same sex parent</li>\n<li>Gender detectives - searching for the group that they belong in</li>\n<li>The one way glass study</li>\n<li>Women have this idea that their male partner should not be inconvenienced, and that it’s ok if they are</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>16:17 Is being traditional wrong?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>What good dads get away with</li>\n<li>Stay at home mom stigma </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>19:05 Dual earning couples is sole focused on from All The Rage Book</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>After work “breaks” ?After work “breaks” ?</li>\n<li>Unequal experience, unequal ability </li>\n<li>Taking care of children takes practice</li>\n<li>Paid paternity leave for men in other countries - use it or lose it </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>24:20 Who is responsible for the mental load?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Techniques to share the workload</li>\n<li>Women tend to feel more responsible and may have to unlearn this feeling of taking no time off</li>\n<li>Underbenifitor / Overbenifitor - both sides uncomfortable</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>29:50 The pandemic is making the invisible workload more visible</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Possible progress to be made in couples</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>32:45 Genius / Fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>JC’s kids have been helping around the house since the pandemic hit, including dinner! #geniuswin</li>\n<li>Chris grounds steak with kids to make tacos. They were a hit and ready to go, until Chris accidentally dropped a glass dish right next to the taco meat and glass got in the taco meat… Dinner restart #fail</li>\n<li>Darcy embraces a sugar vacation during the pandemic and let’s her girls feast on junk food that is usually not allowed. #genuisfail maybe??</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h2><a href=\"https://amzn.to/2EuvzQz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Get your copy of All The Rage!</a></h2>\n\n<h3>### How can I support the podcast?</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community!</p>\n\n<p>*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/jcavena\" rel=\"nofollow\">JC Avena</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a></p><p>Special Guest: Darcy Lockman.</p><p>Sponsored By:</p><ul><li><a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.raygunsite.com/\">RAYGUN</a>: <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.raygunsite.com/\">This episode is brought to you by RAYGUN. RAYGUN has been called, ’The Greatest Store in the Universe’ by RAYGUN. Saying they are the most important clothing store earth has seen since the early Mesozoic era. They specialize in t-shirts and modesty, and are completely made and produced in the USA. If you breathe oxygen, you’ll love it. Head over to Raygunsite.com to check out your next t-shirt purchase.</a></li></ul>","summary":"JC and Chris are joined by author and journalist, Darcy Lockman, to discuss her book All The Rage: Mothers, Fathers and The Myth of Equal Partnership. From our society culture, to patriarchy, to the parent dynamic at home, The group hashes out the realities and ways to improve parenting dynamics at home. ","date_published":"2020-07-08T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/380a72d5-6ebb-4f14-a3c1-83a9d8941f90.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":26034990,"duration_in_seconds":2390}]},{"id":"11ddb4ef-ab1f-440c-b990-2f7d11c077c2","title":"047: Black Lives Matter","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/black-lives-matter","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 047: Black Lives Matter, How to be Anti-Racist, How to Talk to Your Kids about BLM\n\n00:20 Black Lives Matter Movement\n\n02:00 How NOT to raise racist kids\n\n\nAllison and Kwu both have young kids, so conversations are slightly different\nGender inequality talks\nExplaining to kids how and why people are treated differently in different areas\nChanging the language in the house: racism, violence, hate\n\n\n07:50 Exposing pictures, graphics and videos to your children, no matter the age. What's appropriate?\n\n\nProtesters getting arrested\nBail rates vary depending on race\nChildren are very intuitive and understand more than we think\n\n\n11:30 How to talk to young kids about BLM\n\n\nBi-racial and how they are often judged by their outer appearance\nComfortability amongst couples and how to lean into these conversations with their children\n\n\n17:40 Rallies, protests and how to support\n\n\nDifferent forms of support during BLM\nCOVID is still relevant \nAmplifying POC voices\nDaily threads on educational resources, city statuses, anti-racism resources, action items\n\n\n25:10 How can we make our world better together\n\n\nOpening the conversation about anti-racism with friends, family, community members\nFocusing on the growth of our children to be anti-racist\n\n\n28:45 Genius / Fail moments\n\n\nAllison’s son struggles with life after the virus as he starts to jump on their nerves from a relaxed approach at the beginning of quarantine #fail\nKWu focuses on finding a chinese immersion school for her son but it he jumps into the wrong level and doesn’t understand much and is a bit of a mess from lunch right before #fail\n\n\nRESOURCES: BLM and how to talk to you kids about racism\n\nAnti-Racism Resources\nBlack Lives Matter for Families\nWebinars for Anti-Racism\nWOKE Kindergarten \nHow to Talk to Your Kids About Racism\nBooks on Social Justice for Young Readers\nRaising Race Conscious Children\nTalking About Race: The Smithsonian’s National Museum of African American History and Culture\n\nBOOKS: These are books that we found to be helpful in unlearning old beliefs and learning more about modern day racism.\n\nA Kids Book About Racism\nSo You Want To Talk About Race\nHow to Be an Antiracist\nThe New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness\nWhite Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism\n\nHow can I support the podcast?\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community!\n\n*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.\n\nPanel\n\nAllison McMillan\nKatherin Wu","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 047: Black Lives Matter, <a href=\"https://docs.google.com/document/d/1BRlF2_zhNe86SGgHa6-VlBO-QgirITwCTugSfKie5Fs/preview?pru=AAABcnX07hc%2APm8gUUGqTq4TxCwAWKNadg&fbclid=IwAR0y2_zK_2nsTviltzZr9ILXJRHa2xxj4xO0zALLye3pAB7HmOOoyfNQ1S8\" rel=\"nofollow\">How to be Anti-Racist</a>, How to Talk to Your Kids about BLM</h2>\n\n<h3>00:20 Black Lives Matter Movement</h3>\n\n<h3>02:00 How NOT to raise racist kids</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Allison and Kwu both have young kids, so conversations are slightly different</li>\n<li>Gender inequality talks</li>\n<li>Explaining to kids how and why people are treated differently in different areas</li>\n<li>Changing the language in the house: racism, violence, hate</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>07:50 Exposing pictures, graphics and videos to your children, no matter the age. What&#39;s appropriate?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Protesters getting arrested</li>\n<li>Bail rates vary depending on race</li>\n<li>Children are very intuitive and understand more than we think</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>11:30 How to talk to young kids about BLM</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Bi-racial and how they are often judged by their outer appearance</li>\n<li>Comfortability amongst couples and how to lean into these conversations with their children</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>17:40 Rallies, protests and how to support</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Different forms of support during BLM</li>\n<li>COVID is still relevant </li>\n<li>Amplifying POC voices</li>\n<li>Daily threads on educational resources, city statuses, anti-racism resources, action items</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>25:10 How can we make our world better together</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Opening the conversation about anti-racism with friends, family, community members</li>\n<li>Focusing on the growth of our children to be anti-racist</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>28:45 Genius / Fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Allison’s son struggles with life after the virus as he starts to jump on their nerves from a relaxed approach at the beginning of quarantine #fail</li>\n<li>KWu focuses on finding a chinese immersion school for her son but it he jumps into the wrong level and doesn’t understand much and is a bit of a mess from lunch right before #fail</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>RESOURCES: BLM and how to talk to you kids about racism</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://docs.google.com/document/d/1BRlF2_zhNe86SGgHa6-VlBO-QgirITwCTugSfKie5Fs/preview?pru=AAABcnX07hc%2APm8gUUGqTq4TxCwAWKNadg&fbclid=IwAR0y2_zK_2nsTviltzZr9ILXJRHa2xxj4xO0zALLye3pAB7HmOOoyfNQ1S8\" rel=\"nofollow\">Anti-Racism Resources</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://blmweekd65.weebly.com/for-families.html\" rel=\"nofollow\">Black Lives Matter for Families</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://www.embracerace.org/resources/webinars\" rel=\"nofollow\">Webinars for Anti-Racism</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://www.wokekindergarten.org/\" rel=\"nofollow\">WOKE Kindergarten</a> <br>\n<a href=\"https://www.prettygooddesign.org/blog/Blog%20Post%20Title%20One-5new4?fbclid=IwAR1erPdRJlJ9BI2y63RXb0Htks9lIsYJ-6m016SlmTgt1Rk-fYprp1_sE44\" rel=\"nofollow\">How to Talk to Your Kids About Racism</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://www.slj.com/?detailStory=great-books-social-justice-middle-grade\" rel=\"nofollow\">Books on Social Justice for Young Readers</a><br>\n<a href=\"http://www.raceconscious.org/workshops-and-consultations/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Raising Race Conscious Children</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://nmaahc.si.edu/about/news/national-museum-african-american-history-and-culture-releases-talking-about-race-web\" rel=\"nofollow\">Talking About Race: The Smithsonian’s National Museum of African American History and Culture</a></p>\n\n<h3>BOOKS: These are books that we found to be helpful in unlearning old beliefs and learning more about modern day racism.</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://amzn.to/32YHG2u\" rel=\"nofollow\">A Kids Book About Racism</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://amzn.to/3g88dxT\" rel=\"nofollow\">So You Want To Talk About Race</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://amzn.to/3f88MXl\" rel=\"nofollow\">How to Be an Antiracist</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://amzn.to/3hH30O7\" rel=\"nofollow\">The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://amzn.to/39F1MQv\" rel=\"nofollow\">White Fragility: Why It&#39;s So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism</a></p>\n\n<h3>How can I support the podcast?</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community!</p>\n\n<p>*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">Katherin Wu</a></p>","summary":"KWu and Allison sit down to talk about the current worldwide movement: Black Lives Matter. Breaking down BLM movement with young kids, how we can best talk to our kids about being anti-racist, and an alley for POC. ","date_published":"2020-06-24T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/11ddb4ef-ab1f-440c-b990-2f7d11c077c2.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":26379003,"duration_in_seconds":2411}]},{"id":"1ea355ac-e364-462e-9936-cea43acc7c99","title":"046: Paternity Leave + Dad Talk","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/mike-mcquaid","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 046: Mike McQuaid on paternity leave, Balancing Dad Podcast, and raising kids in different countries.\n\n03:08 Welcome Mike McQuaid!\n\nMike McQuaid is a father of two and lives and works in Edinburgh, Scotland. He is a senior engineer at Github where he’s worked for the last six years. In his free time, Mike is the package leader for the Homebrew package manager. He also likes going to the gym, walking his dog and hosting the Balancing Dad Podcast for working fathers. \n\n03:40 Paternity leave\n\n\nSplit time paternity leave (aka, you can break up your paid leave) \nUtilizing quarantine time to potty train\n\n\n07:52 Mike on Balancing Dad Podcast\n\n\nGender roles can creep in easily during transitioning into new parents\nWomen are asked more, “how do you do it all,” but men are not.. \nAllison shares how society pushes relationships to not be equal\n\n\n15:35 Mike shares a better future is possible!\n\n\nListing both parents on kids forms, or switching who is listed as primary contact. \n\n\n18:32 What has Mike learned for hosting Balancing Dad Podcast?\n\n\nNo matter the country, finances, age, relationship, all parents share a universal bond at the foundation\n\n\n20:18 Culture difference with raising kids in different countries\n\n\nMaternity and paternity leave\nHealthcare\nLanguage/slang\nDiaper vs. nappies\nScotland is very friendly to kids\nDifferent ways of being a parent and share with other parents\n\n\n27:30 Worldly talks with our kids\n\n\nTraveling around the world with kids\nDiscussing computer friends from around the world helps expanding cultural knowledge\nRemote work flexibility and setting boundaries with work\n\n\n31:20 How does Mike manage all he does?!\n\n\nFirm boundaries\nNo work or open source emails on his phone\nWork days are carved out and scheduled for certain things\nSetting expectations for certain projects \nMaking things good enough, not perfect\n\n\n32:20 Genius / Fail moments\n\n\nChris was in a bit of a hurry with his son in the car and he picked up Chris getting agitated with other drivers and kept repeating “move cars, stop going so slow”. #fail\nAllison rocks a #genius with her son Devin and showcases his “Devin’s agreements” above the fireplace\nMike slowly becomes frustrated with his younger son, while his older one sits and waits for a fork to eat, only to have him notice way after the fact... #fail \nMike uses the phrase “just this once” and realizes that it will never be just this once ;)\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nAllison McMillan\nChris ArcandSpecial Guest: Mike McQuaid.Sponsored By:The Preschool Box: Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!\r\nThe Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!\r\n\r\nEach month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. 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This is why we are Parent Driven Development love Nurture Life. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for babies starting at 10 months old, toddlers, kids, and teens, delivered fresh right to your door. Meals are designed to meet the nutrient and portion needs for each age group, and are developed by Nurture Life’s registered dietitians and chefs. \r\n\r\n\r\nMeals are focused on organic produce, antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, and offer a FULL serving of veggies in every meal. Nurture Life has recently launched new and exciting meals, such as the Chicken, sweet potato, &amp; waffle finger food for babies and the Butter Chicken with Peas, Rice, &amp; Mini Naan for toddlers, kids, &amp; Teens. In addition to these new offerings, there will also be additional meals that will be available on the menu for a limited time period to continue to provide innovative, flavorful and unique meals options for families. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life easy subscription model allows you to sign up for weekly deliveries, skip weeks, or pause your subscription whenever you want. You can build your own box to select the right mix of meals for your family by age group, dietary restrictions, and allergies. \r\n\r\n\r\nGet the best meals for your kids and family delivered right to your door—available for every zip code across the contiguous United States. Get 30% off your first TWO Nurture Life orders with code PARENTDRIVEN30. \r\n\r\nVisit nurturelife.com to redeem and find a moment of relief when it comes to meal time. Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN30","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 046: Mike McQuaid on paternity leave, Balancing Dad Podcast, and raising kids in different countries.</h2>\n\n<h3>03:08 Welcome <a href=\"https://twitter.com/MikeMcQuaid\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mike McQuaid</a>!</h3>\n\n<p>Mike McQuaid is a father of two and lives and works in Edinburgh, Scotland. He is a senior engineer at Github where he’s worked for the last six years. In his free time, Mike is the package leader for the <a href=\"https://brew.sh/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Homebrew</a> package manager. He also likes going to the gym, walking his dog and hosting the <a href=\"https://balancingdads.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Balancing Dad Podcast</a> for working fathers. </p>\n\n<h3>03:40 Paternity leave</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Split time paternity leave (aka, you can break up your paid leave) </li>\n<li>Utilizing quarantine time to potty train</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>07:52 Mike on <a href=\"https://balancingdads.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Balancing Dad Podcast</a></h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Gender roles can creep in easily during transitioning into new parents</li>\n<li>Women are asked more, “how do you do it all,” but men are not.. </li>\n<li>Allison shares how society pushes relationships to <em>not</em> be equal</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>15:35 Mike shares a better future is possible!</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Listing both parents on kids forms, or switching who is listed as primary contact. </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>18:32 What has Mike learned for hosting Balancing Dad Podcast?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>No matter the country, finances, age, relationship, all parents share a universal bond at the foundation</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>20:18 Culture difference with raising kids in different countries</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Maternity and paternity leave</li>\n<li>Healthcare</li>\n<li>Language/slang</li>\n<li>Diaper vs. nappies</li>\n<li>Scotland is very friendly to kids</li>\n<li>Different ways of being a parent and share with other parents</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>27:30 Worldly talks with our kids</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Traveling around the world with kids</li>\n<li>Discussing computer friends from around the world helps expanding cultural knowledge</li>\n<li>Remote work flexibility and setting boundaries with work</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>31:20 How does Mike manage all he does?!</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Firm boundaries</li>\n<li>No work or open source emails on his phone</li>\n<li>Work days are carved out and scheduled for certain things</li>\n<li>Setting expectations for certain projects </li>\n<li>Making things good enough, not perfect</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>32:20 Genius / Fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Chris was in a bit of a hurry with his son in the car and he picked up Chris getting agitated with other drivers and kept repeating “move cars, stop going so slow”. #fail</li>\n<li>Allison rocks a #genius with her son Devin and showcases his “Devin’s agreements” above the fireplace</li>\n<li>Mike slowly becomes frustrated with his younger son, while his older one sits and waits for a fork to eat, only to have him notice way after the fact... #fail </li>\n<li>Mike uses the phrase “just this once” and realizes that it will never be just this once ;)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/chrisarcand\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Arcand</a></p><p>Special Guest: Mike McQuaid.</p><p>Sponsored By:</p><ul><li><a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/\">The Preschool Box</a>: <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/\">Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!\r\nThe Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!\r\n\r\nEach month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!\r\n\r\nThese monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!\r\n\r\nAnd the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on!\r\nThe work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!\r\n\r\nLet The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together!\r\nHead over right now to:\r\nthepreschoolbox.com\r\nand use code &quot;PARENTDRIVEN&quot; to get $5 off your first preschool box!</a> Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN</li><li><a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.nurturelife.com/?utm_source=instagram&amp;utm_medium=social_paid&amp;utm_campaign=conversion&amp;utm_content=influencer_parentdrivendevelopment-20200326&amp;pc=PARENTDRIVEN\">Nurture Life</a>: <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.nurturelife.com/?utm_source=instagram&amp;utm_medium=social_paid&amp;utm_campaign=conversion&amp;utm_content=influencer_parentdrivendevelopment-20200326&amp;pc=PARENTDRIVEN\">Parents everywhere are going through so much stress and uncertainty right now. It’s hard to find sources of relief nowadays. This is why we are Parent Driven Development love Nurture Life. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for babies starting at 10 months old, toddlers, kids, and teens, delivered fresh right to your door. Meals are designed to meet the nutrient and portion needs for each age group, and are developed by Nurture Life’s registered dietitians and chefs. \r\n\r\n\r\nMeals are focused on organic produce, antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, and offer a FULL serving of veggies in every meal. Nurture Life has recently launched new and exciting meals, such as the Chicken, sweet potato, &amp; waffle finger food for babies and the Butter Chicken with Peas, Rice, &amp; Mini Naan for toddlers, kids, &amp; Teens. In addition to these new offerings, there will also be additional meals that will be available on the menu for a limited time period to continue to provide innovative, flavorful and unique meals options for families. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life easy subscription model allows you to sign up for weekly deliveries, skip weeks, or pause your subscription whenever you want. You can build your own box to select the right mix of meals for your family by age group, dietary restrictions, and allergies. \r\n\r\n\r\nGet the best meals for your kids and family delivered right to your door—available for every zip code across the contiguous United States. Get 30% off your first TWO Nurture Life orders with code PARENTDRIVEN30. \r\n\r\nVisit nurturelife.com to redeem and find a moment of relief when it comes to meal time.</a> Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN30</li></ul>","summary":"Chris and Allison are joined by Mike McQuaid discussing paternity leave, Balancing Dad Podcast, and what it's like raising kids in different countries. Unsurprisingly, there are more difference in the UK verse the US than just calling a diaper \"nappie\".","date_published":"2020-06-10T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/1ea355ac-e364-462e-9936-cea43acc7c99.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":34677641,"duration_in_seconds":2930}]},{"id":"654c24af-1943-4341-a4c6-f034211edf11","title":"045: Miriam Tocino: Zerus and Ona","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/zerus-and-ona","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 045: Miriam Tocino - Zerus and Ona\n\n01:56 Welcome Miriam!\n\nZerus &amp; Ona were born from Miriam's own circumstances as a mom. By the time she had her baby, Miriam was the coordinator and teacher of a Development Bootcamp in Amsterdam. So, when the time came to go back to work (her son was 3 months old), she jumped back. After some weeks in the job, Miriam realised she couldn't do it. She was constantly sleep deprived and with no help around from family (we're expats). Miriam quit her job and stayed at home with her baby. She then started to use his naps to draw and write Zerus &amp; Ona.\n\n**FREE PDF from Zerus and Ona on the ABCs of Computers\n\n03:29 Orgins of Zerus and Ona\n\n\nMiriam was leading tech bootcamps, then got pregnant\nHer baby was more work than expected ;) \nMiriam returns to work, but quit after a few weeks after returning\nSleep deprived evenings inspired new ideas!\n\n\n08:40 Finding more intention as a new mom\n\n\nThriving through a creative outlet\nCraving more information for her child in the future, specifically around TECH\nMotherhood and creativity are interconnected \n2 year journey to build Zerus and Ona\n\n\n15:05 Switching from architecture to tech to creative children’s books\n\n\nBinge learning and career switching\nNo regrets\n\n\n19:05 Zerus and Ona “bits”\n\n\nBreaking down complex topics to make them easily understandable\nMiriam switches from thinking with her head, to listening with her heart.\nUnlocking creativity through The Artist's Way\nIntuitive writing, journaling and play!\n\n\n28:15 Zerus and Ona 2.0\n\n\nEvolution of creating the books\nIf you’re thinking of making a move, do it!\nLearning to move on from perfectionism\n\n\n32:20 Genius / Fail moments\n\n\nMiriam allows her son a device while she finishes a project (unheard of in her house), only to discover all her original drawings of Zerus and Ona are GONE afterwards. #fail\nAllison’s son acts out more than usual during a super busy week for the family and realizes that maybe their communication could have been clearer with him from the start #fail\nChris commits to structuring a new art piece with his daughter by watching YouTube videos. He ends up paying someone else, but instills a solid mindset in his daughter during the process #genius\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nGet your own copy of Zerus and Ona\n\n*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.\n\nPanel\n\nAllison McMillan\nChris SextonSpecial Guest: Miriam Tocino.Sponsored By:The Preschool Box: Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!\r\nThe Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!\r\n\r\nEach month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!\r\n\r\nThese monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!\r\n\r\nAnd the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on!\r\nThe work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!\r\n\r\nLet The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together!\r\nHead over right now to:\r\nthepreschoolbox.com\r\nand use code \"PARENTDRIVEN\" to get $5 off your first preschool box! Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 045: Miriam Tocino - <a href=\"https://amzn.to/32YJZma\" rel=\"nofollow\">Zerus and Ona</a></h2>\n\n<h3>01:56 Welcome <a href=\"https://twitter.com/miriamtocino\" rel=\"nofollow\">Miriam</a>!</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://amzn.to/32YJZma\" rel=\"nofollow\">Zerus &amp; Ona</a> were born from Miriam&#39;s own circumstances as a mom. By the time she had her baby, Miriam was the coordinator and teacher of a Development Bootcamp in Amsterdam. So, when the time came to go back to work (her son was 3 months old), she jumped back. After some weeks in the job, Miriam realised she couldn&#39;t do it. She was constantly sleep deprived and with no help around from family (we&#39;re expats). Miriam quit her job and stayed at home with her baby. She then started to use his naps to draw and write <a href=\"https://amzn.to/32YJZma\" rel=\"nofollow\">Zerus &amp; Ona</a>.</p>\n\n<p>**<a href=\"https://zerusandona.com/parentdriven\" rel=\"nofollow\">FREE PDF from Zerus and Ona on the ABCs of Computers</a></p>\n\n<h3>03:29 Orgins of <a href=\"https://amzn.to/32YJZma\" rel=\"nofollow\">Zerus and Ona</a></h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Miriam was leading tech bootcamps, then got pregnant</li>\n<li>Her baby was more work than expected ;) </li>\n<li>Miriam returns to work, but quit after a few weeks after returning</li>\n<li>Sleep deprived evenings inspired new ideas!</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>08:40 Finding more intention as a new mom</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Thriving through a creative outlet</li>\n<li>Craving more information for her child in the future, specifically around TECH</li>\n<li>Motherhood and creativity are interconnected </li>\n<li>2 year journey to build Zerus and Ona</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>15:05 Switching from architecture to tech to creative children’s books</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Binge learning and career switching</li>\n<li>No regrets</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>19:05 Zerus and Ona “bits”</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Breaking down complex topics to make them easily understandable</li>\n<li>Miriam switches from thinking with her head, to listening with her heart.</li>\n<li>Unlocking creativity through <a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/Artists-Way-25th-Anniversary/dp/0143129252\" rel=\"nofollow\">The Artist&#39;s Way</a></li>\n<li>Intuitive writing, journaling and play!</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>28:15 Zerus and Ona 2.0</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Evolution of creating the books</li>\n<li>If you’re thinking of making a move, do it!</li>\n<li>Learning to move on from perfectionism</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>32:20 Genius / Fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Miriam allows her son a device while she finishes a project (unheard of in her house), only to discover all her original drawings of Zerus and Ona are GONE afterwards. #fail</li>\n<li>Allison’s son acts out more than usual during a super busy week for the family and realizes that maybe their communication could have been clearer with him from the start #fail</li>\n<li>Chris commits to structuring a new art piece with his daughter by watching YouTube videos. He ends up paying someone else, but instills a solid mindset in his daughter during the process #genius</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Get your own copy of <a href=\"https://amzn.to/32YJZma\" rel=\"nofollow\">Zerus and Ona</a></h3>\n\n<p>*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a></p><p>Special Guest: Miriam Tocino.</p><p>Sponsored By:</p><ul><li><a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/\">The Preschool Box</a>: <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.thepreschoolbox.com/\">Hey parents, whether you are going back to school or learning from home, the Preschool Box is here to help!\r\nThe Preschool Box is all about helping children unlock their potential by making learning FUN!\r\n\r\nEach month, The Preschool Box will send you a box packed full of engaging and educational activities with a focus on reading and math skills that will prepare your little one for success in school. It’s AMAZING!\r\n\r\nThese monthly “work at your own pace” activities encourage learning, reading, and creativity in kiddos ages 3-6 and each box has an array of hands on activities, crafts, and worksheets -- which you can structure to match your child’s pace and level of development!\r\n\r\nAnd the best part is that every box has a set of focus skills so each month you get new and exciting material to work on!\r\nThe work you do at home NOW with your kids is SO important for their future!\r\n\r\nLet The Preschool Box help you and your child have fun learning together!\r\nHead over right now to:\r\nthepreschoolbox.com\r\nand use code &quot;PARENTDRIVEN&quot; to get $5 off your first preschool box!</a> Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN</li></ul>","summary":"Allison and Chris are joined by Miriam Tocino, a former architect turned teacher and coder, new mom, and creator of Zerus and Ona, a children's book that explains the difficult topics of the binary world. ","date_published":"2020-05-27T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/654c24af-1943-4341-a4c6-f034211edf11.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":27181283,"duration_in_seconds":2592}]},{"id":"0dd216fb-dd1d-45dd-8b31-a8a4570d829f","title":"044: Recipe Swap","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/recipe-swap","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 043: Recipe Swap\n\n01:15 Welcome!\n\n02:04 Feeding kids is a full time job\n\n\nWhat are your meal time rules?\nHome delivery meal service\nPersonal chef for the kids?? No…\nMeal time is meal time, and if the kids don’t eat, tough nuggets.\n\n\n08:59 Dinner table time\n\n\nPhone vs no phone?\nAre you a fast eater or slow eater?\nTime to share conversations with the family\nLimiting or monitoring the amount of food for kids, do you do this? Sometimes the doctors have given us parents too much to mull over...\n\n\n13:12 Food as restriction or reward?\n\n\nDessert time - it’s a thing that is to be enjoyed\nKeto desserts… YUM Quest cookie obsessed \nKeto cake\nChocolate chip cookies\n\n\n19:25 Cook at home vs. ordering out\n\n\nMeal prepping during the weekend to prepare for the week. This makes it quicker and easier. Less work too ;) \nNo meat preschools - managing meals around kids school food programs.\nTherapeutic time in the kitchen\nLeftovers are best and easiest!\nEver hear of module dinner architecture? KWu and her family utilize this magic.\nMeal deliveries for the win - Home Chef, Green Chef, Nurture Life\nKeto 101: Simply Keto: A Practical Approach to Health &amp; Weight Loss, with 100+ Easy Low-Carb Recipes \nKosher household\n\n\n27:05 Household hacks\n\n\nBreakfast for dinner on Friday nights. What’s your favorite??\nKids Eat in Color - tips on how to present food to your kids\nSecrets of Feeding a Healthy Family: How to Eat, How to Raise Good Eaters, How to Cook, by Ellyn Satter\nSmitten Kitchen \nMaximizing on slow cookers // insta pots - our favorites :)\nCook’s Illustrated - for stews, slow cookers, and more!\nMirepoix\nParenting trade off -  you can choose cooking or the kids\n\n\n40:18  Making the kitchen as your sanctuary\n\n\nFootball season - perfectly steamed shrimp and cheese boards for the win\nDinner time is a celebration!\nBringing coding into meal prepping ;)\nHow to manage the recipe system. Hands-free Vertical Recipe Flipper OR Classic Juvale Wood Recipe Organization Box \n\n\n45:40 Genius / Fail moments\n\n\nMandy has an awesome win when she hears her daughter is totally comfortable with her, including asking her sex-ed questions. You too for older girls  #genius \nAllison’s son chose to wear a bowtie for picture day and it turned out way better than expected! #genius \nKWu bakes it up with her toddler that he helped make! #genius and delicious muffins for the win.\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\n*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.\n\nPanel\n\nAllison McMillan\nMandy Moore\nKWuSponsored By:Nurture Life: Parents everywhere are going through so much stress and uncertainty right now. It’s hard to find sources of relief nowadays. This is why we are Parent Driven Development love Nurture Life. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for babies starting at 10 months old, toddlers, kids, and teens, delivered fresh right to your door. Meals are designed to meet the nutrient and portion needs for each age group, and are developed by Nurture Life’s registered dietitians and chefs. \r\n\r\n\r\nMeals are focused on organic produce, antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, and offer a FULL serving of veggies in every meal. Nurture Life has recently launched new and exciting meals, such as the Chicken, sweet potato, &amp; waffle finger food for babies and the Butter Chicken with Peas, Rice, &amp; Mini Naan for toddlers, kids, &amp; Teens. In addition to these new offerings, there will also be additional meals that will be available on the menu for a limited time period to continue to provide innovative, flavorful and unique meals options for families. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life easy subscription model allows you to sign up for weekly deliveries, skip weeks, or pause your subscription whenever you want. You can build your own box to select the right mix of meals for your family by age group, dietary restrictions, and allergies. \r\n\r\n\r\nGet the best meals for your kids and family delivered right to your door—available for every zip code across the contiguous United States. Get 30% off your first TWO Nurture Life orders with code PARENTDRIVEN30. \r\n\r\nVisit nurturelife.com to redeem and find a moment of relief when it comes to meal time. Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN30","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 043: Recipe Swap</h2>\n\n<h3>01:15 Welcome!</h3>\n\n<h3>02:04 Feeding kids is a full time job</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>What are your meal time rules?</li>\n<li>Home delivery meal service</li>\n<li>Personal chef for the kids?? No…</li>\n<li>Meal time is meal time, and if the kids don’t eat, tough nuggets.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>08:59 Dinner table time</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Phone vs no phone?</li>\n<li>Are you a fast eater or slow eater?</li>\n<li>Time to share conversations with the family</li>\n<li>Limiting or monitoring the amount of food for kids, do you do this? Sometimes the doctors have given us parents too much to mull over...</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>13:12 Food as restriction or reward?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Dessert time - it’s a thing that is to be enjoyed</li>\n<li>Keto desserts… YUM <a href=\"https://amzn.to/3jRlmxy\" rel=\"nofollow\">Quest cookie obsessed</a> </li>\n<li><a href=\"https://chocolatecoveredkatie.com/2019/09/08/keto-cake-recipe/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Keto cake</a></li>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.fatforweightloss.com.au/keto-chocolate-chip-cookies/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chocolate chip cookies</a></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>19:25 Cook at home vs. ordering out</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Meal prepping during the weekend to prepare for the week. This makes it quicker and easier. Less work too ;) </li>\n<li>No meat preschools - managing meals around kids school food programs.</li>\n<li>Therapeutic time in the kitchen</li>\n<li>Leftovers are best and easiest!</li>\n<li>Ever hear of module dinner architecture? KWu and her family utilize this magic.</li>\n<li>Meal deliveries for the win - <a href=\"https://www.homechef.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Home Chef</a>, <a href=\"https://greenchef.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Green Chef</a>, <a href=\"https://nurture.life/parentdrivendevelopment\" rel=\"nofollow\">Nurture Life</a></li>\n<li>Keto 101: <a href=\"https://amzn.to/3f90puL\" rel=\"nofollow\">Simply Keto: A Practical Approach to Health &amp; Weight Loss, with 100+ Easy Low-Carb Recipes</a> </li>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/what-is-kosher\" rel=\"nofollow\">Kosher</a> household</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>27:05 Household hacks</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.delish.com/cooking/g1636/breakfast-for-dinner/?slide=3\" rel=\"nofollow\">Breakfast for dinner</a> on Friday nights. What’s your favorite??</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://kidseatincolor.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Kids Eat in Color </a>- tips on how to present food to your kids</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://amzn.to/3jP5bB2\" rel=\"nofollow\">Secrets of Feeding a Healthy Family: How to Eat, How to Raise Good Eaters, How to Cook, by Ellyn Satter</a></li>\n<li><a href=\"https://smittenkitchen.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Smitten Kitchen</a> </li>\n<li>Maximizing on slow cookers // <a href=\"https://amzn.to/3f8ZQ47\" rel=\"nofollow\">insta pots</a> - our favorites :)</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://amzn.to/2X1KCY7\" rel=\"nofollow\">Cook’s Illustrated</a> - for stews, slow cookers, and more!</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://amzn.to/3jM3fJv\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mirepoix</a></li>\n<li>Parenting trade off -  you can choose cooking or the kids</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>40:18  Making the kitchen as your sanctuary</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Football season - perfectly <a href=\"https://www.mccormick.com/old-bay/recipes/appetizer/old-bay-steamed-shrimp-with-cocktail-sauce\" rel=\"nofollow\">steamed shrimp</a> and cheese boards for the win</li>\n<li>Dinner time is a celebration!</li>\n<li>Bringing coding into meal prepping ;)</li>\n<li>How to manage the recipe system. <a href=\"https://amzn.to/3gkrkEY\" rel=\"nofollow\">Hands-free Vertical Recipe Flipper</a> OR Classic <a href=\"https://amzn.to/3hHxEH2\" rel=\"nofollow\">Juvale Wood Recipe Organization Box</a> </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>45:40 Genius / Fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Mandy has an awesome win when she hears her daughter is totally comfortable with her, including asking her sex-ed questions. <a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/Care-Keeping-You-Older-Girls/dp/1609580427\" rel=\"nofollow\">You too for older girls</a>  #genius </li>\n<li>Allison’s son chose to wear a bowtie for picture day and it turned out way better than expected! #genius </li>\n<li>KWu bakes it up with her toddler that he helped make! #genius and delicious muffins for the win.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<p>*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/therubyrep\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mandy Moore</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a></p><p>Sponsored By:</p><ul><li><a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.nurturelife.com/?utm_source=instagram&amp;utm_medium=social_paid&amp;utm_campaign=conversion&amp;utm_content=influencer_parentdrivendevelopment-20200326&amp;pc=PARENTDRIVEN\">Nurture Life</a>: <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.nurturelife.com/?utm_source=instagram&amp;utm_medium=social_paid&amp;utm_campaign=conversion&amp;utm_content=influencer_parentdrivendevelopment-20200326&amp;pc=PARENTDRIVEN\">Parents everywhere are going through so much stress and uncertainty right now. It’s hard to find sources of relief nowadays. This is why we are Parent Driven Development love Nurture Life. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for babies starting at 10 months old, toddlers, kids, and teens, delivered fresh right to your door. Meals are designed to meet the nutrient and portion needs for each age group, and are developed by Nurture Life’s registered dietitians and chefs. \r\n\r\n\r\nMeals are focused on organic produce, antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, and offer a FULL serving of veggies in every meal. Nurture Life has recently launched new and exciting meals, such as the Chicken, sweet potato, &amp; waffle finger food for babies and the Butter Chicken with Peas, Rice, &amp; Mini Naan for toddlers, kids, &amp; Teens. In addition to these new offerings, there will also be additional meals that will be available on the menu for a limited time period to continue to provide innovative, flavorful and unique meals options for families. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life easy subscription model allows you to sign up for weekly deliveries, skip weeks, or pause your subscription whenever you want. You can build your own box to select the right mix of meals for your family by age group, dietary restrictions, and allergies. \r\n\r\n\r\nGet the best meals for your kids and family delivered right to your door—available for every zip code across the contiguous United States. Get 30% off your first TWO Nurture Life orders with code PARENTDRIVEN30. \r\n\r\nVisit nurturelife.com to redeem and find a moment of relief when it comes to meal time.</a> Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN30</li></ul>","summary":"Allison, Mandy and KWu trade kitchen hacks, recipe tips, favorite meal delivery service, and the incomparable responsibility of feeding and nourishing our kids! Tune in for tips, tricks and total mom realities. ","date_published":"2020-05-13T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/0dd216fb-dd1d-45dd-8b31-a8a4570d829f.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":33188056,"duration_in_seconds":3126}]},{"id":"ce001b94-f3b5-44c8-af14-3dd5120d5278","title":"043: Managing Parents on Your Team","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/managing-parents","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 043: Pressure and Considerations Around Leaving a Job for Ethical Reasons.\n\nWelcome, Nick Means!\nNickolas Means loves nothing more than a story of engineering triumph (except maybe a story of engineering disaster). When he's not stuck in a Wikipedia loop reading about plane crashes, he spends his days as a Senior Engineering Manager at GitHub working on Security and Compliance tooling for our users. He's also a co-host of the Managing Up podcast, a show about leading and managing in the world of technology. He works remotely from Austin, TX, and spends most of his spare time hanging out with his wife and kids, going for runs, or trying to brew the perfect cup of coffee.\n\n01:54 How do you approach management with parents on your team?\n\n\nTreating your team as you would want to be treated as a parent\nSetting examples to your team as a manager\nEvaluate the job performance on the work actually done, and not clock a few hours taken off for kid responsibilities\nFlexibility and trust in team members and manager \n\n\n07:12 Work life balance and work life integration\n\n\nWork sometimes becomes an escape from parenting life\nSelf care for parents! No kids included, you need you\n\n\n11:35 How do you encourage your team members to take time for themselves\n\n\nAsk the right questions to figure out what will fill their cup?\nAs a manager, you’re more aware of the state of your team members and can identify things quicker\nApplaud team members when you see them take the effort for PTO\n\n\n17:18 When you’re the only parent on the team.. How to make others understand\n\n\nSpeak with kindness, set boundaries, have trust\nTime zone issues\nSetting boundaries with your team members \nHow to structure workflow with team members in different zones\n\n\n26:20 Managers making it explicit that it is OK to be done when you leave your workstation\n\n28:02 Managing for non-remote teams\n\n\nInflexibility when have to go into office\nComplexity for parents when they are totally out of the convo when working in an office\n\n\n31:40 Moms vs. Dads double standard\n\n\nPutting family time on calendar \nSingle parenting, the lack of help\n\n\n33:40 How can managers support parental leave\n\n\nEncouraging more time for first time parents \nThe job to support parents starts when they decide to have kids, not just during the leave\nTwins\n\n\n37:50 Genius // fail\n\n\nChris Sexton, how do you spell drop? #fail \nJosh had the sex talk…. but bombed on the timing with his daughter #geniusfail\nAllison has a nice turkey day with kids and neighbors, building her more positive memories! #genius\nChris Arcand makes his nanny wait on her scheduled time off #fail\nMandy gets a puppy… and it's a beautiful new experiences to share with her daughter \nNick and his wife forget about homework… his son gets it done, but they all struggle the next day #fail\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nAllison McMillan\nChris Arcand\nJosh Puetz\nMandy Moore\nChris SextonSpecial Guest: Nick Means.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 043: Pressure and Considerations Around Leaving a Job for Ethical Reasons.</h2>\n\n<p>Welcome, <a href=\"https://twitter.com/nmeans\" rel=\"nofollow\">Nick Means</a>!<br>\nNickolas Means loves nothing more than a story of engineering triumph (except maybe a story of engineering disaster). When he&#39;s not stuck in a Wikipedia loop reading about plane crashes, he spends his days as a Senior Engineering Manager at GitHub working on Security and Compliance tooling for our users. He&#39;s also a co-host of the Managing Up podcast, a show about leading and managing in the world of technology. He works remotely from Austin, TX, and spends most of his spare time hanging out with his wife and kids, going for runs, or trying to brew the perfect cup of coffee.</p>\n\n<h3>01:54 How do you approach management with parents on your team?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Treating your team as you would want to be treated as a parent</li>\n<li>Setting examples to your team as a manager</li>\n<li>Evaluate the job performance on the work actually done, and not clock a few hours taken off for kid responsibilities</li>\n<li>Flexibility and trust in team members and manager </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>07:12 Work life balance and work life integration</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Work sometimes becomes an escape from parenting life</li>\n<li>Self care for parents! No kids included, you need you</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>11:35 How do you encourage your team members to take time for themselves</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Ask the right questions to figure out what will fill their cup?</li>\n<li>As a manager, you’re more aware of the state of your team members and can identify things quicker</li>\n<li>Applaud team members when you see them take the effort for PTO</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>17:18 When you’re the only parent on the team.. How to make others understand</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Speak with kindness, set boundaries, have trust</li>\n<li>Time zone issues</li>\n<li>Setting boundaries with your team members </li>\n<li>How to structure workflow with team members in different zones</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>26:20 Managers making it explicit that it is OK to be done when you leave your workstation</h3>\n\n<h3>28:02 Managing for non-remote teams</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Inflexibility when have to go into office</li>\n<li>Complexity for parents when they are totally out of the convo when working in an office</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>31:40 Moms vs. Dads double standard</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Putting family time on calendar </li>\n<li>Single parenting, the lack of help</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>33:40 How can managers support parental leave</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Encouraging more time for first time parents </li>\n<li>The job to support parents starts when they decide to have kids, not just during the leave</li>\n<li>Twins</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>37:50 Genius // fail</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Chris Sexton, how do you spell drop? #fail </li>\n<li>Josh had the sex talk…. but bombed on the timing with his daughter #geniusfail</li>\n<li>Allison has a nice turkey day with kids and neighbors, building her more positive memories! #genius</li>\n<li>Chris Arcand makes his nanny wait on her scheduled time off #fail</li>\n<li>Mandy gets a puppy… and it&#39;s a beautiful new experiences to share with her daughter </li>\n<li>Nick and his wife forget about homework… his son gets it done, but they all struggle the next day #fail</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/chrisarcand\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Arcand</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/therubyrep\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mandy Moore</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a></p><p>Special Guest: Nick Means.</p>","summary":"Today our panelists sit down with Nick Means to talk about strategies and experiences of managing parents on your team. Parent have unique needs as they care for little humans and some may not exactly know what those unique needs are, unless you too are a parent. We break down techniques and share experiences of what it's like managing parents in tech. ","date_published":"2020-04-29T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/ce001b94-f3b5-44c8-af14-3dd5120d5278.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":32797411,"duration_in_seconds":2907}]},{"id":"f9d1e5a8-cd0f-46b8-9715-6f51b91aa820","title":"042: Career Switching","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/career-switching","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 042: Career Switching and Learning to Code After Babies.\n\nWelcome, Bekah!\nA content-creator by nature. Bekah is working on websites, coding-related projects, and her blog, but she has also written three screenplays, three pilots, and is finishing up a memoir. Bekah is all about getting creative!\n\nA mom to four young kids (3-10), Bekah has spent the last ten years of her life adjuncting in various university English departments. She is practically doing a 180 learning to code, and is sharing her failures, successes, and everything that falls in between.\n\nBekah graduated from Flatiron School Software Engineering program, in May 2019. She been working at Sprokets as a frontend dev since July 1, 2019.\n\n01:15 Bekah’s journey in career switching\n\n\nTrauma after 4th kid\nHusband encouraged her to code, and it helped with her PTSD \nShe realized her passion and continued to tackled the challenges\nBekah was a teacher prior to coding\n\n\n02:40 Coding became therapeutic\n\n\nLearning a new skill requires intense focus, gave Bekah excitement and a break from past trauma, because coding required her FULL focus\nConstant learning with code\nFlow state when you sync into your work\nCode provides structure to balance a chaotic life with children\nOut of Africa &amp; Into the Cloud: Girls can Code too : coding inspiration \n\n\n06:28 How to get through the lows of learning to code?\n\n\nImposter syndrome\nSetting goals week-by-week, month-by-month, quarter-by-quarter \nEmbracing the learning curve\n\n\n11:23 How to manage coding and kids?\n\n\nCommunity and mentorship\nMomscan.co, online co-working, sharing experiences \nEmbracing natural flow, Bekah codes in the morning, because she’s a morning person\n\n\n16:08 Conquering difficult births and moving past trauma\n\n\nFinding a mentor with similar experiences\n\n\n17:51 Bringing coding methods into the house routine\n\n\nSunday ritual for planning for the week ahead\nBekah’s partner codes as well, built in mentor, and key communication\n\n\n23:10 Experience in women in tech community highlights\n\n\nBeing open and willing for meetups!\nAlex Tate - aligned interested to support moms in tech\nMoms need more support, especially with younger kids\nChildcare at meetups\n\n\n29:20 Any surprises of the moms in tech community?\n\n\nThe true vulnerability moms offer in support groups\n\n\n31:47 Genius // fail\n\n\nAdarsh hired a babysitter for the morning after his wife's birthday bash! #genius\nAllison empowers her son's creativity and gives him all the extra boxes and he makes rocketships and more! #genius \nMandy bonds with her daughter watching a classic favorite, Full House #genius\nBekah’s daughter wants to go to Harry Potter land, and is reading all the Harry Potter books to prove it! #genius ...but maybe #fail when Bekah’s daughter decides to cash in on a promise\nJC’s bird watching community is growing and growing! But his family lacks consistency to join… #fail \n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\n*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.\n\nPanel\n\nAllison McMillan\nAdarsh Pandit\nJC Avena\nMandy MooreSpecial Guest: Bekah Hawrot Weigel.Sponsored By:Nurture Life: Parents everywhere are going through so much stress and uncertainty right now. It’s hard to find sources of relief nowadays. This is why we are Parent Driven Development love Nurture Life. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for babies starting at 10 months old, toddlers, kids, and teens, delivered fresh right to your door. Meals are designed to meet the nutrient and portion needs for each age group, and are developed by Nurture Life’s registered dietitians and chefs. \r\n\r\n\r\nMeals are focused on organic produce, antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, and offer a FULL serving of veggies in every meal. Nurture Life has recently launched new and exciting meals, such as the Chicken, sweet potato, &amp; waffle finger food for babies and the Butter Chicken with Peas, Rice, &amp; Mini Naan for toddlers, kids, &amp; Teens. In addition to these new offerings, there will also be additional meals that will be available on the menu for a limited time period to continue to provide innovative, flavorful and unique meals options for families. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life easy subscription model allows you to sign up for weekly deliveries, skip weeks, or pause your subscription whenever you want. You can build your own box to select the right mix of meals for your family by age group, dietary restrictions, and allergies. \r\n\r\n\r\nGet the best meals for your kids and family delivered right to your door—available for every zip code across the contiguous United States. Get 30% off your first TWO Nurture Life orders with code PARENTDRIVEN30. \r\n\r\nVisit nurturelife.com to redeem and find a moment of relief when it comes to meal time. Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN30","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 042: Career Switching and Learning to Code After Babies.</h2>\n\n<p>Welcome, <a href=\"https://twitter.com/BekahHW\" rel=\"nofollow\">Bekah</a>!<br>\nA content-creator by nature. Bekah is working on websites, coding-related projects, and her blog, but she has also written three screenplays, three pilots, and is finishing up a memoir. Bekah is all about getting creative!</p>\n\n<p>A mom to four young kids (3-10), Bekah has spent the last ten years of her life adjuncting in various university English departments. She is practically doing a 180 learning to code, and is sharing her failures, successes, and everything that falls in between.</p>\n\n<p>Bekah graduated from Flatiron School Software Engineering program, in May 2019. She been working at Sprokets as a frontend dev since July 1, 2019.</p>\n\n<h3>01:15 Bekah’s journey in career switching</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Trauma after 4th kid</li>\n<li>Husband encouraged her to code, and it helped with her PTSD </li>\n<li>She realized her passion and continued to tackled the challenges</li>\n<li>Bekah was a teacher prior to coding</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>02:40 Coding became therapeutic</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Learning a new skill requires intense focus, gave Bekah excitement and a break from past trauma, because coding required her FULL focus</li>\n<li>Constant learning with code</li>\n<li>Flow state when you sync into your work</li>\n<li>Code provides structure to balance a chaotic life with children</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://amzn.to/2X6zLfD\" rel=\"nofollow\">Out of Africa &amp; Into the Cloud: Girls can Code too</a> : coding inspiration </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>06:28 How to get through the lows of learning to code?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Imposter syndrome</li>\n<li>Setting goals week-by-week, month-by-month, quarter-by-quarter </li>\n<li>Embracing the learning curve</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>11:23 How to manage coding and kids?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Community and mentorship</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.momscan.co/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Momscan.co</a>, online co-working, sharing experiences </li>\n<li>Embracing natural flow, Bekah codes in the morning, because she’s a morning person</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>16:08 Conquering difficult births and moving past trauma</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Finding a mentor with similar experiences</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>17:51 Bringing coding methods into the house routine</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Sunday ritual for planning for the week ahead</li>\n<li>Bekah’s partner codes as well, built in mentor, and key communication</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>23:10 Experience in women in tech community highlights</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Being open and willing for meetups!</li>\n<li>Alex Tate - aligned interested to support moms in tech</li>\n<li>Moms need more support, especially with younger kids</li>\n<li>Childcare at meetups</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>29:20 Any surprises of the moms in tech community?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>The true vulnerability moms offer in support groups</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>31:47 Genius // fail</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Adarsh hired a babysitter for the morning after his wife&#39;s birthday bash! #genius</li>\n<li>Allison empowers her son&#39;s creativity and gives him all the extra boxes and he makes rocketships and more! #genius </li>\n<li>Mandy bonds with her daughter watching a classic favorite, Full House #genius</li>\n<li>Bekah’s daughter wants to go to Harry Potter land, and is reading all the <a href=\"https://amzn.to/2X7e6UF\" rel=\"nofollow\">Harry Potter books</a> to prove it! #genius ...but maybe #fail when Bekah’s daughter decides to cash in on a promise</li>\n<li>JC’s bird watching community is growing and growing! But his family lacks consistency to join… #fail </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<p>*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/adarshp\" rel=\"nofollow\">Adarsh Pandit</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jcavena\" rel=\"nofollow\">JC Avena</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/therubyrep\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mandy Moore</a></p><p>Special Guest: Bekah Hawrot Weigel.</p><p>Sponsored By:</p><ul><li><a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.nurturelife.com/?utm_source=instagram&amp;utm_medium=social_paid&amp;utm_campaign=conversion&amp;utm_content=influencer_parentdrivendevelopment-20200326&amp;pc=PARENTDRIVEN\">Nurture Life</a>: <a rel=\"nofollow\" href=\"https://www.nurturelife.com/?utm_source=instagram&amp;utm_medium=social_paid&amp;utm_campaign=conversion&amp;utm_content=influencer_parentdrivendevelopment-20200326&amp;pc=PARENTDRIVEN\">Parents everywhere are going through so much stress and uncertainty right now. It’s hard to find sources of relief nowadays. This is why we are Parent Driven Development love Nurture Life. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life provides nutritious, ready-to-eat meals for babies starting at 10 months old, toddlers, kids, and teens, delivered fresh right to your door. Meals are designed to meet the nutrient and portion needs for each age group, and are developed by Nurture Life’s registered dietitians and chefs. \r\n\r\n\r\nMeals are focused on organic produce, antibiotic- and hormone-free proteins and whole grains, and offer a FULL serving of veggies in every meal. Nurture Life has recently launched new and exciting meals, such as the Chicken, sweet potato, &amp; waffle finger food for babies and the Butter Chicken with Peas, Rice, &amp; Mini Naan for toddlers, kids, &amp; Teens. In addition to these new offerings, there will also be additional meals that will be available on the menu for a limited time period to continue to provide innovative, flavorful and unique meals options for families. \r\n\r\n\r\nNurture Life easy subscription model allows you to sign up for weekly deliveries, skip weeks, or pause your subscription whenever you want. You can build your own box to select the right mix of meals for your family by age group, dietary restrictions, and allergies. \r\n\r\n\r\nGet the best meals for your kids and family delivered right to your door—available for every zip code across the contiguous United States. Get 30% off your first TWO Nurture Life orders with code PARENTDRIVEN30. \r\n\r\nVisit nurturelife.com to redeem and find a moment of relief when it comes to meal time.</a> Promo Code: PARENTDRIVEN30</li></ul>","summary":"Today we are joined by Bekah Hawrot Weigel! Bekah is a content-creator by nature whom has recently switched into the world of coding! We discuss her career switching process, what helped, what didn't, the massive role community played a part in her success, and how she managed it all with 4 young kids in the house! ","date_published":"2020-04-15T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/f9d1e5a8-cd0f-46b8-9715-6f51b91aa820.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":28916293,"duration_in_seconds":2523}]},{"id":"d6f794a6-b6b3-471c-b6c3-43ddb9b84349","title":"041: COVID-19","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/covid-19-update","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 041 : COVID-19\n\nIn today's episode we discuss what everyone is talking about, COVID-19. Yes, we talk about it. We're talking about the new normal, full time remote work, childcare - or the lack there of, how to communicate the situation to our children, and what this means for our world moving forward. Tune in!\n\n00:55 COVID-19 check in\n\n\n On a scale of freaking out vs totally chill… How many tweets are you reading?\nSelf quarantine pre plan\nChris has a dry run when his son catches the flu... *The actual flu. \n\n\n05:40 The new normal\n\n\nWill grocery stores shut down?\nLimit social outings \nSports, events, and all gatherings are being cancelled… more of an inconvenience\n\n\n09:10 Tech has shut. it. down.\n\n\nEveryone is working for home, asap\nWhat’s the deal with other industries? \nIf you can stay home, stay home\n\n\n13:20 New policies\n\n\nWhat about goals? \nCollege kids subbing as the new neighborhood babysitters\nPrivilege in steady jobs \nPreschools and schools - some open vs. some closed\n\n\n24:10 What about the kids?\n\n\nToddlers situation.. They need room to move, but also need to be hand-washed supervised\nParenting milestones\n\n\n27:55 Full time work from home\n\n\nHermit life has become even more hermit-y\nParenting switch offs\n\n\n29:15 How to communicate covid-19 to our children\n\n\nOne kid was shown a picture of the virus.. So now all the kids in preschool want to see a picture of the virus\nMiddle school kids are informed with a bit more detail\nThose are the rules!\nNo more toys at school\n\n\n37:28 Genius // fail\n\n\nChris blames the cats… but they were framed!! By his corgi \nAllison has a COVID-19 #fail \nKWu’s strategy is to switch over to online purchases when possible.. Minimal contact #genius\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nAllison McMillan\nChris Sexton\nKatherine Wu","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 041 : COVID-19</h2>\n\n<p>In today&#39;s episode we discuss what everyone is talking about, COVID-19. Yes, we talk about it. We&#39;re talking about the new normal, full time remote work, childcare - or the lack there of, how to communicate the situation to our children, and what this means for our world moving forward. Tune in!</p>\n\n<h3>00:55 COVID-19 check in</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li> On a scale of freaking out vs totally chill… How many tweets are you reading?</li>\n<li>Self quarantine pre plan</li>\n<li>Chris has a dry run when his son catches the flu... *The actual flu. </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>05:40 The new normal</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Will grocery stores shut down?</li>\n<li>Limit social outings </li>\n<li>Sports, events, and all gatherings are being cancelled… more of an inconvenience</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>09:10 Tech has shut. it. down.</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Everyone is working for home, asap</li>\n<li>What’s the deal with other industries? </li>\n<li>If you can stay home, stay home</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>13:20 New policies</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>What about goals? </li>\n<li>College kids subbing as the new neighborhood babysitters</li>\n<li>Privilege in steady jobs </li>\n<li>Preschools and schools - some open vs. some closed</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>24:10 What about the kids?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Toddlers situation.. They need room to move, but also need to be hand-washed supervised</li>\n<li>Parenting milestones</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>27:55 Full time work from home</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Hermit life has become even more hermit-y</li>\n<li>Parenting switch offs</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>29:15 How to communicate covid-19 to our children</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>One kid was shown a picture of the virus.. So now all the kids in preschool want to see a picture of the virus</li>\n<li>Middle school kids are informed with a bit more detail</li>\n<li>Those are the rules!</li>\n<li>No more toys at school</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>37:28 Genius // fail</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Chris blames the cats… but they were framed!! By his corgi </li>\n<li>Allison has a COVID-19 #fail </li>\n<li>KWu’s strategy is to switch over to online purchases when possible.. Minimal contact #genius</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">Katherine Wu</a></p>","summary":"Everyone's talking about it, covid-19 is all the rage. In today's episode KWu, Chris and Allison share their quarantine updates, remote work highlights, and dish on the extreme scenes seen in most grocery stores right now. ","date_published":"2020-03-25T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/d6f794a6-b6b3-471c-b6c3-43ddb9b84349.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":29220522,"duration_in_seconds":2793}]},{"id":"908ade9f-c262-480b-bd90-ac889bddd2cf","title":"040: Ethics and Leaving a Job","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/ethics-and-leaving-a-job","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 040 Pressure and Considerations Around Leaving a Job for Ethical Reasons.\n\n00:20 Welcome\n\n\nWe discuss what it's like to work for a company that you may not agree with their ethics\nThe difficult decisions and thoughts when you have a family and dependents counting on you\n\n\n00:55 Examples of companies dealing with ethical controversy\n\n\nCompanies working with ICE, kickstarter\nEthical clients, customers, organizers, labor oriented - who’s responsible?\n\n\n02:34 Technology, good or evil?\n\n\nSurveillance\nHyper aware of indications within our jobs and technology\nBeing in the tech industry, able to create foundational tech communication - bonus\nUS culture is more politically aware within the last few years\n\n\n06:40 Being more involved\n\n\nLessons of the past\nMinority identity \nWhat are we if we don’t participate \n\n\n09:30 Support and encouragement to leave a job, things to consider\n\n\nFinancial decisions play a huge role\nPutting family at financial risk\nHealthcare \nRetirement benefits\n\n\n16:44 Inflexible costs of leaving a job\n\n\nChildcare\nExtra childcare - nannies livelihood \nDonation makeup for moral indications\n\n\n19:35 What can we do?\n\n\nDon’t public shame others \nLeaving a role is instant, but long term change takes time\nUse your voice for what you support\nVote with your wallet\n\n\n28:15 Genius / Fail moments\n\n\nAllison's son gets groovy with techno in the AM \nAdarsh’s son is back in the hospital from another day at the park..\nThe monkey bars!\nKids are being taught how to talk about their feelings #hugeWin\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nAllison McMillan\nAdarsh Pandit","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 040 Pressure and Considerations Around Leaving a Job for Ethical Reasons.</h2>\n\n<h3>00:20 Welcome</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>We discuss what it&#39;s like to work for a company that you may not agree with their ethics</li>\n<li>The difficult decisions and thoughts when you have a family and dependents counting on you</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>00:55 Examples of companies dealing with ethical controversy</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Companies working with ICE, kickstarter</li>\n<li>Ethical clients, customers, organizers, labor oriented - who’s responsible?</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>02:34 Technology, good or evil?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Surveillance</li>\n<li>Hyper aware of indications within our jobs and technology</li>\n<li>Being in the tech industry, able to create foundational tech communication - bonus</li>\n<li>US culture is more politically aware within the last few years</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>06:40 Being more involved</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Lessons of the past</li>\n<li>Minority identity </li>\n<li>What are we if we don’t participate </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>09:30 Support and encouragement to leave a job, things to consider</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Financial decisions play a huge role</li>\n<li>Putting family at financial risk</li>\n<li>Healthcare </li>\n<li>Retirement benefits</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>16:44 Inflexible costs of leaving a job</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Childcare</li>\n<li>Extra childcare - nannies livelihood </li>\n<li>Donation makeup for moral indications</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>19:35 What can we do?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Don’t public shame others </li>\n<li>Leaving a role is instant, but long term change takes time</li>\n<li>Use your voice for what you support</li>\n<li>Vote with your wallet</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>28:15 Genius / Fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Allison&#39;s son gets groovy with techno in the AM </li>\n<li>Adarsh’s son is back in the hospital from another day at the park..</li>\n<li>The monkey bars!</li>\n<li>Kids are being taught how to talk about their feelings #hugeWin</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/adarshp\" rel=\"nofollow\">Adarsh Pandit</a></p>","summary":"We discuss what it's like to work for a company that you may not agree with their ethics,\r\nthe difficult decisions and thoughts when you have a family and dependents counting on you.\r\n","date_published":"2020-03-04T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/908ade9f-c262-480b-bd90-ac889bddd2cf.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":24990750,"duration_in_seconds":2566}]},{"id":"1947d019-100d-477e-b88c-83954dee76e2","title":"039: Parenting Roles and Gender Equality","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/parenting-roles-gender-equality","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 039: Parenting Roles and Gender Equality with Richard Schneeman\n\nWelcome Richard Schneeman!\n\nSchneems writes Ruby at Heroku, and maintains CodeTriage.com, a tool for helping people contribute to Open Source. He is in the top 50 Rails contributors and is an accidental maintainer of Sprockets and Puma. When he isn't obsessively compulsively refactoring code for performance, he writes such gems as Wicked, and derailed_benchmarks.\n\n00:30 Welcome, Richard Schneeman!\n\n01:00 All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership\n\n\nThe book: All the Rage: Mothers Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership\n Co-parenting, gender equality\nProgressive relationships default into gender roles after kids\n\n\n05:18 Progressive Parenting\n\n\nWhat’s fair?\nProgressive until they have to make a change..\n\n\n08:15 Moms vs. Dads\n\n\nDad’s get applauded when caring for children in public\nCreating boundaries of designated mom and dad jobs with the kids\n\n\n10:50 Visible Work vs. Invisble Work\n\n\nHow to balance and create boundaries between partners \nRSVP’s  - CC’d emails, response, birthday presents, who’s responsible?\nCoding pairs and how they relate\n\n\n17:01 How to Define Who is Responsible?\n\n\nCreate a system\nThe mentorship manner\nNot only doing what is asked, but proactively taking steps\n\n\n21:15  Meta Tasks\n\n\nPartners double checking each others work, basically twice the work!\nMicro managing\n\n\n25:30 Calendar System\n\n\nShared task and to-do lists\nBringing work management systems into home management systems; Learning AGILE\nSchedule a weekly meeting with your partner to go over shared cared\nCheck the calendar!\n\n\n31:01 Genius / Fail moments\n\n\nJosh’s daughter gets her hair dyed and it looks great, but her new conditioner leaks the blue color  from her hair all over the bathroom! #fail\nChris coordinates Grandpa time to give his wife more free time #genius\nRichard’s son glues his favorite picture on his bedroom wall, with handwritten marker too #geniusfail\nAllison has a genius in Sweden with her two young children\n\n\nAll the Rage: Mothers, Father, and the Myth of Equal Partnership\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\n*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.\n\nPanel\n\nAllison McMillan\nChris Arcand\nJosh PuetzSpecial Guest: Richard Schneeman .","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 039: Parenting Roles and Gender Equality with Richard Schneeman</h2>\n\n<p>Welcome <a href=\"https://www.schneems.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Richard Schneeman</a>!</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/schneems\" rel=\"nofollow\">Schneems</a> writes Ruby at Heroku, and maintains CodeTriage.com, a tool for helping people contribute to Open Source. He is in the top 50 Rails contributors and is an accidental maintainer of Sprockets and Puma. When he isn&#39;t obsessively compulsively refactoring code for performance, he writes such gems as Wicked, and derailed_benchmarks.</p>\n\n<h3>00:30 Welcome, Richard Schneeman!</h3>\n\n<h3>01:00 All the Rage: Mothers, Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>The book: <a href=\"https://amzn.to/3jNGKnn\" rel=\"nofollow\">All the Rage: Mothers Fathers and the Myth of Equal Partnership</a></li>\n<li> Co-parenting, gender equality</li>\n<li>Progressive relationships default into gender roles after kids</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>05:18 Progressive Parenting</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>What’s fair?</li>\n<li>Progressive until they have to make a change..</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>08:15 Moms vs. Dads</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Dad’s get applauded when caring for children in public</li>\n<li>Creating boundaries of designated mom and dad jobs with the kids</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>10:50 Visible Work vs. Invisble Work</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>How to balance and create boundaries between partners </li>\n<li>RSVP’s  - CC’d emails, response, birthday presents, who’s responsible?</li>\n<li>Coding pairs and how they relate</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>17:01 How to Define Who is Responsible?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Create a system</li>\n<li>The mentorship manner</li>\n<li>Not only doing what is asked, but proactively taking steps</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>21:15  Meta Tasks</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Partners double checking each others work, basically twice the work!</li>\n<li>Micro managing</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>25:30 Calendar System</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Shared task and to-do lists</li>\n<li>Bringing work management systems into home management systems; <a href=\"https://amzn.to/30a16Qe\" rel=\"nofollow\">Learning AGILE</a></li>\n<li>Schedule a weekly meeting with your partner to go over shared cared</li>\n<li>Check the calendar!</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>31:01 Genius / Fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Josh’s daughter gets her hair dyed and it looks great, but her new conditioner leaks the blue color  from her hair all over the bathroom! #fail</li>\n<li>Chris coordinates Grandpa time to give his wife more free time #genius</li>\n<li>Richard’s son glues his favorite picture on his bedroom wall, with handwritten marker too #geniusfail</li>\n<li>Allison has a genius in Sweden with her two young children</li>\n</ul>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://amzn.to/3jNGKnn\" rel=\"nofollow\">All the Rage: Mothers, Father, and the Myth of Equal Partnership</a></p>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<p>*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/chrisarcand\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Arcand</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a></p><p>Special Guest: Richard Schneeman .</p>","summary":"We're joined by Richard Schneeman this week to discuss parenting roles and gender equality. Inspired by the book, All the Rage: Mothers, Father and the Myth of Equal Partnership, we break down progressive parenting, invisible vs visible work, and how to implement a calendar system for maximum efficiency. ","date_published":"2020-02-12T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/1947d019-100d-477e-b88c-83954dee76e2.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":28740609,"duration_in_seconds":2712}]},{"id":"0b81e7ca-1aaa-409d-939b-d6be181837ca","title":"038: Women Mentorship with Kari Clark","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/women-mentorship","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 038: Women Mentorship with Kari Clark from Uplift Parents\n\nWelcome, Kari Clark! Kari is the founder Uplift Parents, a coaching service for working moms. She previously worked at Google for 8 years, invented their live case product, and co-created many other products. Kari has two kids and believes that they both made her a better at her job! Interviewing over 100 women, all at the top of their field, Kari breaks down the common threads in successful working moms and how we all can amplify our lives. These are the best tips for working moms!\n\n00:50 Welcome, Kari\n\n\nHad two kids during her time at google\nBecame incredibly focused after kids\nInterviewing women at the top of their fields (all moms) and created Uplift\n\n\n02:50 What was the trend of working moms from home and in the office?\n\n\nThere is success in many ways\nCommon trend, perspective, empathy and efficiency\n\n\n04:45 Ruthless efficiency\n\n\nMake more of your time\nDetails are huge after having kids\nOCD tendencies?! \n\n\n7:35 How to balance efficiency with rest\n\n\nUplift offers group or individual coaching sessions and encourages users to get off the hamster wheel and take time to reflect and make sure they are aligned with their path. \nTake time to savor your coffee, smell the flowers, and remember what’s important!\nYour careers are long, your kids are only very young for a short time\n\n\n12:08 Enjoying work-life balance\n\n\nFeeling fulfilled from work, unapologetically, especially for women\nCreating intentional boundaries to spend time with family\n\n\n14:10 Pushback from women mentorship\n\n\nDifference between mentorship and coaching\nEveryone has a nutritionist, trainer, and other specialists, why would you not have one on motherhood??\nNetworking was the number 1 thing that got cut in women’s career post kids\n\n\n19:50 Not parenting advice, working mom advice\n\n\nNew life changes encourage new life habits\nUplift promotes big changes\n2nd kid offers ease for moms and promotes big changes!\n\n\n24:30 Moms and dads treated differently\n\n\nDads are praised more than moms\n\n\n25:40 Best “Zone Defense” tips for working moms\n\n\nBe kind to yourself!\nLogistical tip - be creative in how you delegate things \nBe comfortable with giving your kids responsibility, most will rise to the challenge\nAssign responsibilities for each partner, and trusting that they are taking care of it\n\n\n34:20 How to delegate\n\n\nMore intentionality behind choices \nUplift encourages conversations about household tasks, etc\nDo you enjoy it? If not, delegate\n\n\n39:10 Mom data from Uplift Parents\n\n41:15 Genius / Fail moments\n\n\nKwu’s son falls down the stairs :( \nChris takes his son to The Lion King and forgets all diapers… \nKari genius/fail combo on his son’s new school schedule \nJosh realizes he needs help with guiding his daughter academically, but his daughter is totally on board and cooperative #genius #win\nAllison’s daughter is extra exploratory and discovers essential oils!\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\n*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.\n\nPanel\n\nKWu\nAllison McMillan\nChris Arcand\nJosh PuetzSpecial Guest: Kari Clark.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 038: Women Mentorship with Kari Clark from Uplift Parents</h2>\n\n<p>Welcome, Kari Clark! Kari is the founder <a href=\"https://www.upliftparents.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Uplift Parents</a>, a coaching service for working moms. She previously worked at Google for 8 years, invented their live case product, and co-created many other products. Kari has two kids and believes that they both made her a better at her job! Interviewing over 100 women, all at the top of their field, Kari breaks down the common threads in successful working moms and how we all can amplify our lives. These are the best tips for working moms!</p>\n\n<h3>00:50 Welcome, Kari</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Had two kids during her time at google</li>\n<li>Became incredibly focused after kids</li>\n<li>Interviewing women at the top of their fields (all moms) and created <a href=\"https://www.instagram.com/getuplifted/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Uplift</a></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>02:50 What was the trend of working moms from home and in the office?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>There is success in many ways</li>\n<li>Common trend, perspective, empathy and efficiency</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>04:45 Ruthless efficiency</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Make more of your time</li>\n<li>Details are huge after having kids</li>\n<li>OCD tendencies?! </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>7:35 How to balance efficiency with rest</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Uplift offers group or individual coaching sessions and encourages users to get off the hamster wheel and take time to reflect and make sure they are aligned with their path. </li>\n<li>Take time to savor your coffee, smell the flowers, and remember what’s important!</li>\n<li>Your careers are long, your kids are only very young for a short time</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>12:08 Enjoying work-life balance</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Feeling fulfilled from work, unapologetically, especially for women</li>\n<li>Creating intentional boundaries to spend time with family</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>14:10 Pushback from women mentorship</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Difference between mentorship and coaching</li>\n<li>Everyone has a nutritionist, trainer, and other specialists, why would you not have one on motherhood??</li>\n<li>Networking was the number 1 thing that got cut in women’s career post kids</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>19:50 Not parenting advice, working mom advice</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>New life changes encourage new life habits</li>\n<li>Uplift promotes big changes</li>\n<li>2nd kid offers ease for moms and promotes big changes!</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>24:30 Moms and dads treated differently</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Dads are praised more than moms</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>25:40 Best “Zone Defense” tips for working moms</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Be kind to yourself!</li>\n<li>Logistical tip - be creative in how you delegate things </li>\n<li>Be comfortable with giving your kids responsibility, most will rise to the challenge</li>\n<li>Assign responsibilities for each partner, and trusting that they are taking care of it</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>34:20 How to delegate</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>More intentionality behind choices </li>\n<li>Uplift encourages conversations about household tasks, etc</li>\n<li>Do you enjoy it? If not, delegate</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>39:10 Mom data from Uplift Parents</h3>\n\n<h3>41:15 Genius / Fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Kwu’s son falls down the stairs :( </li>\n<li>Chris takes his son to The Lion King and forgets all diapers… </li>\n<li>Kari genius/fail combo on his son’s new school schedule </li>\n<li>Josh realizes he needs help with guiding his daughter academically, but his daughter is totally on board and cooperative #genius #win</li>\n<li>Allison’s daughter is extra exploratory and discovers essential oils!</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<p>*As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/chrisarcand\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Arcand</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a></p><p>Special Guest: Kari Clark.</p>","summary":"In this episode we feature Kari Clark, founder of Uplift Parents, a coaching service and women mentorship for working moms. Kari shares all that she's learned from the most successful working moms and offers great tips to amplify your life. \r\n","date_published":"2020-01-22T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/0b81e7ca-1aaa-409d-939b-d6be181837ca.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":28812912,"duration_in_seconds":3087}]},{"id":"f44261c9-eb5c-47da-a3c2-8b2099a774b1","title":"037: New Panel Intro - Welcome Chris and Adarsh","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/new-panel-intro","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 037: New Panel Intro - Welcome Chris and Adarsh!\n\nThis episode we feature two new panelists on Parent Driven Development, Chris Arcand and Adarsh Pandit!\n\nChris is a Minnesota native holding two bachelor degrees in musical performance and computer science. After some years spent in Washington DC, Chris and his wife decided to return to their home in Minneapolis to start their family. They have a 2-year-old son and one more on the way! Chris currently works as a software engineer at Hashicorp. Welcome Chris.\n\nAdarsh is a developer consultant living in Oakland, California with his wife and two sons. He is the founder of Cylinder Digital and is currently on the Ruby Developer Board. Originally from Michigan, this former scientist taught himself code while working for boutique consulting firms. Adarsh is currently the primary caregiver at home and is embracing every sock and sandal dad moment he can get! Welcome Adarsh. \n\n00:30 Welcome Chris and Adarsh!\n\n00:51 Chris Arcand\n\n\nChris shares a bit about his past work experience, family and himself!\n\n\n03:04 Adarsh Pandit\n\n\nAdarsh shares a bit about his past work experience, family and himself!\n\n\n05:40 Do we do too much?\n\n\nAdarsh’s wife is practicing physician and is super busy! Early mornings, late nights and even weekends\nAdarsh is totally a hands-on dad! Taking on the majority of childcare in the home (socks and sandals kind of guy with no shame)\nBringing in software development tools into parenting, scheduling activities, etc… and they are useful!\n\n\n07:25 Irregular work schedules\n\n\nThis can cause more difficulty in scheduling for kids\nKids thrive under routine and consistency and irregular schedules can be tough\nAdarsh currently does leadership consulting and is a CTO working about 20-30 hours a week, this gains him flexibility\n\n\n09:10 Consulting and irregular work schedules, how do they mesh?\n\n\nCoding needs more focus and uninterrupted time, not conducive to irregular scheduling\nTo-do lists are super important, but so is knowing when to let them go! \n\n\n11:59 Summer vs. school schedules\n\n\nAllison’s kids are currently in year-round school, she preps for the years of summer camps, activities, and whole new schedules… uh oh!\n\n\n14:05 Older kids get more responsibility\n\n\nYou’re actually managing less as your kids grow up. \nBaby bags are essential!\nKids bring extra hands on vacations\nParents now empathize with crying babies AND the parents holding them\n\n\n15:40 Traveling with young kids\n\n\nTrend in families with a known “bad baby traveler” \nThe treats are not really necessary, a crying baby is normal\nChris had a seat neighbor draw a panda on a bag for his youngster when he had an uncomfortable flight \nOverall consensus, we shouldnt be bribing each other\n\n\n19:40 How moms and dads are treated differently\n\n\nMom’s may be glared at for having a screaming baby on a plane, dad’s are instantly supported \nMore empathy comes from parenthood, especially when you get more educated on child development\n\n\n24:30 Growing families\n\n\nKWu’s son starts part-time preschool, and is expecting her second!\nChris expects his second child as well\nDoula‘s plus photography bundle - are these photos too personal?\nEmergency births are very overwhelming \nScheduled C sections are bizzare, but can be more calm\n\n\n31:45 Multiple kids\n\n\nIs it the different personalities of the kids, or is the younger child a bit easier to manage?\nMultiple kids can help entertain each other\nTime goes quicker after each kid \nKids learn lessons when having siblings\nOldest vs youngest child \n\n\n43:28 Genius / fail moments\n\n\nAdarsh's family camping trip ends in the hospital #fail \nChris fails at pre-planning to move-out of his house.. by taking a vacation the week before!\nKWu fails at unpacking from her cross-country move, misplacing her microphone and engagement ring…\nAllison has a genius finishing her daughter’s “quiet book” \nChris finds success by implements reading time before bed #genius\nJC has a proud dad moment #genius \nKWu’s forgets the bug repellent #fail, but scores from a teenager to keep her son safe! #genius\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nKWu\nAllison McMillan\nChris Sexton\nJC Avena\nChris Arcand\nAdarsh Pandit","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 037: New Panel Intro - Welcome Chris and Adarsh!</h2>\n\n<p>This episode we feature two new panelists on Parent Driven Development, Chris Arcand and Adarsh Pandit!</p>\n\n<p>Chris is a Minnesota native holding two bachelor degrees in musical performance and computer science. After some years spent in Washington DC, Chris and his wife decided to return to their home in Minneapolis to start their family. They have a 2-year-old son and one more on the way! Chris currently works as a software engineer at Hashicorp. Welcome Chris.</p>\n\n<p>Adarsh is a developer consultant living in Oakland, California with his wife and two sons. He is the founder of Cylinder Digital and is currently on the Ruby Developer Board. Originally from Michigan, this former scientist taught himself code while working for boutique consulting firms. Adarsh is currently the primary caregiver at home and is embracing every sock and sandal dad moment he can get! Welcome Adarsh. </p>\n\n<h3>00:30 Welcome Chris and Adarsh!</h3>\n\n<h3>00:51 Chris Arcand</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Chris shares a bit about his past work experience, family and himself!</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>03:04 Adarsh Pandit</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Adarsh shares a bit about his past work experience, family and himself!</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>05:40 Do we do too much?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Adarsh’s wife is practicing physician and is super busy! Early mornings, late nights and even weekends</li>\n<li>Adarsh is totally a hands-on dad! Taking on the majority of childcare in the home (socks and sandals kind of guy with no shame)</li>\n<li>Bringing in software development tools into parenting, scheduling activities, etc… and they are useful!</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>07:25 Irregular work schedules</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>This can cause more difficulty in scheduling for kids</li>\n<li>Kids thrive under routine and consistency and irregular schedules can be tough</li>\n<li>Adarsh currently does leadership consulting and is a CTO working about 20-30 hours a week, this gains him flexibility</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>09:10 Consulting and irregular work schedules, how do they mesh?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Coding needs more focus and uninterrupted time, not conducive to irregular scheduling</li>\n<li>To-do lists are super important, but so is knowing when to let them go! </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>11:59 Summer vs. school schedules</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Allison’s kids are currently in year-round school, she preps for the years of summer camps, activities, and whole new schedules… uh oh!</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>14:05 Older kids get more responsibility</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>You’re actually managing less as your kids grow up. </li>\n<li>Baby bags are essential!</li>\n<li>Kids bring extra hands on vacations</li>\n<li>Parents now empathize with crying babies AND the parents holding them</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>15:40 Traveling with young kids</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Trend in families with a known “bad baby traveler” </li>\n<li>The treats are not really necessary, a crying baby is normal</li>\n<li>Chris had a seat neighbor draw a panda on a bag for his youngster when he had an uncomfortable flight </li>\n<li>Overall consensus, we shouldnt be bribing each other</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>19:40 How moms and dads are treated differently</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Mom’s may be glared at for having a screaming baby on a plane, dad’s are instantly supported </li>\n<li>More empathy comes from parenthood, especially when you get more educated on child development</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>24:30 Growing families</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>KWu’s son starts part-time preschool, and is expecting her second!</li>\n<li>Chris expects his second child as well</li>\n<li>Doula‘s plus photography bundle - are these photos too personal?</li>\n<li>Emergency births are very overwhelming </li>\n<li>Scheduled C sections are bizzare, but can be more calm</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>31:45 Multiple kids</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Is it the different personalities of the kids, or is the younger child a bit easier to manage?</li>\n<li>Multiple kids can help entertain each other</li>\n<li>Time goes quicker after each kid </li>\n<li>Kids learn lessons when having siblings</li>\n<li>Oldest vs youngest child </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>43:28 Genius / fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Adarsh&#39;s family camping trip ends in the hospital #fail </li>\n<li>Chris fails at pre-planning to move-out of his house.. by taking a vacation the week before!</li>\n<li>KWu fails at unpacking from her cross-country move, misplacing her microphone and engagement ring…</li>\n<li>Allison has a genius finishing her daughter’s “quiet book” </li>\n<li>Chris finds success by implements reading time before bed #genius</li>\n<li>JC has a proud dad moment #genius </li>\n<li>KWu’s forgets the bug repellent #fail, but scores from a teenager to keep her son safe! #genius</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jcavena\" rel=\"nofollow\">JC Avena</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/chrisarcand\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Arcand</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/adarshp\" rel=\"nofollow\">Adarsh Pandit</a></p>","summary":"In this episode we welcome two new panelist to Parent Driven Development, Chris Arcand and Adarsh Pandit! We learn a little bit about our new panelist and then dive into topics about irregular work schedules, the kids, traveling with the kids, and our teams growing families. ","date_published":"2020-01-02T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/f44261c9-eb5c-47da-a3c2-8b2099a774b1.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":42120996,"duration_in_seconds":3623}]},{"id":"cb0eddef-8ac2-4a0d-9129-e52b95c25c4b","title":"036: The Process for International Adoption","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/internatinal-adoption","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 036: Adoption\n\n\nThis episode will discuss the process of international adoption, the major changes that hit home, and future challenges adopting parents and children face\n\n\n00:28 Welcome, Kalimar\n\n\nHow long does it take to adopt a child internationally? It took Kalimar 2 ½-3 years!\nKalimar and his wife have had their baby girl for 6 months, she is now 21 month old\nHuge learning curve welcoming a child that already has mobility\n\n\n01:12 Why choose adoption?\n\n\nKalimar and his wife are 35+ and decided this was the right option for them\n\n\n01:39 What is process for international adoption?\n\n\nAdoption ad in paper, an option\nInternational adoption agencies is most common and safe\nInternational adoption requirements: Micro scale of state approval, social workers, background checks, reading, workshops, cultural events, then moving to federal approval then international country approval\n\n\n4:43 How hard is it to adopt a child? Is parenting easier or harder?\n\n\nThe paperwork is tough, but Kalimar says parenting is harder!\nEveryone and every book has a different advice on parenting\nKids don't come with instructions\n\n\n6:05 Challenges of being a new parent?\n\n\nNo more late nights because baby doesn’t sleep in\nThe need for more friendly activities with friends, luckily most of Kalimar's friends already have kids!\nSecret sledding hills that have mostly been kid only zones are now opened up to play at\n\n\n8:08 Experiencing everything with fresh eyes\n\n\nKWU's son is full of excitement and the energy is contagious\nKalimar's daughter eats spaghetti for the first time and its adorable\nNew toddlers like to explore their limits and gravity\n\n\n10:36 Things to consider when adopting a child\n\n\nThe challenges in adopting a newborn verse a toddler\nKalimar had to baby proof before bringing his daughter home\nThe danger kid zone within the house, everyone has one\n\n\n12:20 Are post adoption services and consultants available?\n\n\nYes! Massive support from adoption agency, trainings, workshops, other families and community members\nWhy parenting classes are important and how biological parents should be put through parenting school just like adoption parents\nFirst day with adopted child - the bumps, triumphs and everything in between\n\n\n15:23 How do you decide which agency or country to choose from?\n\n\nFirst google agency, then attend an open house and adoption seminars, see who you mesh with\nFactor in expense of international adoption cost and timeline that it will take\n\n\n17:45 How do the adoption seminars prepare you?\n\n\nKalimar reflects on the self question of making it known that his daughter is adopted in daycare or not\nAdoption transition tips - understanding the child is going through HUGE emotional changes\nKalimar feels lucky his daughter is so adaptable \nHow to talk about the adoption process with your child at the level they can understand.\nOpen discussion is best, remove the taboo\nAdoptive parents do a whole lot of work and are totally the parents\n\n\n24:13 Top parent concerns, are they adoption based?\n\n\nKalimar worries about his daughter being treated as a minority, as he and his wife are caucasion and their daughter is Indian.\nGirl and dad relationship, other common worries\nBecome a part of the local community of their daughters orgin\nPros and cons of exposing your child to their origin country\n\n\n28:46 Genius / Fail moments\n\n\nChris stores old legos and toys in his attic until his friends with new babies need them. Out of the house and supporting a friend #parentingwin\nAllison gets crafty by using walkie-talkies to keep in touch with her 4-year-old son at her office HQ #genius\nJC’s 10-year-old daughter is a total catch! She learns how to put in the work to improve her skills as her teams catcher. \nKWU’s son is repeating everything. She’s noted to watch her language, but proud that her son has picked up on her good habits and is mimicking new language.\nKalimar temps his daughter back to the dinner table by making it look like the most delicious time ever!\nKids continue to throw food on the ground... to learn reaction and explore new roles #fail \n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nKWu\nJC Avena\nAllison McMillan\nChris SextonSpecial Guest: Kalimar Maia.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 036: Adoption</h2>\n\n<ul>\n<li>This episode will discuss the process of international adoption, the major changes that hit home, and future challenges adopting parents and children face</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>00:28 Welcome, Kalimar</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>How long does it take to adopt a child internationally? It took Kalimar 2 ½-3 years!</li>\n<li>Kalimar and his wife have had their baby girl for 6 months, she is now 21 month old</li>\n<li>Huge learning curve welcoming a child that already has mobility</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>01:12 Why choose adoption?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Kalimar and his wife are 35+ and decided this was the right option for them</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>01:39 What is process for international adoption?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Adoption ad in paper, an option</li>\n<li>International adoption agencies is most common and safe</li>\n<li>International adoption requirements: Micro scale of state approval, social workers, background checks, reading, workshops, cultural events, then moving to federal approval then international country approval</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>4:43 How hard is it to adopt a child? Is parenting easier or harder?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>The paperwork is tough, but Kalimar says parenting is harder!</li>\n<li>Everyone and every book has a different advice on parenting</li>\n<li>Kids don&#39;t come with instructions</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>6:05 Challenges of being a new parent?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>No more late nights because baby doesn’t sleep in</li>\n<li>The need for more friendly activities with friends, luckily most of Kalimar&#39;s friends already have kids!</li>\n<li>Secret sledding hills that have mostly been kid only zones are now opened up to play at</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>8:08 Experiencing everything with fresh eyes</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>KWU&#39;s son is full of excitement and the energy is contagious</li>\n<li>Kalimar&#39;s daughter eats spaghetti for the first time and its adorable</li>\n<li>New toddlers like to explore their limits and gravity</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>10:36 Things to consider when adopting a child</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>The challenges in adopting a newborn verse a toddler</li>\n<li>Kalimar had to baby proof before bringing his daughter home</li>\n<li>The danger kid zone within the house, everyone has one</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>12:20 Are post adoption services and consultants available?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Yes! Massive support from adoption agency, trainings, workshops, other families and community members</li>\n<li>Why parenting classes are important and how biological parents should be put through parenting school just like adoption parents</li>\n<li>First day with adopted child - the bumps, triumphs and everything in between</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>15:23 How do you decide which agency or country to choose from?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>First google agency, then attend an open house and adoption seminars, see who you mesh with</li>\n<li>Factor in expense of international adoption cost and timeline that it will take</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>17:45 How do the adoption seminars prepare you?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Kalimar reflects on the self question of making it known that his daughter is adopted in daycare or not</li>\n<li>Adoption transition tips - understanding the child is going through HUGE emotional changes</li>\n<li>Kalimar feels lucky his daughter is so adaptable </li>\n<li>How to talk about the adoption process with your child at the level they can understand.</li>\n<li>Open discussion is best, remove the taboo</li>\n<li>Adoptive parents do a whole lot of work and are totally the parents</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>24:13 Top parent concerns, are they adoption based?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Kalimar worries about his daughter being treated as a minority, as he and his wife are caucasion and their daughter is Indian.</li>\n<li>Girl and dad relationship, other common worries</li>\n<li>Become a part of the local community of their daughters orgin</li>\n<li>Pros and cons of exposing your child to their origin country</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>28:46 Genius / Fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Chris stores old legos and toys in his attic until his friends with new babies need them. Out of the house and supporting a friend #parentingwin</li>\n<li>Allison gets crafty by using walkie-talkies to keep in touch with her 4-year-old son at her office HQ #genius</li>\n<li>JC’s 10-year-old daughter is a total catch! She learns how to put in the work to improve her skills as her teams catcher. </li>\n<li>KWU’s son is repeating everything. She’s noted to watch her language, but proud that her son has picked up on her good habits and is mimicking new language.</li>\n<li>Kalimar temps his daughter back to the dinner table by making it look like the most delicious time ever!</li>\n<li>Kids continue to throw food on the ground... to learn reaction and explore new roles #fail </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jcavena\" rel=\"nofollow\">JC Avena</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a></p><p>Special Guest: Kalimar Maia.</p>","summary":"","date_published":"2019-12-11T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/cb0eddef-8ac2-4a0d-9129-e52b95c25c4b.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":28405683,"duration_in_seconds":2592}]},{"id":"4f6cd39b-1516-4b5c-84f0-487e41acc33e","title":"035: Summer Vacation","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/summer-vacations","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 035: Summer Vacations\n\nWelcome!\n\n00:35 Summer vacationing as a kid vs. adult\n\n\nThe hosts reflect back on their experience of summer vacation as a child vs. what their kids experience now. \nHow much do kids actually remember on these family vacations?\nLoads and loads of driving!!\n\n\n06:52 Flying vs. driving\n\n\nThe views!\nYou can either see more of the places in between or more of the place you’re going to\nWhat does your family value more?\nIs the classic road trip only nostalgic?\n\n\n10:20 KWu's travels\n\n\nKWu becomes a foodie in Paris!\nWinter ski trips \nKWu thinks it’s a good start to travel domestically before going internationally with her own children\n\n\n12:06 Involving the kids in travel plans\n\n\nGet the ideas of what the kids are actually interested in to make for a better vacation \n\n\n14:13 Take the kids anyways\n\n\nKids may end up being grumpy anyways, so let's take them along regardless\n\n\n14:50 Older kids remember more\n\n\nSuper rewarding as a parent to hear positive feedback from the kids on a successful vacation\nPlaying name that tune on the car ride home - the feeling that may actually last in our kids memories.\n\n\n17:11 Yearly vacations and sporadic trips\n\n\nChris plans a yearly beach trip with family as the designated time to get together\nAnnual cousins week \nJosh’s daughter gets real about wanting to go to new places and experience new things during summer trips \nJC takes the kids on an annual beach trip but mixes it up with locations\n\n\n20:13 Let your kids bring friends on vacation\n\n\nJosh finds success having his daughter bring a friend on a weekend getaway\nBuilt in play buddies when friends come along\n\n\n23:01 Sporting events with kids and friends\n\n\nBuilt in getaways with friends\nTypically less drama\nOther parents around to mingle with and relax\n\n\n23:43 Vacationing with another family\n\n\nAllow the kids to be with kids, and adults to be with adults \nShare responsibilities of who is caperoning #parentinghack\nBut do the parenting philosophies match up?!\n\n\n26:50 Different screen time rules\n\n\nJosh’s daughter is a mini Zuckerberg while her comrades are a bit behind\nA friend to Chris's kids ican't seem to put his phone away during bowling night\nJC had a TV in the mainroom on a vacation and it became the default daily wind down\n\n\n29:40 Setting ground rules for phone time before vacations\n\n\nJosh’s daughter follow suit and uses her phone for taking pictures \nAssigning family time without phones is best to keep everyone on the same page\n\n\n33:01 Keeping things fresh during family vacation\n\n\nDice roll for a fresh activities\nSome of the best memories come from impulsive detours\n\n\n34:36 Genius / fail moments\n\n\nKWu’s son went out and got eaten by tons of mosquitoes causing so much itching that they eventually bleed Bath time is now a nightmare #fail\nChris and his wife volunteer to help out a family friend’s twins! He soon realizes the horror of having multiples\nJosh’s daughter has been having loads of sleepovers and he’s been sending a bottle of wine for the watchful parents. Definite notion of being invited back #genius\nJC’s oldest graduated high school, planning for college and is working hard over summer break. #proudparent\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nChris Sexton\nKWu\nJosh Puetz\nJC Avena","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 035: Summer Vacations</h2>\n\n<h3>Welcome!</h3>\n\n<h3>00:35 Summer vacationing as a kid vs. adult</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>The hosts reflect back on their experience of summer vacation as a child vs. what their kids experience now. </li>\n<li>How much do kids actually remember on these family vacations?</li>\n<li>Loads and loads of driving!!</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>06:52 Flying vs. driving</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>The views!</li>\n<li>You can either see more of the places in between or more of the place you’re going to<br></li>\n<li>What does your family value more?</li>\n<li>Is the classic road trip only nostalgic?<br></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>10:20 KWu&#39;s travels</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>KWu becomes a foodie in Paris!</li>\n<li>Winter ski trips </li>\n<li>KWu thinks it’s a good start to travel domestically before going internationally with her own children</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>12:06 Involving the kids in travel plans</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Get the ideas of what the kids are actually interested in to make for a better vacation </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>14:13 Take the kids anyways</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Kids may end up being grumpy anyways, so let&#39;s take them along regardless</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>14:50 Older kids remember more</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Super rewarding as a parent to hear positive feedback from the kids on a successful vacation</li>\n<li>Playing name that tune on the car ride home - the feeling that may actually last in our kids memories.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>17:11 Yearly vacations and sporadic trips</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Chris plans a yearly beach trip with family as the designated time to get together</li>\n<li>Annual cousins week </li>\n<li>Josh’s daughter gets real about wanting to go to new places and experience new things during summer trips </li>\n<li>JC takes the kids on an annual beach trip but mixes it up with locations</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>20:13 Let your kids bring friends on vacation</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Josh finds success having his daughter bring a friend on a weekend getaway</li>\n<li>Built in play buddies when friends come along</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>23:01 Sporting events with kids and friends</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Built in getaways with friends</li>\n<li>Typically less drama</li>\n<li>Other parents around to mingle with and relax</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>23:43 Vacationing with another family</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Allow the kids to be with kids, and adults to be with adults </li>\n<li>Share responsibilities of who is caperoning #parentinghack</li>\n<li>But do the parenting philosophies match up?!</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>26:50 Different screen time rules</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Josh’s daughter is a mini Zuckerberg while her comrades are a bit behind</li>\n<li>A friend to Chris&#39;s kids ican&#39;t seem to put his phone away during bowling night</li>\n<li>JC had a TV in the mainroom on a vacation and it became the default daily wind down</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>29:40 Setting ground rules for phone time before vacations</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Josh’s daughter follow suit and uses her phone for taking pictures </li>\n<li>Assigning family time without phones is best to keep everyone on the same page</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>33:01 Keeping things fresh during family vacation</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Dice roll for a fresh activities<br>\nSome of the best memories come from impulsive detours</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>34:36 Genius / fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>KWu’s son went out and got eaten by tons of mosquitoes causing so much itching that they eventually bleed Bath time is now a nightmare #fail</li>\n<li>Chris and his wife volunteer to help out a family friend’s twins! He soon realizes the horror of having multiples</li>\n<li>Josh’s daughter has been having loads of sleepovers and he’s been sending a bottle of wine for the watchful parents. Definite notion of being invited back #genius</li>\n<li>JC’s oldest graduated high school, planning for college and is working hard over summer break. #proudparent</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jcavena\" rel=\"nofollow\">JC Avena</a></p>","summary":"Josh, KWu, JC and Chris reflect back on summer vacations when they were growing up, as well as the differences  and similarities they're faced vacationing now as the parent. Plus, road trips are always nostalgic to reminisce on! ","date_published":"2019-11-20T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/4f6cd39b-1516-4b5c-84f0-487e41acc33e.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":37275471,"duration_in_seconds":2620}]},{"id":"d2a63e8e-ce67-4c5a-b8e7-bb12109d37e1","title":"034: Extracurricular Activities","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/extracurriculars","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 034: Back to School and Extracurricular Activities for Kids\n\n00:59 Welcome, Barrett Clark\n\n\nBarrett Clark is a data programmer, speaker and author of Data Visualization ToolKit. He is a longtime member of the Ruby community and a co-organizer of RailCamp South. Married for 22 years, Barrett and his wife have two teenage boys and a new dog.\nRuby community \nFamily: 2 highschool teenage sons (senior / sophomore) both in band. \nParent advisors and past president to children’s band team\n\n\n01:46 Extra curricular activities for kids\n\n\nBarrett’s son involved with band\nThe parents get involved as well, to have the kids know that you value them and their interest\ncarpools with fellow parents \n\n\n08:25 Extra cirrculars taking up more time than school and work. How to deal?\n\n\nHelping kids see the importance of prioritizing (school, dating, work, band, etc)\n\n\n12:20 Helping kids find their “thing” + Overly committing kids to activities to help them find a passion\n\n\nSigning your kids up for more activities \nKids getting wiped out from over activity \nTeaching kids the importance of community at a young age\n\n\n15:15 Help kids find their community\n\n\nFriends of similar interests and ideals\nCreating deeper bonds \nCertain activities lend towards a larger community than others. gymnastic - girls range from 12-18, while sports often limit to one age group\n\n\n17:13 Becoming a part of your kids activities\n\n\nMore time with your children \nBuild your own community amongst the other parents involved with your kids\nFlexibility in being involved “part-time”\n\n\n20:51 Uninvolved parents vs. involved parents\n\n\nSingle parents\nYounger kids in school \nParents helping each other get their kids to activities \nMaking sure other kids have support if their parents aren’t there or too busy\n\n\n25:45 Ways to keep busy parents in the loop: build greater community\n\n\nFilm concerts, games, etc for distant family members or busy parents to help keep them involved \nBuilding the community feel past just teammates and classmates\n\n\n27:28 Discussing the organization of extra cirrculars before getting involved\n\n\n Sit down and discuss with your child. what’s important to you most? will you have time for all these sports and clubs?\nAsk about the history of the organization and decipher if it’s the right fit for you and your child\n\n\n30:02 How to deal with “that parent” + learning to manage other parents in your kids activities\n\n\nDon’t yell at refs\nOverly involved parent envy\n\n\n32:14 The financial side\n\n\nFundraisers - parents typically have to get involved as well\nWriting a check vs. spending the time on fundraisers\nKids take responsibility (older kids)\nParents budgeting for future extracurriculars for kids \nNon-negotiable extracurriculars for kids - kids choice vs. have-to’s \nBudgeted financial support for activity or sport\n\n\n42:35 Genius / fail moments\n\n\nThe volleyball team offers a weekend trial for students to try without commitment. #genius \nNew favorite child when they take on your same activity \nBarrett plays catch up with son’s college applications - the struggles motivating your child and parent strategy #geniusfail\nMiddle school back to school night, too many teachers and no quality time #failmoment \nAllison’s son on a mission to find Sukana bread… except she doesn’t know what it is #fail\nKwu’s son’s first haircut goes awry #fail So Kwu stepped up, orders tools and cuts his hair at home now #genius\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nKWu\nChris Sexton\nJC Avena\nAllison McMillan\nJosh PuetzSpecial Guest: Barrett Clark.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 034: Back to School and Extracurricular Activities for Kids</h2>\n\n<h3>00:59 Welcome, Barrett Clark</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li><p>Barrett Clark is a data programmer, speaker and author of Data Visualization ToolKit. He is a longtime member of the Ruby community and a co-organizer of RailCamp South. Married for 22 years, Barrett and his wife have two teenage boys and a new dog.</p></li>\n<li><p>Ruby community </p></li>\n<li><p>Family: 2 highschool teenage sons (senior / sophomore) both in band. </p></li>\n<li><p>Parent advisors and past president to children’s band team</p></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>01:46 Extra curricular activities for kids</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Barrett’s son involved with band</li>\n<li>The parents get involved as well, to have the kids know that you value them and their interest</li>\n<li>carpools with fellow parents </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>08:25 Extra cirrculars taking up more time than school and work. How to deal?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Helping kids see the importance of prioritizing (school, dating, work, band, etc)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>12:20 Helping kids find their “thing” + Overly committing kids to activities to help them find a passion</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Signing your kids up for more activities </li>\n<li>Kids getting wiped out from over activity </li>\n<li>Teaching kids the importance of community at a young age</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>15:15 Help kids find their community</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Friends of similar interests and ideals</li>\n<li>Creating deeper bonds </li>\n<li>Certain activities lend towards a larger community than others. gymnastic - girls range from 12-18, while sports often limit to one age group</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>17:13 Becoming a part of your kids activities</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>More time with your children </li>\n<li>Build your own community amongst the other parents involved with your kids</li>\n<li>Flexibility in being involved “part-time”</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>20:51 Uninvolved parents vs. involved parents</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Single parents</li>\n<li>Younger kids in school </li>\n<li>Parents helping each other get their kids to activities </li>\n<li>Making sure other kids have support if their parents aren’t there or too busy</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>25:45 Ways to keep busy parents in the loop: build greater community</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Film concerts, games, etc for distant family members or busy parents to help keep them involved </li>\n<li>Building the community feel past just teammates and classmates</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>27:28 Discussing the organization of extra cirrculars before getting involved</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li> Sit down and discuss with your child. what’s important to you most? will you have time for all these sports and clubs?</li>\n<li>Ask about the history of the organization and decipher if it’s the right fit for you and your child</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>30:02 How to deal with “that parent” + learning to manage other parents in your kids activities</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Don’t yell at refs</li>\n<li>Overly involved parent envy</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>32:14 The financial side</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Fundraisers - parents typically have to get involved as well</li>\n<li>Writing a check vs. spending the time on fundraisers</li>\n<li>Kids take responsibility (older kids)</li>\n<li>Parents budgeting for future extracurriculars for kids </li>\n<li>Non-negotiable extracurriculars for kids - kids choice vs. have-to’s </li>\n<li>Budgeted financial support for activity or sport</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>42:35 Genius / fail moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>The volleyball team offers a weekend trial for students to try without commitment. #genius </li>\n<li>New favorite child when they take on your same activity </li>\n<li>Barrett plays catch up with son’s college applications - the struggles motivating your child and parent strategy #geniusfail</li>\n<li>Middle school back to school night, too many teachers and no quality time #failmoment </li>\n<li>Allison’s son on a mission to find Sukana bread… except she doesn’t know what it is #fail</li>\n<li>Kwu’s son’s first haircut goes awry #fail So Kwu stepped up, orders tools and cuts his hair at home now #genius</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jcavena\" rel=\"nofollow\">JC Avena</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a></p><p>Special Guest: Barrett Clark.</p>","summary":"Special guest, Barrett Clark, joins Josh, Kwu, Allison, JC and Chris to discuss back to school and extracurricular activities for kids: how to help your kids find their passion, the expectations of school activities, the financial side, and what it means for the parents. Tune in for a deeper dive! ","date_published":"2019-10-30T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/d2a63e8e-ce67-4c5a-b8e7-bb12109d37e1.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":39335426,"duration_in_seconds":3370}]},{"id":"c7fa8f84-3c7b-44c5-b2ae-b58be0fca7e5","title":"033: Raising Children Away From Family","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/raising-children-away-from-family","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 033: Raising Children Away From Family\n\n00:28 Welcome, Adarsh Pandit\n\n\nAdarsh is a self taught coder, scientist and consultant. He is the founder of Cylinder Digital, a software design and development studio, and is on the board of Ruby Together.\nThis episode we discuss what it’s like to raise a family, while living away from your parents and other family members. \n\n\n03:00 The difficulties of raising a family away from family\n\n\nLack of support\nCareer trade offs \nFinding a sitter \n\n\n07:01 Home-Ops: The Business Side of Raising a Family\n\n\nWho can help with childcare?\nRealizing the limitations of parents age and health as they get older \nAdjusting child care depending on the time, day or event that they are covering for. - who can drive? \n\n\n13:30 - Coping with coordination\n\n\nCo-op babysitting\nDrop off playdates with neighbors \n\n\n17:11 Finding the Right Child/Child and Parent/Parent Match\n\n\nFinding the perfect family match: kids need to get along and parents need to get along\nBuilding rapport with other families to become close enough to ask for favors for pick-up give specific dietary requirements, disciplining other kids and have other parents disciplining your kids\n“it’s probably fine” - trusting other parents with your kids \n\n\n22:15 The Importance of Being a Patient Parent Without Extra Family Support\n\n\nEffective response to kids\nManaging stress - yoga, lots of water, getting outside, eating well\n\n\n23:37 Work Flexibility\n\n\nStaying organized as a working parent\nBeing a consultant has been helpful for Adarsh because he can dial up or down depending on the demands of the children.\nThe benefits of being at home or working at home - enjoy the time with your toddlers because there will be a day they will not want your attention any more.\n\n\n30:03 The Trade Offs of Having Two Working Parents\n\n\nPotential extra PTO for one the parents \nOne parent typically has a more flexible schedule\n\n\n32:30 Fail Moments\n\n\nMore poop stories, because poop is always funny. #Fail\n\n\n36:16 Showing Empathy Towards our Kids\n\n\nKids are actually little people with little personalities and their own personal functions, weird!? \nAllowing kids to figure things out on their own. \n\n\n39:30 Genius Moments\n\n\nAllison invites her son Devin on stage during a conference event and he tells says… “Mommy, I just want to be just like you when I grow up” #genius \nKWu’s diaper change at the playground #fail… having a spare outfit in the diaper bag #genius\nAdarsh gets his son to poop in the toilet #genius\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nKWu\nAllison McMillan\nAdarsh Pandit","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 033: Raising Children Away From Family</h2>\n\n<h3>00:28 Welcome, Adarsh Pandit</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li><p>Adarsh is a self taught coder, scientist and consultant. He is the founder of Cylinder Digital, a software design and development studio, and is on the board of Ruby Together.</p></li>\n<li><p>This episode we discuss what it’s like to raise a family, while living away from your parents and other family members. </p></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>03:00 The difficulties of raising a family away from family</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Lack of support</li>\n<li>Career trade offs </li>\n<li>Finding a sitter </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>07:01 Home-Ops: The Business Side of Raising a Family</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Who can help with childcare?</li>\n<li>Realizing the limitations of parents age and health as they get older </li>\n<li>Adjusting child care depending on the time, day or event that they are covering for. - who can drive? </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>13:30 - Coping with coordination</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Co-op babysitting</li>\n<li>Drop off playdates with neighbors </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>17:11 Finding the Right Child/Child and Parent/Parent Match</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Finding the perfect family match: kids need to get along and parents need to get along</li>\n<li>Building rapport with other families to become close enough to ask for favors for pick-up give specific dietary requirements, disciplining other kids and have other parents disciplining your kids</li>\n<li>“it’s probably fine” - trusting other parents with your kids </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>22:15 The Importance of Being a Patient Parent Without Extra Family Support</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Effective response to kids</li>\n<li>Managing stress - yoga, lots of water, getting outside, eating well</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>23:37 Work Flexibility</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Staying organized as a working parent</li>\n<li>Being a consultant has been helpful for Adarsh because he can dial up or down depending on the demands of the children.</li>\n<li>The benefits of being at home or working at home - enjoy the time with your toddlers because there will be a day they will not want your attention any more.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>30:03 The Trade Offs of Having Two Working Parents</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Potential extra PTO for one the parents </li>\n<li>One parent typically has a more flexible schedule</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>32:30 Fail Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>More poop stories, because poop is always funny. #Fail</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>36:16 Showing Empathy Towards our Kids</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Kids are actually little people with little personalities and their own personal functions, weird!? </li>\n<li>Allowing kids to figure things out on their own. </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>39:30 Genius Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Allison invites her son Devin on stage during a conference event and he tells says… “Mommy, I just want to be just like you when I grow up” #genius </li>\n<li>KWu’s diaper change at the playground #fail… having a spare outfit in the diaper bag #genius</li>\n<li>Adarsh gets his son to poop in the toilet #genius</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/adarshp\" rel=\"nofollow\">Adarsh Pandit</a></p>","summary":"Adarsh Pandit discusses what it’s like to raise a family, while living away from his parents and other family members. We dive into the importance of building a community with fellow families and how we can all help each other out. ","date_published":"2019-10-13T12:45:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/c7fa8f84-3c7b-44c5-b2ae-b58be0fca7e5.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":43348586,"duration_in_seconds":3045}]},{"id":"558f834d-c7f1-40bc-8c2e-23331036f3e3","title":"032: Tackling More","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/tackling-more","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 032: Tackling More\n\n00:45 Welcome, Dana Jones\n\nOur guest, Dana Jones, Engineering Manager at Abstract.\nDana has 4 children. Came in to software development from an untraditional path.\n\n2:00 Dana goes back to school\n\nDana has also recently gone back to school to get her college degree and talks about her experience\n\n5:15  talking about the people side of our work and people management\n\n8:40 how do you organize yourself?\n\n14:00 kids and driving\n\n16:30 how are challenges different at different times in your life and when you’re kids are different ages\n\n20:20 professional development with non-tiny children and child development/phases\n\n22:00 Meeting kids where they’re at\n\n23:00 how has family time changed as children have gotten older\n\n25:00 ask more questions and give fewer answers at work and at home\n\n28:00 moderating your reactions as a parent\n\n35:37 Genius and Fail moments!\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nKWu\nChris Sexton\nAllison McMillanSpecial Guest: Dana Jones.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 032: Tackling More</h2>\n\n<h3>00:45 Welcome, Dana Jones</h3>\n\n<p>Our guest, <a href=\"https://twitter.com/danabrit\" rel=\"nofollow\">Dana Jones</a>, Engineering Manager at <a href=\"https://www.abstract.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Abstract</a>.<br>\nDana has 4 children. Came in to software development from an untraditional path.</p>\n\n<h3>2:00 Dana goes back to school</h3>\n\n<p>Dana has also recently gone back to school to get her college degree and talks about her experience</p>\n\n<h3>5:15  talking about the people side of our work and people management</h3>\n\n<h3>8:40 how do you organize yourself?</h3>\n\n<h3>14:00 kids and driving</h3>\n\n<h3>16:30 how are challenges different at different times in your life and when you’re kids are different ages</h3>\n\n<h3>20:20 professional development with non-tiny children and child development/phases</h3>\n\n<h3>22:00 Meeting kids where they’re at</h3>\n\n<h3>23:00 how has family time changed as children have gotten older</h3>\n\n<h3>25:00 ask more questions and give fewer answers at work and at home</h3>\n\n<h3>28:00 moderating your reactions as a parent</h3>\n\n<h3>35:37 Genius and Fail moments!</h3>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a></p><p>Special Guest: Dana Jones.</p>","summary":"Dana Jones talks about going back to school with four older children and teaching herself to code when they were little. We also talk about some of the similarities of management and parenting.","date_published":"2019-09-11T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/558f834d-c7f1-40bc-8c2e-23331036f3e3.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":27816552,"duration_in_seconds":2578}]},{"id":"ba5bbf59-9875-4990-87dd-ee889da069b2","title":"031: Negotiating A Shorter Workweek","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/negotiating-a-shorter-workweek","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 031: Negotiating A Shorter Workweek\n\n00:16 Welcome, Itamar Turner-Trauring\n\nItamar Turner-Trauring started his software career in the cutting-edge field of multimedia CD-ROMs. He currently works as a consultant helping speed up Python code and deployments, and shares his software and career mistakes every week with 3700 programmers on his Software Clown newsletter. His crowning achievement as a parent was when months of brainwashing paid off and his daughter stopped saying \"my legs are tired\" and started saying \"my legs are getting stronger! Itmar is that author of \"You Can Negotiate A 3-Day Weekend\".\n\n00:51 Working Part-Time as a Programmer and Writing a Book\n\n\n\"You Can Negotiate A 3-Day Weekend\n\n\n03:54 Overcoming \"This Isn't Normal\" or \"Entitlement\" Feelings\n\n\nNegotiation is easier at your current job. Your work ethic is already established.\nFrame/approach it as a problem-solving situation.\n\n\n08:05 Difficult Parts of Negotiation\n\n\nHarder to do up-front at new companies.\nCommunication concerns.\nWhat about emergencies?\nWorries about getting work done and job commitment.\n\n\n11:26 Scheduling Your Shorter Workweek\n\n\nBe courteous of your team.\nPlan around regularly-scheduled meetings.\n\n\n14:40  Utilizing Extra Time as a Parent\n\n17:52 Taking on Remote-Friendly Tasks + Peer Reactions\n\n20:12 Output Value + Impact\n\n\nYou can be productive and work shorter hours.\nThe better the management, the less of an issue.\nAsking yourself, \"What is enough work?\" can be a struggle to measure when you're not counting hours.\nHonor your commitments. \nParents are excellent multitaskers!!!\n\n\n28:44 Genius / Fail Moments\n\n\nKWu uses a sippy cup at night so she doesn't knock it over. (#Genius)\nChris told his daughter, \"You are not your homework,\" which was adapted from \"You are not your code!\" (#Genius)\nItmar's daughter's snack negotiation skills are getting more sophisticated. (#Genius/Fail)\nIt took less than 90 seconds for Allison's life to fall apart in her household! (#Fail)\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nKWu\nChris Sexton\nAllison McMillanSpecial Guest: Itamar Turner-Trauring.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 031: Negotiating A Shorter Workweek</h2>\n\n<h3>00:16 Welcome, Itamar Turner-Trauring</h3>\n\n<p>Itamar Turner-Trauring started his software career in the cutting-edge field of multimedia CD-ROMs. He currently works as a consultant helping <a href=\"https://pythonspeed.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">speed up Python code and deployments</a>, and shares his software and career mistakes every week with 3700 programmers on his <a href=\"https://softwareclown.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">Software Clown</a> newsletter. His crowning achievement as a parent was when months of brainwashing paid off and his daughter stopped saying &quot;my legs are tired&quot; and started saying &quot;my legs are getting stronger! Itmar is that author of <a href=\"https://codewithoutrules.com/3dayweekend/\" rel=\"nofollow\">&quot;You Can Negotiate A 3-Day Weekend&quot;</a>.</p>\n\n<h3>00:51 Working Part-Time as a Programmer and Writing a Book</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://codewithoutrules.com/3dayweekend/\" rel=\"nofollow\">&quot;You Can Negotiate A 3-Day Weekend</a></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>03:54 Overcoming &quot;This Isn&#39;t Normal&quot; or &quot;Entitlement&quot; Feelings</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Negotiation is easier at your current job. Your work ethic is already established.</li>\n<li>Frame/approach it as a problem-solving situation.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>08:05 Difficult Parts of Negotiation</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Harder to do up-front at new companies.</li>\n<li>Communication concerns.</li>\n<li>What about emergencies?</li>\n<li>Worries about getting work done and job commitment.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>11:26 Scheduling Your Shorter Workweek</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Be courteous of your team.</li>\n<li>Plan around regularly-scheduled meetings.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>14:40  Utilizing Extra Time as a Parent</h3>\n\n<h3>17:52 Taking on Remote-Friendly Tasks + Peer Reactions</h3>\n\n<h3>20:12 Output Value + Impact</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>You can be productive and work shorter hours.</li>\n<li>The better the management, the less of an issue.</li>\n<li>Asking yourself, &quot;What is enough work?&quot; can be a struggle to measure when you&#39;re not counting hours.</li>\n<li>Honor your commitments. </li>\n<li>Parents are excellent multitaskers!!!</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>28:44 Genius / Fail Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>KWu uses a sippy cup at night so she doesn&#39;t knock it over. (#Genius)</li>\n<li>Chris told his daughter, &quot;You are not your homework,&quot; which was adapted from &quot;You are not your code!&quot; (#Genius)</li>\n<li>Itmar&#39;s daughter&#39;s snack negotiation skills are getting more sophisticated. (#Genius/Fail)</li>\n<li>It took less than 90 seconds for Allison&#39;s life to fall apart in her household! (#Fail)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a></p><p>Special Guest: Itamar Turner-Trauring.</p>","summary":"Itamar Turner-Trauring talks about some of the tactics he wrote about in his book, \"You Can Negotiate A 3-Day Weekend\", such as overcoming \"this isn't normal\" and \"entitlement\" feelings, scheduling your shorter workweek, and optimizing your output value and impact when you're not measuring your working hours.","date_published":"2019-06-12T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/ba5bbf59-9875-4990-87dd-ee889da069b2.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":38620297,"duration_in_seconds":2275}]},{"id":"e752a45c-77c8-4704-ab22-536d297eb065","title":"030: Moving and Traveling Internationally","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/moving-and-traveling-internationally","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 030: Moving and Traveling Internationally\n\n00:11 Welcome, Annyce Davis!\n\n\nAnnyce spends her day-to-day working as a Software Developer and Leader. She has specifically been focused on Android applications for the past several years. She's also an Android Google Developer Expert. This means that she spends a lot of time developing videos, blog posts, and conference talks for the Developer Community.\nAnnyce is currently the Software Group Lead at a social impact startup called Zola Electric. They provide clean, transformative energy to households that suffer from expensive, unreliable grids or have no grid access at all. She gets to help impact the lives of people across Africa by developing a high-quality Android application that’s used by their entire sales force.\n\n\n01:25 Moving from the U.S. to Amsterdam\n\n\nFell in love with Europe about 4-5 years ago.\n2 years ago, had an opportunity to move for a job opportunity.\n\n\n02:55 Kids' Reactions to the Prospect of Moving / Transitioning After Moving\n\n\nWere worried about their grandparents and what the food would be like.\nCuriousity around schooling. Now attend an International School and take Dutch language lessions twice a week.\nAdjusting and acceptance of differences between life in the U.S. vs Amsterdam.\n\n\n09:35 Logistics of Relocation to Another Country\n\n\nA cleaning process for your life and letting things go.\nIf it wasn't sentimental, it went.\nRenting a furnished home.\nTake what you need to get through a few months. Shipping containers take a loooong time to be delivered.\n\n\n15:20 Giving Kids Worldly Experience at a Young Age\n\n\nExposure to diverse cultures.\nStatus/prestige differences.\nBlissful ignorance to certain things.\n\n\n19:26 Networks of Support &amp; Feeling American While Not in America\n\n\nHaving family send U.S. essentials!! Stock up while visiting.\nVisiting at least once a year.\n\n\n25:39 Travel Tips\n\n\nBring snacks.\nHave laundry soap.\nWear compression socks on the plane.\nFigure out the money situation in advance.\n\n\n31:43 Traveling Without Your Kids: Maintaining Relationships\n\n\nHaving a transparent schedule.\nTalk every day.\nBring souveniers.\nBeing a parent and pursuing your career: \n\n\nPeople ask me for career advice all of the time. Here's a cheer:Self-deprecate, self-deprecateJust smile and congratulateWork twice as hard for half the payPlay with your kids every other day GOOOOOOOOO CAREER!!! #happytuesday #morningthoughts pic.twitter.com/sEH2xkl4y0— Annyce Davis (@brwngrldev) April 23, 2019\n\n\nSet limits.\nMake it count when you're home.\nWhen you're away, the kids will be okay. And half the time, they don't even care! (They'll just make you feel guilty leading up to the trip.)\n\n\nWhat Do Teenagers Want? Potted Plant Parents\n\n45:37 Genius / Fail Moments\n\n\nKWu found convenient vegetables! (#Genius)\nAnnyce messed up the train schedule, so they walked and tired the kids out! (#Genius/Fail)\nMandy didn't pay attention to where her daughter way playing. Heeeeyyyyy, poison ivy! (#Fail)\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nKWu\nMandy MooreSpecial Guest: Annyce Davis.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 030: Moving and Traveling Internationally</h2>\n\n<h3>00:11 Welcome, Annyce Davis!</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Annyce spends her day-to-day working as a Software Developer and Leader. She has specifically been focused on Android applications for the past several years. She&#39;s also an Android <a href=\"https://developers.google.com/programs/experts/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Google Developer Expert</a>. This means that she spends a lot of time developing videos, blog posts, and conference talks for the Developer Community.</li>\n<li>Annyce is currently the Software Group Lead at a social impact startup called <a href=\"http://zolaelectric.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Zola Electric</a>. They provide clean, transformative energy to households that suffer from expensive, unreliable grids or have no grid access at all. She gets to help impact the lives of people across Africa by developing a high-quality Android application that’s used by their entire sales force.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>01:25 Moving from the U.S. to Amsterdam</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Fell in love with Europe about 4-5 years ago.</li>\n<li>2 years ago, had an opportunity to move for a job opportunity.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>02:55 Kids&#39; Reactions to the Prospect of Moving / Transitioning After Moving</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Were worried about their grandparents and what the food would be like.</li>\n<li>Curiousity around schooling. Now attend an International School and take Dutch language lessions twice a week.</li>\n<li>Adjusting and acceptance of differences between life in the U.S. vs Amsterdam.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>09:35 Logistics of Relocation to Another Country</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>A cleaning process for your life and letting things go.</li>\n<li>If it wasn&#39;t sentimental, it went.</li>\n<li>Renting a furnished home.</li>\n<li>Take what you need to get through a few months. Shipping containers take a loooong time to be delivered.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>15:20 Giving Kids Worldly Experience at a Young Age</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Exposure to diverse cultures.</li>\n<li>Status/prestige differences.</li>\n<li>Blissful ignorance to certain things.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>19:26 Networks of Support &amp; Feeling American While Not in America</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Having family send U.S. essentials!! Stock up while visiting.</li>\n<li>Visiting at least once a year.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>25:39 Travel Tips</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Bring snacks.</li>\n<li>Have laundry soap.</li>\n<li>Wear compression socks on the plane.</li>\n<li>Figure out the money situation in advance.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>31:43 Traveling Without Your Kids: Maintaining Relationships</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Having a transparent schedule.</li>\n<li>Talk every day.</li>\n<li>Bring souveniers.</li>\n<li>Being a parent and pursuing your career: </li>\n</ul>\n\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-lang=\"en\"><p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">People ask me for career advice all of the time. Here&#39;s a cheer:<br><br>Self-deprecate, self-deprecate<br>Just smile and congratulate<br>Work twice as hard for half the pay<br>Play with your kids every other day <br>GOOOOOOOOO CAREER!!! <a href=\"https://twitter.com/hashtag/happytuesday?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">#happytuesday</a> <a href=\"https://twitter.com/hashtag/morningthoughts?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">#morningthoughts</a> <a href=\"https://t.co/sEH2xkl4y0\">pic.twitter.com/sEH2xkl4y0</a></p>&mdash; Annyce Davis (@brwngrldev) <a href=\"https://twitter.com/brwngrldev/status/1120567701364199426?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">April 23, 2019</a></blockquote>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Set limits.</li>\n<li>Make it count when you&#39;re home.</li>\n<li>When you&#39;re away, the kids will be okay. And half the time, they don&#39;t even care! (They&#39;ll just make you feel guilty leading up to the trip.)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.nytimes.com/2016/12/14/well/family/what-do-teenagers-want-potted-plant-parents.html\" rel=\"nofollow\">What Do Teenagers Want? Potted Plant Parents</a></p>\n\n<h3>45:37 Genius / Fail Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>KWu found convenient vegetables! (#Genius)</li>\n<li>Annyce messed up the train schedule, so they walked and tired the kids out! (#Genius/Fail)</li>\n<li>Mandy didn&#39;t pay attention to where her daughter way playing. Heeeeyyyyy, poison ivy! (#Fail)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/therubyrep\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mandy Moore</a></p><p>Special Guest: Annyce Davis.</p>","summary":"Annyce Davis joins Mandy and KWu to talk about moving and traveling internationally: kids' reactions, the logistics of relocation, the benefits of giving kids worldly experience at a young age, and maintaining relationships with your family when you're not at home.","date_published":"2019-05-29T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/e752a45c-77c8-4704-ab22-536d297eb065.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":39546918,"duration_in_seconds":2999}]},{"id":"c5a98e09-b28e-42ad-84bc-6ec3245d13e8","title":"029: Organizing Conferences","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/organizing-conferences","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 029: Organizing Conferences\n\n00:57 Balancing Conferencing with Parenting\n\n\nAndy has organized RedDotRubyConf, still organizes Brighton Ruby, and has spoken the past few years at RubyConf.\nAndy also puts out an email newsletter, with one Ruby/Rails technique delivered with a ‘why?’ and a ‘how?’ every two weeks. It’s deliberately brief, focussed &amp; opinionated, and called One Ruby Thing.\nChris helps to co-organize Ruby For Good.\n\n\nSystems, systems, systems. \nStaying in the speaker hotel during crunch time. \nGetting paid helps.\nHaving no co-organizers = no extra communication challenges.\nRelying on your partner.\nStaying local helps.\nHaving a venue.\n\n\n\n06:52 Conference Sizes: How Big is Big?\n\n\nAndy runs Brighton Ruby as a single track, one-day conference of 300-400.\nRuby Central conferences by comparison are up to about 1,000 attendees and multi-track over 3-4 days.\nRuby For Good is about 80 people, but has less of a conference feel because it's groups of people hacking on different projects over a few days.\n\n\n09:46 Classifying These Gatherings as \"Work-Adjacent Hobbies\"\n\n\nBenefits the career.\nMeeting, networking, and making friends.\nFeel-good factor.\nPrioritization.\nTime frees up as kids have gotten older. \n\n\n19:30 Family Involvement\n\n\nKids on stage are cute.\nTeenagers can help volunteer!\nOsmosis of exposure. This is what mom/dad does!\nShowing that work does not necessarily equal drudgery.\n\n\n22:30 Behind-The-Scenes Tradeoffs\n\n\nThe best track at any conference is the speaker track.\n\n\nCoaching, mentoring, and cheering on first-time speakers.\n\nRepetition of putting on conferences over the years = it gets easier, more fun, and less stressful.\n\n\nAtomic Habits\n\n\n\n28:21 Meal Kits and Meal Planning Conversation\n\n\nWe all have tried them. We all have opinions. We are definitely open for sponsorship. Email us! 👇🏻\n\n\n32:36  Getting Involved in Conferences (for those who are brave enough)\n\n\nSpeak.\nVolunteer.\nConference Scholar/Guide Programs. i.e. Ruby Central's\nCommunity Meetups\n\n\n37:46 Genius / Fail Moments\n\n\nAndy's kids learning empathy from movies. (#Genius)\nChris forgot to pack his son's main lunch entreé and left it in the microwave! (#Fail)\nJosh's daughter revealing she has a video clip of the two of them from when she was very little and being fond of watching it often. (Genius)\nKWu's son fell and hit his head 🤕. (#Fail)\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nChris Sexton\nKWu\nJosh Puetz\nAndy Croll","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 029: Organizing Conferences</h2>\n\n<h3>00:57 Balancing Conferencing with Parenting</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Andy has organized <a href=\"https://www.reddotrubyconf.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">RedDotRubyConf</a>, still organizes <a href=\"https://brightonruby.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Brighton Ruby</a>, and has spoken the past few years at <a href=\"https://rubyconf.org/\" rel=\"nofollow\">RubyConf</a>.</li>\n<li>Andy also puts out an email newsletter, with one Ruby/Rails technique delivered with a ‘why?’ and a ‘how?’ every two weeks. It’s deliberately brief, focussed &amp; opinionated, and called <a href=\"https://onerubything.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">One Ruby Thing</a>.</li>\n<li>Chris helps to co-organize <a href=\"https://rubyforgood.org/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Ruby For Good</a>.\n\n<ul>\n<li>Systems, systems, systems. </li>\n<li>Staying in the speaker hotel during crunch time. </li>\n<li>Getting paid helps.</li>\n<li>Having no co-organizers = no extra communication challenges.</li>\n<li>Relying on your partner.</li>\n<li>Staying local helps.</li>\n<li>Having a venue.</li>\n</ul></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>06:52 Conference Sizes: How Big is Big?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Andy runs Brighton Ruby as a single track, one-day conference of 300-400.</li>\n<li><a href=\"http://rubycentral.org/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Ruby Central</a> conferences by comparison are up to about 1,000 attendees and multi-track over 3-4 days.</li>\n<li>Ruby For Good is about 80 people, but has less of a conference feel because it&#39;s groups of people hacking on different projects over a few days.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>09:46 Classifying These Gatherings as &quot;Work-Adjacent Hobbies&quot;</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Benefits the career.</li>\n<li>Meeting, networking, and making friends.</li>\n<li>Feel-good factor.</li>\n<li>Prioritization.</li>\n<li>Time frees up as kids have gotten older. </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>19:30 Family Involvement</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Kids on stage are cute.</li>\n<li>Teenagers can help volunteer!</li>\n<li>Osmosis of exposure. This is what mom/dad does!</li>\n<li>Showing that work does not necessarily equal drudgery.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>22:30 Behind-The-Scenes Tradeoffs</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>The best track at any conference is the speaker track.\n\n<ul>\n<li>Coaching, mentoring, and cheering on first-time speakers.</li>\n</ul></li>\n<li>Repetition of putting on conferences over the years = it gets easier, more fun, and less stressful.\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0735211299/ref=as_li_qf_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=therubyrep-20&creative=9325&linkCode=as2&creativeASIN=0735211299&linkId=a6154fb4886e2b76620e69e1d1f699a2\" rel=\"nofollow\">Atomic Habits</a></li>\n</ul></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>28:21 Meal Kits and Meal Planning Conversation</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>We all have tried them. We all have opinions. We are definitely open for sponsorship. Email us! 👇🏻</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>32:36  Getting Involved in Conferences (for those who are brave enough)</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Speak.</li>\n<li>Volunteer.</li>\n<li>Conference Scholar/Guide Programs. i.e. <a href=\"http://rubycentral.org/community#scholarship\" rel=\"nofollow\">Ruby Central&#39;s</a></li>\n<li>Community Meetups</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>37:46 Genius / Fail Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Andy&#39;s kids learning empathy from movies. (#Genius)</li>\n<li>Chris forgot to pack his son&#39;s main lunch entreé and left it in the microwave! (#Fail)</li>\n<li>Josh&#39;s daughter revealing she has a video clip of the two of them from when she was very little and being fond of watching it often. (Genius)</li>\n<li>KWu&#39;s son fell and hit his head 🤕. (#Fail)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/andycroll\" rel=\"nofollow\">Andy Croll</a></p>","summary":"Andy Croll and Chris Sexton talk about their experiences with juggling organizing conferences and parenting.","date_published":"2019-05-15T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/c5a98e09-b28e-42ad-84bc-6ec3245d13e8.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":38269986,"duration_in_seconds":2695}]},{"id":"d6fe95e9-0507-4f1f-b32d-fe7b32a439ee","title":"028: Primary Caregiving","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/primary-caregiving","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 028: Primary Caregiving\n\n00:17 Introducing Guest, Nick Gauthier! Becoming a Full-time Parent\n\nNick is currently the CTO and Co-founder at Nomics. Before co-founding Nomics, Nick created MeetSpace, a video conferencing application for distributed teams. Before that, Nick worked at Codeship on the Codeship Pro Continuous Delivery platform, as well as various other web application consulting projects in Ruby on Rails, Go, and JavaScript. \n\n03:55 Being a Full-Time Parent as a Man\n\n\n\"Aww, you're babysitting!\" 🙄\nExperiences with \"Mommy and Me\" groups and Meetups.\nFeeling instrusive in Mom spaces.\nBreaking into a \"Mommy Group\".\n\n\n08:17 Partner Dynamics and Making Decisions\n\n\nGetting the scoop and being thankful to not have other parents' problems.\nLiking vs not liking the baby phase.\n\n\n11:07 Changes as Baby Grows\n\n\nTransitioning to a nanny but still working from home.\nWhen going to work is a \"vacation\" or an \"escape\".\nFielding distractions.\n\n\n17:11 How Having a Child Has Changed the Way Nick Works\n\n\nWorking with other parents.\nContext switching and protecting time.\nAsynchronous communication.\n\n\n24:16 Communication Service Level Agreements (SLAs)\n\n\nAny communication, the normal expected turnaround time is 24 hours; unless in text is says urgent.\nCell phone calls are last resort, but must be answered.\nEverything is \"Do Not Disturb\".\nKeep communcation very close to or 100% on topic.\n\n\n29:06 Team Relationship Building + Watercooler Talk\n\n\nOptional \"huddles\" with no agenda. Explicit watercooler time.\nCompany retreats.\n\n\n31:21 Genius / Fail Moments\n\n\nNick's daughter announced \"Oh yeah! Get some beer!\" in the middle of the store. (#Fail) But, she is mastering potty training with M&amp;Ms as rewards! (#Genius)\nChris: M&amp;M inflation. (#Fail) \"Scream Parade\" on the other hand... (#Genius)\nAllison: Flow picture charts for the morning on what her son needs to do to leave the house 👍🏻. (#Genius)\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nJosh Puetz\nChris Sexton\nAllison McMillanSpecial Guest: Nick Gauthier.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 028: Primary Caregiving</h2>\n\n<h3>00:17 Introducing Guest, Nick Gauthier! Becoming a Full-time Parent</h3>\n\n<p>Nick is currently the CTO and Co-founder at <a href=\"https://nomics.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Nomics</a>. Before co-founding Nomics, Nick created <a href=\"https://www.meetspaceapp.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">MeetSpace</a>, a video conferencing application for distributed teams. Before that, Nick worked at <a href=\"http://codeship.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Codeship</a> on the Codeship Pro Continuous Delivery platform, as well as various other web application consulting projects in Ruby on Rails, Go, and JavaScript. </p>\n\n<h3>03:55 Being a Full-Time Parent as a Man</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>&quot;Aww, you&#39;re babysitting!&quot; 🙄</li>\n<li>Experiences with &quot;Mommy and Me&quot; groups and Meetups.</li>\n<li>Feeling instrusive in Mom spaces.</li>\n<li>Breaking into a &quot;Mommy Group&quot;.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>08:17 Partner Dynamics and Making Decisions</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Getting the scoop and being thankful to not have other parents&#39; problems.</li>\n<li>Liking vs not liking the baby phase.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>11:07 Changes as Baby Grows</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Transitioning to a nanny but still working from home.</li>\n<li>When going to work is a &quot;vacation&quot; or an &quot;escape&quot;.</li>\n<li>Fielding distractions.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>17:11 How Having a Child Has Changed the Way Nick Works</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Working with other parents.</li>\n<li>Context switching and protecting time.</li>\n<li>Asynchronous communication.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>24:16 Communication Service Level Agreements (SLAs)</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Any communication, the normal expected turnaround time is 24 hours; unless in text is says urgent.</li>\n<li>Cell phone calls are last resort, but must be answered.</li>\n<li>Everything is &quot;Do Not Disturb&quot;.</li>\n<li>Keep communcation very close to or 100% on topic.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>29:06 Team Relationship Building + Watercooler Talk</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Optional &quot;huddles&quot; with no agenda. Explicit watercooler time.</li>\n<li>Company retreats.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>31:21 Genius / Fail Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Nick&#39;s daughter announced &quot;Oh yeah! Get some beer!&quot; in the middle of the store. (#Fail) But, she is mastering potty training with M&amp;Ms as rewards! (#Genius)</li>\n<li>Chris: M&amp;M inflation. (#Fail) &quot;Scream Parade&quot; on the other hand... (#Genius)</li>\n<li>Allison: Flow picture charts for the morning on what her son needs to do to leave the house 👍🏻. (#Genius)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a></p><p>Special Guest: Nick Gauthier.</p>","summary":"In this episode, Nick Gauthier stops by to talk about being a full-time parent as a man, partner dynamics and making decisions, how having a child has changed the way Nick works, and why he is a big proponent of Communication Service Level Agreements (SLAs).","date_published":"2019-05-01T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/d6fe95e9-0507-4f1f-b32d-fe7b32a439ee.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":33703587,"duration_in_seconds":2370}]},{"id":"623050f1-9170-4034-a958-f2c8faab9de9","title":"027: Fear Mongering and Inducing Panic","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/fear-mongering","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 027: Fear Mongering and Inducing Panic\n\nShow Background Resources\n\n\nMomo challenge: The real victims of the hoax are the parents who believe it\nMomo Is as Real as We’ve Made Her\nA pediatrician exposes suicide tips for children hidden in videos on YouTube and YouTube Kids\n\n\n01:29 Firsthand Experience?\n\n\nMandy's daughter had no idea about any of this until it was brought to her attention.\n\n\n03:17 Momo Challenges (maybe?) Explained\n\n06:11 What do we do as parents to protect our kids?\n\n\nDo we lock them down from consuming all the media, or do we let them consume it and deal with it?\nEducating our kids and guiding them when things come up.\nChecking in with them during media consumption.\nBeing honest.\n\n\n15:13 History of Moral Panics\n\n\nMoral panics happen when young people get involved in something parents just don’t understand.\nDo we, as technologists, have an advantage in understanding better than non-technologists? \n\n\n22:15 Rules and Boundaries -- Letting Live and Letting Go\n\n\nThe \"But what if?\" Mindset\nAge restrictions.\nIgnoring the trolls.\nTracking/monitoring your child via GPS location.\n\n\nFind My Friends App\n\n\n\n32:03 What To Do When Things Happen\n\n\nFlagging.\nReporting.\nCalling authorities.\n\n\n36:57 Genius / Fail Moments\n\n\n Jess: Her son picked up the ukelele! (#Genius)\n JC: Winding down involvement in extracurricular activities. (#Bittersweet)\n Chris: Baseball as a low-pressure team sport. (#Genius)\n Mandy: Her daughter picked up her Mimi's birthday tradition without prompting. (#Adorable)\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nJess Szmajda\nMandy Moore\nJC Avena\nChris Sexton","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 027: Fear Mongering and Inducing Panic</h2>\n\n<h3>Show Background Resources</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.independent.co.uk/news/long_reads/momo-challenge-internet-viral-hoax-parents-a8806836.html\" rel=\"nofollow\">Momo challenge: The real victims of the hoax are the parents who believe it</a></li>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/02/style/momo-mania-hoax.html\" rel=\"nofollow\">Momo Is as Real as We’ve Made Her</a></li>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.washingtonpost.com/technology/2019/02/24/pediatrician-exposes-suicide-tips-children-hidden-videos-youtube-youtube-kids/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.e8215c20ac71\" rel=\"nofollow\">A pediatrician exposes suicide tips for children hidden in videos on YouTube and YouTube Kids</a></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>01:29 Firsthand Experience?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Mandy&#39;s daughter had no idea about any of this until it was brought to her attention.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>03:17 Momo Challenges (maybe?) Explained</h3>\n\n<h3>06:11 What do we do as parents to protect our kids?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Do we lock them down from consuming <em>all</em> the media, or do we let them consume it and deal with it?</li>\n<li>Educating our kids and guiding them when things come up.</li>\n<li>Checking in with them during media consumption.</li>\n<li>Being honest.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>15:13 History of Moral Panics</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Moral panics happen when young people get involved in something parents just don’t understand.</li>\n<li>Do we, as technologists, have an advantage in understanding better than non-technologists? </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>22:15 Rules and Boundaries -- Letting Live and Letting Go</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>The &quot;But what if?&quot; Mindset</li>\n<li>Age restrictions.</li>\n<li>Ignoring the trolls.</li>\n<li>Tracking/monitoring your child via GPS location.\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/find-my-friends/id466122094?mt=8\" rel=\"nofollow\">Find My Friends App</a></li>\n</ul></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>32:03 What To Do When Things Happen</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Flagging.</li>\n<li>Reporting.</li>\n<li>Calling authorities.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>36:57 Genius / Fail Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li> Jess: Her son picked up the ukelele! (#Genius)</li>\n<li> JC: Winding down involvement in extracurricular activities. (#Bittersweet)</li>\n<li> Chris: Baseball as a low-pressure team sport. (#Genius)</li>\n<li> Mandy: Her daughter picked up her Mimi&#39;s birthday tradition without prompting. (#Adorable)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/jszmajda\" rel=\"nofollow\">Jess Szmajda</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/therubyrep\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mandy Moore</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jcavena\" rel=\"nofollow\">JC Avena</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a></p>","summary":"Due to the \"Momo Challenge\": the latest in a series of internet \"challenges\" and urban legends, Chris, Jess, JC, and Mandy talk about fear mongering and inducing panic: What do we do as parents to protect our kids? Do we, as technologists, have an advantage in understanding \"hoaxes\" better than non-technologists? Should we ignore the hype and \"let live and let go?\" And how much do we/should we be monitoring our kids?","date_published":"2019-04-17T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/623050f1-9170-4034-a958-f2c8faab9de9.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":39160736,"duration_in_seconds":2410}]},{"id":"724b49af-f991-45d5-9e53-f8b54f693dde","title":"026: Breastfeeding","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/breastfeeding","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 026: Breastfeeding\n\n01:21 Making Feeding Decisions\n\n\nKWu and Allison both breastfed. Mandy did not.\nFeeling tied down vs feeling guilt.\n\n\n13:32 Things They Don't Tell You\n\n\nNursing clothes suck.\nLactation happens even if you don't breastfeed!\nSo many people struggle with nursing issues.\nHormone shifts as you ween.\n\n\n19:05 Navigating Conflicting Information\n\n\nEveryone has an opinion.\nThere is no one way to do it.\n\n\n30:30 Breastfeeding in Public\n\n\nWhen kids play with your boobs.\nCovers are B.S.\n\n\n33:18 Toddler Talk\n\n\nFeeding around siblings.\n\n\n34:34 Health Benefits and Science\n\n36:57 Genius / Fail Moments\n\n\n KWu: Her son stole her husband's credit card! (#Fail)\n Allison: Forgot about the Kinder Egg. (#Fail)\n Mandy: Youth/Adult Bowling League fun. (#Genius)\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nKWu\nMandy Moore\nAllison McMillan","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 026: Breastfeeding</h2>\n\n<h3>01:21 Making Feeding Decisions</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>KWu and Allison both breastfed. Mandy did not.</li>\n<li>Feeling tied down vs feeling guilt.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>13:32 Things They Don&#39;t Tell You</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Nursing clothes suck.</li>\n<li>Lactation happens even if you don&#39;t breastfeed!</li>\n<li>So many people struggle with nursing issues.</li>\n<li>Hormone shifts as you ween.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>19:05 Navigating Conflicting Information</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Everyone has an opinion.</li>\n<li>There is no one way to do it.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>30:30 Breastfeeding in Public</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>When kids play with your boobs.</li>\n<li>Covers are B.S.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>33:18 Toddler Talk</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Feeding around siblings.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>34:34 Health Benefits and Science</h3>\n\n<h3>36:57 Genius / Fail Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li> KWu: Her son stole her husband&#39;s credit card! (#Fail)</li>\n<li> Allison: Forgot about the Kinder Egg. (#Fail)</li>\n<li> Mandy: Youth/Adult Bowling League fun. (#Genius)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugrl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/therubyrep\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mandy Moore</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a></p>","summary":"Allison, Mandy, and KWu talk about their experiences (or non-experiences!) with breastfeeding. They chat about the things people don't tell you, navigating conflicting information, and the challenges and woes of breastfeeding in public.","date_published":"2019-03-27T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/724b49af-f991-45d5-9e53-f8b54f693dde.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":36057783,"duration_in_seconds":2567}]},{"id":"2bb4aa6d-edd3-4518-a4d4-c8b9c45520fa","title":"025: Girls in STEM","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/girls-in-stem","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 025: Girls in STEM\n\n00:34 Why Joulez?\n\n\nGetting girls and women engaged in technology\nLending opportunity for girls in the 8-12 age bracket\nThe Juelez Formula:\n\n\nIdentity\nVocabulary\nSkills\nTribe\n\n\n\n06:05 Designing Into Motivation\n\n\nFixed vs Growth Mindset\nTufts University Center for Engineering Education and Outreach\nMarrying fun and education\nProgramming and Computer Programming\n\n\n15:35 How can parents help?\n\n\nContext\nVocabulary\nBuilding with them\n\n\n22:38 Gender\n\n\nExpanding contexts in which we engage children in STEM\nWhere are the toys that build empathy in boys?\nProviding opportunity for people of all sorts\nAs a society we have a lot of unlearning to do\n\n\n33:41 Genius / Fail Moments\n\n\n Chris: Snow day stress and frustration. (#Fail)\n Jess: Providing printed pictures for her son (due to his lack of having access electronically)! (#Genius)\n KWu: Buying a \"Baby's First Chinese New Year\" book....when it was his second. (#Fail)\n Stephanie: Extensive troubleshooting...when it was just a loose pin. (#Fail) Lesson learned? Troubleshooting is important! (#Genius)\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nKWu\nJess Szmajda\nChris SextonSpecial Guest: Stephanie Rowe.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 025: Girls in STEM</h2>\n\n<h3>00:34 Why <a href=\"https://www.joulez.co/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Joulez</a>?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Getting girls and women engaged in technology</li>\n<li>Lending opportunity for girls in the 8-12 age bracket</li>\n<li>The Juelez Formula:\n\n<ul>\n<li>Identity</li>\n<li>Vocabulary</li>\n<li>Skills</li>\n<li>Tribe</li>\n</ul></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>06:05 Designing Into Motivation</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.mindsetworks.com/science/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Fixed vs Growth Mindset</a></li>\n<li><a href=\"https://ceeo.tufts.edu/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Tufts University Center for Engineering Education and Outreach</a></li>\n<li>Marrying fun and education</li>\n<li>Programming and <em>Computer</em> Programming</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>15:35 How can parents help?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Context</li>\n<li>Vocabulary</li>\n<li>Building with them</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>22:38 Gender</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Expanding contexts in which we engage children in STEM</li>\n<li>Where are the toys that build empathy in boys?</li>\n<li>Providing opportunity for people of all sorts</li>\n<li>As a society we have a lot of unlearning to do</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>33:41 Genius / Fail Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li> Chris: Snow day stress and frustration. (#Fail)</li>\n<li> Jess: Providing printed pictures for her son (due to his lack of having access electronically)! (#Genius)</li>\n<li> KWu: Buying a &quot;Baby&#39;s First Chinese New Year&quot; book....when it was his second. (#Fail)</li>\n<li> Stephanie: Extensive troubleshooting...when it was just a loose pin. (#Fail) Lesson learned? Troubleshooting is important! (#Genius)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugrl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jszmajda\" rel=\"nofollow\">Jess Szmajda</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a></p><p>Special Guest: Stephanie Rowe.</p>","summary":"Stephanie Rowe, the founder and CEO of Juelez, joins the panel to talk about getting girls involved in STEM. Conversations around topics such as designing into motivation, how parents can help, and gender ensue. ","date_published":"2019-03-13T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/2bb4aa6d-edd3-4518-a4d4-c8b9c45520fa.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":38516763,"duration_in_seconds":2446}]},{"id":"08965c5a-604e-4ae0-be40-67a64b2e6dc1","title":"024: Teaching Kids to Code","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/teaching-kids-to-code","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 024: Teaching Kids to Code\n\n01:29 Winding up in a developer evangelist role and teaching coding\n\n02:58  Teaching younger vs older audiences\n\n03:52 Getting kids motivated in the coding space\n\n\nScratch \n\n\n05:13 The benefits for kids who know coding literacy\n\n\nThe Hour of Code\n\n\n08:16 Kevin's background in coding\n\n08:45 Using Twilio (and real-world technology and tools) in teaching kids to code\n\n13:31 Resources &amp; Tools\n\n\nGlitch\nCodeCombat\n\n\n15:24 Is Minecraft useful?\n\n18:11 Next level resources\n\n\nCodecademy\nLearn Python the Hard Way\nTwilioQuest\n\n\n19:46 Helping passionate kids along the way (without scaring them away)\n\n\nEvents, Hackathons, and Conferences\n\n\nTHAT Conference\n\n\n\n31:05 Genius / Fail Moments\n\n\n Josh: Putting a bandaid (glass screen protector) over his daughter's broken iPad screen. (#Genius)\n Chris: Letting his daughter make pasta! (#Genius)\n Kevin:  Letting his daughter make pancakes! (#Genius)\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nChris Sexton\nJosh PuetzSpecial Guest: Kevin Whinnery.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 024: Teaching Kids to Code</h2>\n\n<h3>01:29 Winding up in a developer evangelist role and teaching coding</h3>\n\n<h3>02:58  Teaching younger vs older audiences</h3>\n\n<h3>03:52 Getting kids motivated in the coding space</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://scratch.mit.edu/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Scratch</a> </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>05:13 The benefits for kids who know coding literacy</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://hourofcode.com/us\" rel=\"nofollow\">The Hour of Code</a></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>08:16 Kevin&#39;s background in coding</h3>\n\n<h3>08:45 Using Twilio (and real-world technology and tools) in teaching kids to code</h3>\n\n<h3>13:31 Resources &amp; Tools</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://glitch.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Glitch</a></li>\n<li><a href=\"https://codecombat.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">CodeCombat</a></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>15:24 Is <a href=\"https://minecraft.net/en-us/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Minecraft</a> useful?</h3>\n\n<h3>18:11 Next level resources</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.codecademy.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Codecademy</a></li>\n<li><a href=\"https://learnpythonthehardway.org/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Learn Python the Hard Way</a></li>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.twilio.com/quest/welcome\" rel=\"nofollow\">TwilioQuest</a></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>19:46 Helping passionate kids along the way (without scaring them away)</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Events, Hackathons, and Conferences\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.thatconference.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">THAT Conference</a></li>\n</ul></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>31:05 Genius / Fail Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li> Josh: Putting a bandaid (glass screen protector) over his daughter&#39;s broken iPad screen. (#Genius)</li>\n<li> Chris: Letting his daughter make pasta! (#Genius)</li>\n<li> Kevin:  Letting his daughter make pancakes! (#Genius)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a></p><p>Special Guest: Kevin Whinnery.</p>","summary":"In this episode, Kevin Whinnery of Twilio joins the show to talk about teaching kids to code: getting them motivated, benefits to becoming coding literate, and using real-world technology and tools to pique their interest.","date_published":"2019-02-27T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/08965c5a-604e-4ae0-be40-67a64b2e6dc1.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":26356482,"duration_in_seconds":1862}]},{"id":"6b155f97-988f-48bc-a9ca-c699130535a1","title":"023: The Holidays: A Retrospective","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/the-holidays-a-retrospective","content_text":"** Warning: This episode contains potential holiday spoilers for young children.\n\nParent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 023: The Holidays: A Retrospective\n\n00:18 Spending the holidays with your extended family...\n\n\nWhen families celebrate different holidays and observe different religions\nCode-switching\n\n\n12:28 ...Or spending the holidays alone and making new traditions!\n\n\nElf on the Shelf\nNORAD Santa Tracker\n\n\n17:00 Compromise and Respect; Expectation Setting\n\n\nWhen kids are younger, the holidays don't matter as much.\nYou want to pass on things you did as a child to your own child(ren)\n\n\n25:31 The Reality\n\n\nWhen no one pays attention to your wishes\nThoughts about the future\n\n\n31:05 Genius / Fail Moments\n\n\n Mandy: Remembered to move the Elf every day this year! (#Genius)\n Allison: Her and her husband remembered that their local avaition museum membership had a sister museum close to her inlaws. (#Genius)\n KWu: Her son blew his diaper in the carseat on the way home from her parent's house and uninstalled the carseat. (#Fail)\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nMandy Moore\nKWu\nAllison McMillan","content_html":"<p>** Warning: This episode contains potential holiday spoilers for young children.</p>\n\n<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 023: The Holidays: A Retrospective</h2>\n\n<h3>00:18 Spending the holidays with your extended family...</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>When families celebrate different holidays and observe different religions</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Code-switching\" rel=\"nofollow\">Code-switching</a></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>12:28 ...Or spending the holidays alone and making new traditions!</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.elfontheshelf.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Elf on the Shelf</a></li>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.noradsanta.org/\" rel=\"nofollow\">NORAD Santa Tracker</a></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>17:00 Compromise and Respect; Expectation Setting</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>When kids are younger, the holidays don&#39;t matter as much.</li>\n<li>You want to pass on things you did as a child to your own child(ren)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>25:31 The Reality</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>When no one pays attention to your wishes</li>\n<li>Thoughts about the future</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>31:05 Genius / Fail Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li> Mandy: Remembered to move the Elf every day this year! (#Genius)</li>\n<li> Allison: Her and her husband remembered that their local avaition museum membership had a sister museum close to her inlaws. (#Genius)</li>\n<li> KWu: Her son blew his diaper in the carseat on the way home from her parent&#39;s house and uninstalled the carseat. (#Fail)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/therubyrep\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mandy Moore</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a></p>","summary":"Warning: This episode contains potential holiday spoilers for young children.\r\n\r\nAllison, KWu, and Mandy talk about their holiday experiences: what they did this past year, their feelings about it, old traditions that they try to honor, and what they could do differently in the future.","date_published":"2019-02-13T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/6b155f97-988f-48bc-a9ca-c699130535a1.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":34133455,"duration_in_seconds":2178}]},{"id":"f7d54a66-6779-4262-bc88-fbbd8512150b","title":"022: Single Parenting","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/single-parenting","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 022: Single Parenting\n\n00:46 Single parenting is becoming more common...\n\n\n... but events can feel ostracizing.\nLogistics are hard to navigate.\nThere are full-time and half-time single parents.\n\n\n04:06 It takes a village\n\n\nHaving a support system. (Friends, neighbors, family members)\nNon-nuclear families / modern family situations.\n\n\n10:55 Dating as a single parent\n\n\nIntroducing kids to significant others.\nWhen is it appropriate?\nWhen kids do/don't get attached to partners.\n\n\n21:27 Challenges and eases of single parenting\n\n\nDrama: engaging and avoiding.\nMaking decisions solo vs with someone else.\nHolding onto resentment/anger/confusion/disappointment towards the other parent.\nQuestions from kids as they get older.\nSometimes you just want to quit!\n\n\n35:15 Supporting single parents\n\n\nTalk to them.\nDon't ask intrusive questions.\nDon't assume single parents live off of child support.\nJust don't assume, period.\n\n\n39:43 Genius / Fail Moments\n\n\n Mandy: Her daughter made sure she had Christmas presents. (#Genius)\n Allison: Her son specifically wants to donate to a hospital on a beach that helps Jewish boys with broken bones that are healing. (#Genius)\n Jess: Took her son's stuffed animal on adventures because he forgot him at home. (#Genius)\n KWu: Her son is trying awesome new foods and less than 50% ends up on the floor! (#Genius)\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nMandy Moore\nKWu\nJess Szmajda\nAllison McMillan","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 022: Single Parenting</h2>\n\n<h3>00:46 Single parenting is becoming more common...</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>... but events can feel ostracizing.</li>\n<li>Logistics are hard to navigate.</li>\n<li>There are full-time and half-time single parents.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>04:06 It takes a village</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Having a support system. (Friends, neighbors, family members)</li>\n<li>Non-nuclear families / modern family situations.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>10:55 Dating as a single parent</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Introducing kids to significant others.</li>\n<li>When is it appropriate?</li>\n<li>When kids do/don&#39;t get attached to partners.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>21:27 Challenges and eases of single parenting</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Drama: engaging and avoiding.</li>\n<li>Making decisions solo vs with someone else.</li>\n<li>Holding onto resentment/anger/confusion/disappointment towards the other parent.</li>\n<li>Questions from kids as they get older.</li>\n<li>Sometimes you just want to quit!</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>35:15 Supporting single parents</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Talk to them.</li>\n<li>Don&#39;t ask intrusive questions.</li>\n<li>Don&#39;t assume single parents live off of child support.</li>\n<li>Just don&#39;t assume, period.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>39:43 Genius / Fail Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li> Mandy: Her daughter made sure she had Christmas presents. (#Genius)</li>\n<li> Allison: Her son specifically wants to donate to a hospital on a beach that helps Jewish boys with broken bones that are healing. (#Genius)</li>\n<li> Jess: Took her son&#39;s stuffed animal on adventures because he forgot him at home. (#Genius)</li>\n<li> KWu: Her son is trying awesome new foods and less than 50% ends up on the floor! (#Genius)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/therubyrep\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mandy Moore</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jszmajda\" rel=\"nofollow\">Jess Szmajda</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a></p>","summary":"In this episode, Mandy, Jess, Allison, and KWu talk about single parenting: how it's becoming more common, but that there are still stigmas attached to it, choosing your village, dating, specific challenges, and how others can be supportive.","date_published":"2019-01-30T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/f7d54a66-6779-4262-bc88-fbbd8512150b.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":42484020,"duration_in_seconds":2836}]},{"id":"544d91d7-1dba-4b5a-a6b1-490a3d263403","title":"021: Self-Care For Parents","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/self-care","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 021: Self-Care For Parents\n\n00:25 Defining Self-Care\n\n\nRefilling your energy bucket.\nNaps.\nTaking care of your human body.\nParenting yourself.\n\n\n04:50 Flexible Sleep and Work Schedules\n\n\nTreating yourself with respect and kindness.\nDoing things for the good of the family.\n\n\n10:56 Parenting Identities\n\n\nTime spent caregiving vs adulting.\nHaving different strengths as parents.\nHaving a network of \"other\" parents and families. \"Intentional Community.\"\n\n\n17:24 Specific Self-Care Suggestions\n\n\nSetting your environment.\nMeditation.\nHaving non-distracting routines and activities.\nCooking.\nCreative outlets: Music, etc.\n\n\n27:05 Being Okay with Kids Temporary Unhappiness and Discomfort\n\n\nYes Spaces.\nIgnoring tantrums.\n\n\n30:49 Genius / Fail Moments\n\n\n KWu: Her son called her Mama!! (#Genius)\n Chris: Teaching his kids sarcasm. (#Genius)\n Jess: Teaching her son to use Google Home to tell him jokes! (#Genius)\n Mandy: Mazie's first chorus concert. (#Genius)\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nMandy Moore\nKWu\nJess Szmajda\nChris Sexton","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 021: Self-Care For Parents</h2>\n\n<h3>00:25 Defining Self-Care</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Refilling your energy bucket.</li>\n<li>Naps.</li>\n<li>Taking care of your human body.</li>\n<li>Parenting yourself.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>04:50 Flexible Sleep and Work Schedules</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Treating yourself with respect and kindness.</li>\n<li>Doing things for the good of the family.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>10:56 Parenting Identities</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Time spent caregiving vs adulting.</li>\n<li>Having different strengths as parents.</li>\n<li>Having a network of &quot;other&quot; parents and families. &quot;Intentional Community.&quot;</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>17:24 Specific Self-Care Suggestions</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Setting your environment.</li>\n<li>Meditation.</li>\n<li>Having non-distracting routines and activities.</li>\n<li>Cooking.</li>\n<li>Creative outlets: Music, etc.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>27:05 Being Okay with Kids Temporary Unhappiness and Discomfort</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.janetlansbury.com/2014/08/play-space-inspiration/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Yes Spaces</a>.</li>\n<li>Ignoring tantrums.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>30:49 Genius / Fail Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li> KWu: Her son called her Mama!! (#Genius)</li>\n<li> Chris: Teaching his kids sarcasm. (#Genius)</li>\n<li> Jess: Teaching her son to use Google Home to tell him jokes! (#Genius)</li>\n<li> Mandy: Mazie&#39;s first chorus concert. (#Genius)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/therubyrep\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mandy Moore</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jszmajda\" rel=\"nofollow\">Jess Szmajda</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a></p>","summary":"In this episode, the panelists talk about the importance of self-care: having routines, setting environments, and taking time for yourselves as individuals while being okay with your child's temporary discomfort and happiness.","date_published":"2019-01-16T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/544d91d7-1dba-4b5a-a6b1-490a3d263403.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":31018748,"duration_in_seconds":2139}]},{"id":"78f1a78c-f8f9-45db-96c5-28af6a980f38","title":"020: Fertility Struggles","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/fertility-struggles","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 020: Fertility Struggles\n\n00:23 Welcome, Adam Cuppy!\n\nAdam started as a professional actor, turned the corner into advertising, and found his way to tech entrepreneurship and education. Adam performed for the world-renowned Oregon Shakespeare Festival before making his way into creative direction for Dutch Bros. Coffee, where he oversaw brand strategy for all of their franchised locations. After six years at Dutch Bros., he co-founded Define Your Edge; the mission: to maximize the customer experience, understand the “why,” and let that influences the “how.” Within a few years, he co-founded Zeal.\n\nWhen not writing code, he speaks internationally on company culture, software development best-practices, and agile methodologies. And, if you’re one of the rare few, you may catch him on stage.\n\n01:17 Adam's Background with Fertility Struggles\n\nAdam and his wife tried for many years to conceive a child naturally before deciding to undergo medical testing to better determine any underlying issues as to why they were unable to do so. Initially, everyone assumed it was his wife, Julia, who was experiencing problems and was unable to get pregnant, however, it turned out that Adam was the one experiencing problems across the board.\n\n\nRoughly 15% of couples have issues with getting pregnant.\n\n\nAdam first went an got a personal trainer in attempt to increase testosterone levels naturally, and though they explored more invasive means of conception including IVF, they did not have to go that route and ending up conceiving about four months later.\n\n08:55 The Emotional Weight of the Journey\n\nThe feeling of failure weighed heavily, especially when it seemed like everyone around them (but them) was getting pregnant and having kids. Unfortunately, there was also a miscarriage involved at one point which contributed to a deep sense of loss and more failure.\n\nJulia and Adam did differ emotionally whereas Adam felt it would always work out and they would become parents one way or another. Julia felt that maybe it just wasn't in their destiny. Julia was also a high school teacher at the time, so watching teen pregnancies during school or shortly after they graduated was hard on her as well.\n\n15:38 The Lack of Community for Males with Fertility Struggles\n\nAdam stresses how important as a man and 50% a part of the conception equation it is to have conversations around these problems. There are a lot less moving parts for men then there are for women to become a pregnant couple, therefore a lot of people equate fertility issues in men with masculinity or lack thereof.\n\n21:43 Loving Parenting After the Conception and Birthing Journey\n\nAdam gets asked the question often of whether or not he values being a parent more because it was such a struggle to get where he and his wife are today. He's discovered he values the journey a lot more, and it has given him a greater sense that while it was hard, there are many other things in his life that are hard and worth pursuing.\n\n26:46 Finding Your Acceptance and Allowing Other Parents to Find Their Own\n\nWhether it's because you cannot have more children, do not feel comfortable having more children, or want to or need to pursue different ways of becoming a parent again in the future, everyone has to find their own path and no path is the wrong path. No one is less of a parent than anyone else regardless of the journey.\n\n28:56 Resources\n\n\nBeing open about the challenge with close friends and/or family.\nComminity support groups. (Hospitals/Fertility Clinics.) \"Those who struggle together, learn together.\"\nGoing online and look for the positive things.\nTracking ovulation.\n\n\n32:50 Genius / Fail Moments\n\n\n Mandy: Cut down her own Christmas tree and got it out of the forrest, into her truck, out of her truck, into her house, and up her stairs into a standing position in the corner of her living room (albeit after four hours), but she did it and she did it her damn self! (#Genius)\n Jess: Daniel Tiger songs are pretty cool, therefore strategic screentime is okay! (#Genius)\n Adam: \"Tooter Checks\"! (#Genius)\n Allison: Not traveling far for Thanksgiving and bring the kid's pajamas with you if you do go anywhere. (#Genius)\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nMandy Moore\nAllison McMillan\nJess SzmajdaSpecial Guest: Adam Cuppy.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 020: Fertility Struggles</h2>\n\n<h3>00:23 Welcome, <a href=\"https://twitter.com/AdamCuppy\" rel=\"nofollow\">Adam Cuppy</a>!</h3>\n\n<p>Adam started as a professional actor, turned the corner into advertising, and found his way to tech entrepreneurship and education. Adam performed for the world-renowned <a href=\"https://www.osfashland.org/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Oregon Shakespeare Festival</a> before making his way into creative direction for <a href=\"https://www.dutchbros.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Dutch Bros. Coffee</a>, where he oversaw brand strategy for all of their franchised locations. After six years at Dutch Bros., he co-founded Define Your Edge; the mission: to maximize the customer experience, understand the “why,” and let that influences the “how.” Within a few years, he co-founded <a href=\"https://codingzeal.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Zeal</a>.</p>\n\n<p>When not writing code, he speaks internationally on company culture, software development best-practices, and agile methodologies. And, if you’re one of the rare few, you may catch him on stage.</p>\n\n<h3>01:17 Adam&#39;s Background with Fertility Struggles</h3>\n\n<p>Adam and his wife tried for many years to conceive a child naturally before deciding to undergo medical testing to better determine any underlying issues as to why they were unable to do so. Initially, everyone assumed it was his wife, Julia, who was experiencing problems and was unable to get pregnant, however, it turned out that Adam was the one experiencing problems across the board.</p>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Roughly 15% of couples have issues with getting pregnant.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<p>Adam first went an got a personal trainer in attempt to increase testosterone levels naturally, and though they explored more invasive means of conception including IVF, they did not have to go that route and ending up conceiving about four months later.</p>\n\n<h3>08:55 The Emotional Weight of the Journey</h3>\n\n<p>The feeling of failure weighed heavily, especially when it seemed like everyone around them (but them) was getting pregnant and having kids. Unfortunately, there was also a miscarriage involved at one point which contributed to a deep sense of loss and more failure.</p>\n\n<p>Julia and Adam did differ emotionally whereas Adam felt it would always work out and they would become parents one way or another. Julia felt that maybe it just wasn&#39;t in their destiny. Julia was also a high school teacher at the time, so watching teen pregnancies during school or shortly after they graduated was hard on her as well.</p>\n\n<h3>15:38 The Lack of Community for Males with Fertility Struggles</h3>\n\n<p>Adam stresses how important as a man and 50% a part of the conception equation it is to have conversations around these problems. There are a lot less moving parts for men then there are for women to become a pregnant couple, therefore a lot of people equate fertility issues in men with masculinity or lack thereof.</p>\n\n<h3>21:43 Loving Parenting After the Conception and Birthing Journey</h3>\n\n<p>Adam gets asked the question often of whether or not he values being a parent more because it was such a struggle to get where he and his wife are today. He&#39;s discovered he values the journey a lot more, and it has given him a greater sense that while it was hard, there are many other things in his life that are hard and worth pursuing.</p>\n\n<h3>26:46 Finding Your Acceptance and Allowing Other Parents to Find Their Own</h3>\n\n<p>Whether it&#39;s because you cannot have more children, do not feel comfortable having more children, or want to or need to pursue different ways of becoming a parent again in the future, everyone has to find their own path and no path is the wrong path. No one is less of a parent than anyone else regardless of the journey.</p>\n\n<h3>28:56 Resources</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Being open about the challenge with close friends and/or family.</li>\n<li>Comminity support groups. (Hospitals/Fertility Clinics.) &quot;Those who struggle together, learn together.&quot;</li>\n<li>Going online and look for the positive things.</li>\n<li>Tracking ovulation.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>32:50 Genius / Fail Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li> Mandy: Cut down her own Christmas tree and got it out of the forrest, into her truck, out of her truck, into her house, and up her stairs into a standing position in the corner of her living room (albeit after four hours), but she did it and she did it her damn self! (#Genius)</li>\n<li> Jess: Daniel Tiger songs are pretty cool, therefore strategic screentime is okay! (#Genius)</li>\n<li> Adam: &quot;Tooter Checks&quot;! (#Genius)</li>\n<li> Allison: Not traveling far for Thanksgiving and bring the kid&#39;s pajamas with you if you do go anywhere. (#Genius)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/therubyrep\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mandy Moore</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jszmajda\" rel=\"nofollow\">Jess Szmajda</a></p><p>Special Guest: Adam Cuppy.</p>","summary":"In this episode, Adam Cuppy joins the panel to talk about him and his wife's struggle with fertility and having a child. The emotional weight of the journey is discussed, as well as the lack of community for males with fertility struggles. Adam also talks about how the whole process has given him a greater sense that while it was hard, there are many other things in his life that are hard but worth pursuing.","date_published":"2019-01-02T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/78f1a78c-f8f9-45db-96c5-28af6a980f38.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":36858717,"duration_in_seconds":2393}]},{"id":"6ee20827-e9e1-45c6-9e46-16fb30bcc61d","title":"019: Being Adults","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/being-adults","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 019: Being Adults\n\n00:25 Welcome, Jonan Scheffler!\n\nJonan is a free-range computer sciencer at Heroku and cheerleader for hire (all major hugs accepted). He is also a board member of RubyTogether and all-around swell human being!\n\nWe recorded this episode live and in-person at this year's RubyConf in Los Angeles.\n\n01:09 Catching Up On Sleep, Spending Time with Friends, and Spending Spousal Points\n\n\nConferences are NOT vacations, y'all!\nTraveling as a job.\nBeing present at home.\nPartying is WORK.\n\n\n11:16 Communicating to Loved Ones at Home\n\n\nFacetiming, calling, audio messaging.\n\n\n18:50 Going Home / Reentry to the Parenting World\n\n25:04 It Takes a Village... Support Systems When Away\n\n29:30 Self-Care While Away\n\n\nTreats!\nMassage!\nMovies on the plane!\nRoom service!\nFancy coffee!\nTattoos!?!\n\n\n32:34 Genius / Fail Moments\n\n\n Allison: Her son drew her a picture \"so Mommy doesn't scream as much\". (#Fail); Attending an anger management for parents of small children class. (#Genius)\n Mandy: Forgot to download things to her devices on the way to LA! (#Fail)\n Josh: Mistook a sprained ankle for growing pains. (#Fail)\n KWu: Mistook roseola for windburn! (#Fail)\n Jonan: Ruined waffles for his kids. (#Fail)\n Andy: His daughter learned how to swim! (#Genius)\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nAndy Croll\nMandy Moore\nAllison McMillan\nJosh Puetz\nKWuSpecial Guest: Jonan Scheffler.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 019: Being Adults</h2>\n\n<h3>00:25 Welcome, <a href=\"https://twitter.com/thejonanshow\" rel=\"nofollow\">Jonan Scheffler</a>!</h3>\n\n<p>Jonan is a free-range computer sciencer at <a href=\"https://www.heroku.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Heroku</a> and cheerleader for hire (all major hugs accepted). He is also a board member of <a href=\"https://rubytogether.org/\" rel=\"nofollow\">RubyTogether</a> and all-around swell human being!</p>\n\n<p>We recorded this episode live and in-person at this year&#39;s <a href=\"http://rubyconf.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">RubyConf</a> in Los Angeles.</p>\n\n<h3>01:09 Catching Up On Sleep, Spending Time with Friends, and Spending Spousal Points</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Conferences are NOT vacations, y&#39;all!</li>\n<li>Traveling as a job.</li>\n<li>Being present at home.</li>\n<li>Partying is WORK.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>11:16 Communicating to Loved Ones at Home</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Facetiming, calling, audio messaging.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>18:50 Going Home / Reentry to the Parenting World</h3>\n\n<h3>25:04 It Takes a Village... Support Systems When Away</h3>\n\n<h3>29:30 Self-Care While Away</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Treats!</li>\n<li>Massage!</li>\n<li>Movies on the plane!</li>\n<li>Room service!</li>\n<li>Fancy coffee!</li>\n<li>Tattoos!?!</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>32:34 Genius / Fail Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li> Allison: Her son drew her a picture &quot;so Mommy doesn&#39;t scream as much&quot;. (#Fail); Attending an anger management for parents of small children class. (#Genius)</li>\n<li> Mandy: Forgot to download things to her devices on the way to LA! (#Fail)</li>\n<li> Josh: Mistook a sprained ankle for growing pains. (#Fail)</li>\n<li> KWu: Mistook roseola for windburn! (#Fail)</li>\n<li> Jonan: Ruined waffles for his kids. (#Fail)</li>\n<li> Andy: His daughter learned how to swim! (#Genius)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/andycroll\" rel=\"nofollow\">Andy Croll</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/therubyrep\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mandy Moore</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a></p><p>Special Guest: Jonan Scheffler.</p>","summary":"In this episode that was recorded live and in-person at RubyConf in L.A., Jonan Scheffler joined the regular panelists to talk about what it's like to leave the kids at home while you're traveling for work or conferences: spending spousal points, communicating from afar, sneaking in a bit of self-care while you're away, and reentry back home into the parenting world.","date_published":"2018-12-19T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/6ee20827-e9e1-45c6-9e46-16fb30bcc61d.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":39847812,"duration_in_seconds":2638}]},{"id":"f9ae3af5-6d55-4d56-be44-0cf3193aa236","title":"018: Designing Apps/Digital Products for Parents with Anne Halsall and Sara Mauskopf of Winnie","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/designing-apps-digital-products","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 018: Designing Apps/Digital Products for Parents\n\n00:24 Welcome, Anne Halsall and Sara Mauskopf!\n\nAnne is the co-founder &amp; head of product of at Winnie. Sara is the CEO.\n\n01:12 Coming Up With Winnie: Providing Local Information for People With Children\n\n\nGreat app to use for travel!\nGives parents child-friendly reccomendations for activities, places to eat, things to see.\n\n\n03:12 Content Moderation and Quality\n\n\nWinnie is a crowdsourced platform similar to Yelp or Quora where you can both ask questions or give advice.\nYou can post under a pseudonym or anonymously in a community that is very well monitored and moderated. \n\n\n05:23 Gathering Information\n\n\nGrew organically from private beta testing. The community would add members: friends and family.\n\n\n06:23 Monetization\n\n\nWinnie is venture-backed. \nIt's very important to keep the app free and accessible to all.\n\n\n08:32 Building an App For and Around Parenting\n\n\nParents are wonderful participants and well-behaved to boot.\nContent that could be considered harmful is not distributed.\n\n\n11:06 How do you have time to be a parent AND work a full-time J-O-B?!?!\n\n\nFamily-friendly workplace.\nKids give you motivation.\nAttitudes towards parents are changing.\n\n\n15:53 Winnie's Childcare Discovery Platform\n\n\nLinks to the Licensing Database to make sure that places are legit.\nChildcare providers aren't necessarily web marking gurus -- many do not have sweet websites or the time/budget to create them.\nRage-driven Development.\n\n\n21:21 Holy Crap! Kids and Parents Exist in San Francisco?!\n\n22:23 Topic Channels\n\n\nConnecting parents based on special interests.\n\n\n24:10 Favorite Parts of Being a Parent and a Founder\n\n27:11 Genius / Fail Moments\n\n\n Mandy: Her daughter reffered to Hillary Clinton as Harley Quinn (#Fail)\n Jess: Comparing voting to choosing between chocolate cake and ice cream (#Genius)\n Allison: Suggesting her toddler to \"stop and think.\" (#Genius)\n Sara: Her daughter needs to cut back on the watching of Daniel Tiger after renaming her sister after the sister on the show! (#Fail)\n Anne: Her 4-year-old confused \"voting day\" with \"boating day\" and broke his heart. (#Fail)\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nChris Sexton\nMandy Moore\nJosh Puetz\nJess Szmajda\nAllison McMillan","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 018: Designing Apps/Digital Products for Parents</h2>\n\n<h3>00:24 Welcome, <a href=\"https://twitter.com/annekate\" rel=\"nofollow\">Anne Halsall</a> and <a href=\"https://twitter.com/sm\" rel=\"nofollow\">Sara Mauskopf</a>!</h3>\n\n<p>Anne is the co-founder &amp; head of product of at <a href=\"https://winnie.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Winnie</a>. Sara is the CEO.</p>\n\n<h3>01:12 Coming Up With Winnie: Providing Local Information for People With Children</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Great app to use for travel!</li>\n<li>Gives parents child-friendly reccomendations for activities, places to eat, things to see.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>03:12 Content Moderation and Quality</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Winnie is a crowdsourced platform similar to Yelp or Quora where you can both ask questions or give advice.</li>\n<li>You can post under a pseudonym or anonymously in a community that is very well monitored and moderated. </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>05:23 Gathering Information</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Grew organically from private beta testing. The community would add members: friends and family.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>06:23 Monetization</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Winnie is venture-backed. </li>\n<li>It&#39;s very important to keep the app free and accessible to all.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>08:32 Building an App For and Around Parenting</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Parents are wonderful participants and well-behaved to boot.</li>\n<li>Content that could be considered harmful is not distributed.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>11:06 How do you have time to be a parent AND work a full-time J-O-B?!?!</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Family-friendly workplace.</li>\n<li>Kids give you motivation.</li>\n<li>Attitudes towards parents are changing.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>15:53 Winnie&#39;s Childcare Discovery Platform</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Links to the Licensing Database to make sure that places are legit.</li>\n<li>Childcare providers aren&#39;t necessarily web marking gurus -- many do not have sweet websites or the time/budget to create them.</li>\n<li>Rage-driven Development.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>21:21 Holy Crap! Kids and Parents Exist in San Francisco?!</h3>\n\n<h3>22:23 Topic Channels</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Connecting parents based on special interests.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>24:10 Favorite Parts of Being a Parent and a Founder</h3>\n\n<h3>27:11 Genius / Fail Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li> Mandy: Her daughter reffered to Hillary Clinton as Harley Quinn (#Fail)</li>\n<li> Jess: Comparing voting to choosing between chocolate cake and ice cream (#Genius)</li>\n<li> Allison: Suggesting her toddler to &quot;stop and think.&quot; (#Genius)</li>\n<li> Sara: Her daughter needs to cut back on the watching of Daniel Tiger after renaming her sister after the sister on the show! (#Fail)</li>\n<li> Anne: Her 4-year-old confused &quot;voting day&quot; with &quot;boating day&quot; and broke his heart. (#Fail)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/therubyrep\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mandy Moore</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jszmajda\" rel=\"nofollow\">Jess Szmajda</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a></p>","summary":"In this episode, co-founders Anne Halsall and Sara Mauskopf join the show to talk about creating the app Winnie: a place where crowdsourced information is spread amongst parents that relays important information such as childcare, activities, and advice.","date_published":"2018-12-05T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/f9ae3af5-6d55-4d56-be44-0cf3193aa236.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":29892312,"duration_in_seconds":2125}]},{"id":"eed8936f-dbb7-4793-a97e-54fd83bfec4a","title":"017: Work and Family Boundaries","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/work-family-boundaries","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 017: Work and Family Boundaries\n\n00:16 Welcome, Chris Arcand!\n\nChris is a Software Engineer at HashiCorp where he works on Terraform Enterprise, a product that adds collaboration and governance features to the popular open source infrastructure tool, Terraform. As an advocate of distributed teams and open source, he’s spent the majority of his career at other distributed, open source companies such as Red Hat. He calls the Twin Cities of Minneapolis and St. Paul, Minnesota his home where he organizes the local Ruby users group, RubyMN, as well as moderates the ‘MSP Tech’ community Slack. Outside of software, Chris is an avid backpacker and amateur ice hockey player, as well as the father of a rambunctious little 19-month-old.\n\n01:32 Balancing Working From Home with a 19-Month-Old\n\n\nThe Aspect of Literal Time: Utilizing time when kids are napping/otherwise busy\n\"Shift Work\" vs Having Flexible Hours\n\n\nHashicorp's \"Flexible Time Off\" Policy vs \"Paid Time Off\"\n\nApproaching Work and Dividing Up Your Day\n\n\n06:46 Making Family Plans\n\n09:29 Commuting Vs Working From Home\n\n\nLocation is Vital\nHaving an At-Home Nanny\n\n\n13:28 Choosing a Nanny Over Daycare\n\n18:19 Maintaining Balance and Avoiding Excessive Interruptions\n\n\nNoise. Cancelling. Headphones.\nShutting The Door\n\n\n21:14 Improving Mental Presence When Not Working\n\n\nGive Yourself Time to Decompress Before Family Time\nMindfulness/Meditation \n\n\n25:23 Exposing Kids to \"I'm working, and this is how I'm working.\"\n\n\n\n43:42 Genius / Fail Moments\n\n\n JC: Has successfully kept his kid alive for 18 years! (#Genius) Also, his sophomore is starting in varsity football! (#Genius) Also, also, he is the team photographer which is a great hobby to have. (#Genius)\n Josh: Andrew Bredow's Chore Chart\n Chris A: His hockey room! His son is showing interest! (#Genius) ...But, having a new roof put on his house during naptime was probably not the best plan. (#Fail)\n Chris S: Let his kids help him paint a room! (#Genius) ...But, it turns out they weren't very good at it. (#Fail)\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nChris Sexton\nJC Avena\nJosh PuetzSpecial Guest: Chris Arcand.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 017: Work and Family Boundaries</h2>\n\n<h3>00:16 Welcome, <a href=\"https://twitter.com/chrisarcand\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Arcand</a>!</h3>\n\n<p>Chris is a Software Engineer at <a href=\"https://www.hashicorp.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">HashiCorp</a> where he works on <a href=\"https://www.hashicorp.com/products/terraform\" rel=\"nofollow\">Terraform Enterprise</a>, a product that adds collaboration and governance features to the popular open source infrastructure tool, <a href=\"https://www.terraform.io/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Terraform</a>. As an advocate of distributed teams and open source, he’s spent the majority of his career at other distributed, open source companies such as <a href=\"https://www.redhat.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Red Hat</a>. He calls the Twin Cities of Minneapolis and St. Paul, Minnesota his home where he organizes the local Ruby users group, <a href=\"https://www.meetup.com/ruby-mn/?_cookie-check=tTPtT3O5bUmbVkoy\" rel=\"nofollow\">RubyMN</a>, as well as moderates the <a href=\"http://msptech.herokuapp.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">‘MSP Tech’ community Slack</a>. Outside of software, Chris is an avid backpacker and amateur ice hockey player, as well as the father of a rambunctious little 19-month-old.</p>\n\n<h3>01:32 Balancing Working From Home with a 19-Month-Old</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>The Aspect of Literal Time: Utilizing time when kids are napping/otherwise busy</li>\n<li>&quot;Shift Work&quot; vs Having Flexible Hours\n\n<ul>\n<li>Hashicorp&#39;s &quot;Flexible Time Off&quot; Policy vs &quot;Paid Time Off&quot;</li>\n</ul></li>\n<li>Approaching Work and Dividing Up Your Day</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>06:46 Making Family Plans</h3>\n\n<h3>09:29 Commuting Vs Working From Home</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Location is Vital</li>\n<li>Having an At-Home Nanny</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>13:28 Choosing a Nanny Over Daycare</h3>\n\n<h3>18:19 Maintaining Balance and Avoiding Excessive Interruptions</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Noise. Cancelling. Headphones.</li>\n<li>Shutting The Door</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>21:14 Improving Mental Presence When Not Working</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Give Yourself Time to Decompress Before Family Time</li>\n<li>Mindfulness/Meditation </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>25:23 Exposing Kids to &quot;I&#39;m working, and this is how I&#39;m working.&quot;</h3>\n\n<p><img src=\"https://uploads.fireside.fm/images/e/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/XiTktlyT.jpg\" alt=\"\"></p>\n\n<h3>43:42 Genius / Fail Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li> JC: Has successfully kept his kid alive for 18 years! (#Genius) Also, his sophomore is starting in varsity football! (#Genius) Also, also, he is the team photographer which is a great hobby to have. (#Genius)</li>\n<li> Josh: <a href=\"https://github.com/andrewbredow/kid-chores\" rel=\"nofollow\">Andrew Bredow&#39;s Chore Chart</a></li>\n<li> Chris A: His hockey room! His son is showing interest! (#Genius) ...But, having a new roof put on his house during naptime was probably not the best plan. (#Fail)</li>\n<li> Chris S: Let his kids help him paint a room! (#Genius) ...But, it turns out they weren&#39;t very good at it. (#Fail)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jcavena\" rel=\"nofollow\">JC Avena</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a></p><p>Special Guest: Chris Arcand.</p>","summary":"In this episode, Chris Arcand joins the panel to talk about ways to balance working from home with a child in the house. They discuss options for childcare, how to minimize interruptions, and how to improve your mental presence with your family when you are not working.","date_published":"2018-11-28T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/eed8936f-dbb7-4793-a97e-54fd83bfec4a.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":31287721,"duration_in_seconds":2198}]},{"id":"d7b92545-0e23-4563-87f8-54a285e49f60","title":"016: Media Picks! Great Apps, Books, Shows, Etc. For Kids","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/media-picks","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 016: Media Picks! Great Apps, Books, Shows, Etc. For Kids\n\n01:15 T.V. Shows / Binge Watching Discussion\n\n\nThe Good Place (Josh)\n\n\n05:56 Music\n\nAvoid \"Kids\" Music!!\n\n\nBee Gees - Stayin' Alive (Allison)\nApple Music (Chris)\n\n\n08:54 Games\n\n\nA great bluffing game is Sheriff of Nottingham (Chris)\nGo Fish (Allison)\nChutes and Ladders (Allison)\nFish Stix (Allison)\nHow to make Candy Land tolerable (even fun) (Josh)\nWhat Are the Odds? Chutes and Ladders (Josh)\nBoardGameGeek (Josh)\nSurvive: Escape from Atlantis (Chris)\nHarry Potter Hogwarts Battle (Josh)\nPBS Kids App (Allison)\n\n\n20:08 T.V. Shows (Cont'd)\n\n\nPhineas and Ferb (Chris)\n\n\n21:05 Asking Alexa\n\n\nShe tells stories!\nShe's got jokes!\nShe'll play music!\nShe can even add toilet paper to your grocery list!\n\n\n23:16 'yesmum' Cards\n\n24:31 YouTube Channels\n\n\nSciShow\nvlogbrothers\n\n\n27:10 Apps (Cont'd)\n\n\nToca Boca\n\n\n28:55 What We Wish We Had\n\n\nFiltering options that work on services like Hulu and Netflix\nBetter screen time controls\nDevices that let kids know what the limits are for time budgeting\n\n\n36:03 Genius / Fail Moments\n\n\nChris: Using bribes. (#Genius)\nJosh: Cookbooks! Cooking Class: 57 Fun Recipes Kids Will Love to Make (and Eat!) and Cooking Rocks! by Rachael Ray. (#Genius)\nAllison: Her son and her had a little argument and Allison yelled (#Fail), but then they came together and calmed down and walked away better and unscathed. (#Genius)\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\nWe are listener supported. Please consider Supporting us via Patreon and gaining access to our our kind Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nChris Sexton\nAllison McMillan\nJosh Puetz","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 016: Media Picks! Great Apps, Books, Shows, Etc. For Kids</h2>\n\n<h3>01:15 T.V. Shows / Binge Watching Discussion</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.nbc.com/the-good-place\" rel=\"nofollow\">The Good Place</a> (Josh)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>05:56 Music</h3>\n\n<p>Avoid &quot;Kids&quot; Music!!</p>\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fNFzfwLM72c\" rel=\"nofollow\">Bee Gees - Stayin&#39; Alive</a> (Allison)</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.apple.com/music/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Apple Music</a> (Chris)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>08:54 Games</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>A great bluffing game is <a href=\"https://boardgamegeek.com/boardgame/157969/sheriff-nottingham\" rel=\"nofollow\">Sheriff of Nottingham</a> (Chris)</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Go_Fish\" rel=\"nofollow\">Go Fish</a> (Allison)</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/Chutes-Ladders-Game-Amazon-Exclusive/dp/B00000DMF6\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chutes and Ladders</a> (Allison)</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/Peaceable-Kingdom-Award-Winning-Fish/dp/B002CG87Z0\" rel=\"nofollow\">Fish Stix</a> (Allison)</li>\n<li><a href=\"http://blankdrums.blogspot.com/2016/01/how-to-make-candy-land-tolerable-even.html?m=1\" rel=\"nofollow\">How to make Candy Land tolerable (even fun)</a> (Josh)</li>\n<li><a href=\"http://blog.minitab.com/blog/fun-with-statistics/what-are-the-odds-chutes-and-ladders\" rel=\"nofollow\">What Are the Odds? Chutes and Ladders</a> (Josh)</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://boardgamegeek.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">BoardGameGeek</a> (Josh)</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://boardgamegeek.com/boardgame/2653/survive-escape-atlantis\" rel=\"nofollow\">Survive: Escape from Atlantis</a> (Chris)</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/Hogwarts-Cooperative-Building-Official-Merchandise/dp/B01EIKRP0K/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1541527232&sr=8-3&keywords=harry+potter+hogwarts+battle\" rel=\"nofollow\">Harry Potter Hogwarts Battle</a> (Josh)</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/pbs-kids-games/id1050773989?mt=8\" rel=\"nofollow\">PBS Kids App</a> (Allison)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>20:08 T.V. Shows (Cont&#39;d)</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phineas_and_Ferb\" rel=\"nofollow\">Phineas and Ferb</a> (Chris)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>21:05 Asking Alexa</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>She tells stories!</li>\n<li>She&#39;s got jokes!</li>\n<li>She&#39;ll play music!</li>\n<li>She can even add toilet paper to your grocery list!</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>23:16 <a href=\"http://www.londonhypnobirthing.co.uk/shop/\" rel=\"nofollow\">&#39;yesmum&#39; Cards</a></h3>\n\n<h3>24:31 YouTube Channels</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/scishow\" rel=\"nofollow\">SciShow</a></li>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/vlogbrothers\" rel=\"nofollow\">vlogbrothers</a></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>27:10 Apps (Cont&#39;d)</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://tocaboca.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Toca Boca</a></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>28:55 What We Wish We Had</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Filtering options that work on services like Hulu and Netflix</li>\n<li>Better screen time controls</li>\n<li>Devices that let kids know what the limits are for time budgeting</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>36:03 Genius / Fail Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Chris: Using bribes. (#Genius)</li>\n<li>Josh: Cookbooks! <a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/dp/1612124003?ref=yo_pop_ma_swf\" rel=\"nofollow\">Cooking Class: 57 Fun Recipes Kids Will Love to Make (and Eat!)</a> and <a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/Cooking-Rocks-Rachael-30-Minute-Meals/dp/1891105159/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1541530540&sr=8-1&keywords=rachael+ray+kid+cookbook\" rel=\"nofollow\">Cooking Rocks! by Rachael Ray</a>. (#Genius)</li>\n<li>Allison: Her son and her had a little argument and Allison yelled (#Fail), but then they came together and calmed down and walked away better and unscathed. (#Genius)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.<br>\nWe are listener supported. Please consider <a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Supporting us via Patreon</a> and gaining access to our our kind Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a></p>","summary":"In this episode, (and just in time for the holiday season!), Allison, Chris, and Josh give recommendations for kid-appropriate T.V. shows, music, games, books, apps, and YouTube channels. ","date_published":"2018-11-21T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/d7b92545-0e23-4563-87f8-54a285e49f60.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":37957521,"duration_in_seconds":2619}]},{"id":"66b00a56-d054-4162-ae7a-d76341c1381e","title":"015: On-Call Schedules","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/on-call-schedules","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 015: On-Call Schedules\n\n00:20 Welcome, Alyson van Hardenberg!\n\nAlyson is a Software Engineer at Honeycomb and the mother of two boys.\n\n02:41 Pager or Baby? Which do you choose?\n\nIt was a non-issue for Alyson. One of Honeycomb's managers, before even hiring Alyson, said that she'd take Alyson's pager during \"off-duty\" hours as an added responsibility. They'll check in and reevaluate when her son is one.\n\n\nEqual does not mean fair across teams.\n\n\n05:07 Having On-Call Schedule Discussions\n\n\nSpecial Accommodations\nScheduling Around On-Call Time\nOn-Call Parenting vs On-Call Job-ing\nWorking Remotely and Boundaries Around Work \n\n\n11:33 Living Your Life On-Call\n\n\nDoubling Up In Pairs\nEscalation Policies\nOn-Call Onboarding Processes\nHandling Outings On-Call\n\n\n22:46 On-Call Team Expectations\n\n\nTriage vs Fixing\n\n\n26:04 On-Call Stories &amp; Experiences\n\n31:26 Hours of Coverage\n\n\n6PM - 9PM = The Worst Parenting Hours\n\n\n33:46 Results of the 1-Year Check-in and Thoughts on Physical Pagers vs PagerDuty\n\n### 37:07 Genius / Fail Moments\n\n\nKWu: Taking time off from work, but still having the nanny come. (#Genius)\nJosh: Introduced the Twilight movies to his daughter. (#Fail)\nAlyson: Taking a Ziplock bag of snacks on long trips. (#Genius)\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\nWe are listener supported. Please consider Supporting us via Patreon and gaining access to our our kind Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nKatherine Wu\nJosh PuetzSpecial Guest: Alyson van Hardenberg.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 015: On-Call Schedules</h2>\n\n<h3>00:20 Welcome, <a href=\"https://twitter.com/akvanh\" rel=\"nofollow\">Alyson van Hardenberg</a>!</h3>\n\n<p>Alyson is a Software Engineer at <a href=\"http://Honeycomb.io\" rel=\"nofollow\">Honeycomb</a> and the mother of two boys.</p>\n\n<h3>02:41 Pager or Baby? Which do you choose?</h3>\n\n<p>It was a non-issue for Alyson. One of Honeycomb&#39;s managers, before even hiring Alyson, said that she&#39;d take Alyson&#39;s pager during &quot;off-duty&quot; hours as an added responsibility. They&#39;ll check in and reevaluate when her son is one.</p>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Equal does not mean fair across teams.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>05:07 Having On-Call Schedule Discussions</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Special Accommodations</li>\n<li>Scheduling Around On-Call Time</li>\n<li>On-Call Parenting vs On-Call Job-ing</li>\n<li>Working Remotely and Boundaries Around Work </li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>11:33 Living Your Life On-Call</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Doubling Up In Pairs</li>\n<li>Escalation Policies</li>\n<li>On-Call Onboarding Processes</li>\n<li>Handling Outings On-Call</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>22:46 On-Call Team Expectations</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Triage vs Fixing</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>26:04 On-Call Stories &amp; Experiences</h3>\n\n<h3>31:26 Hours of Coverage</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>6PM - 9PM = The Worst Parenting Hours</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>33:46 Results of the 1-Year Check-in and Thoughts on Physical Pagers vs <a href=\"https://www.pagerduty.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">PagerDuty</a></h3>\n\n<p>### 37:07 Genius / Fail Moments</p>\n\n<ul>\n<li>KWu: Taking time off from work, but still having the nanny come. (#Genius)</li>\n<li>Josh: Introduced the <a href=\"https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Twilight_Saga_(film_series)\" rel=\"nofollow\">Twilight</a> movies to his daughter. (#Fail)</li>\n<li>Alyson: Taking a Ziplock bag of snacks on long trips. (#Genius)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.<br>\nWe are listener supported. Please consider <a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Supporting us via Patreon</a> and gaining access to our our kind Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">Katherine Wu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a></p><p>Special Guest: Alyson van Hardenberg.</p>","summary":"In this episode, our on-call panelists, KWu and Josh, chat with our on-call guest, Alyson van Hardenberg, about managing being on-call as a parent: conversations to have with your team, onboarding processes and escalation policies, and tips and tricks for living your best life on-call.  ","date_published":"2018-11-14T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/66b00a56-d054-4162-ae7a-d76341c1381e.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":39040488,"duration_in_seconds":2645}]},{"id":"5906ffac-9314-476c-a5c4-20be671756b8","title":"014: Conferencing After Babies","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/conferencing-after-babies","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 014: Conferencing After Babies\n\n00:16 Welcome, Tess and Sean Griffin!\n\nTess is a Site Engineer at GitHub.  Sean is a developer at Shopify,  renowned Rails committer, the creator of the Diesel Framework, host of The Yak Shave podcast, and a former host of The Bike Shed podcast.\n\n02:14 Deciding on Conference to Go To and Speak At\n\nConferences who offer on-site childcare are very attractive. Shoutout to Ruby Central conferences and Rust Belt Rust! \n\n09:56 Evening Childcare\n\nGoing through conference organizer recommendations is preferencial because they spend a lot of time scouting the cities, however, services like UrbanSitter and Care.com are options in a pinch.\n\nConferences that offer child/kid-friendly after-hours activities are also great for parents. It seems like more conferences like that are popping up and opting for less bar atomosphere gatherings. 👍\n\n16:38 Awesome Conference-Provided Amenities / Wishlist Items\n\n\nSwag Options for Kids (onesies and t-shirts!)\nBadges for Kids and Babies\nA list of kid-tolerant folks / Babysitting Co-ops for parents amongst attendees / Equipment share (Could be in the form of a Slack channel.\n\n\n23:34 Having Answers BEFORE Asking People to Commit\n\nJust having people click a box saying they will need childcare but not having any details about what those plans are isn't cool. (It also gives them a great excuse to turn down coming.) Parents want to know from the get-go that there is a solid childcare plan in place before they commit to going to a conference. Remember, the younger the child, the more logistics are involved around needs and stuff (equipment). \n\n\nIs there a supermarket or supermarket delivery service nearby?\nHow will I get from the airport to the conference hotel? \nIs there additional costs for children?\n\n\n27:31 Getting Around\n\nPublic transportation around your conference is key. 10-15 minutes away from the airport is an ideal distance. \n\n29:26 School-Age Children and Conferences\n\n32:43 Genius / Fail Moments\n\n\nChris: Print-and play projects (#Genius) \nTess: Investing in a nice child gate (#Genius)\nAllison: Having thoughtful and interactive conversations with your kids (#Genius)\nSean: Teaching babies words is hilarious! 🤣\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\nWe are listener supported. Please consider Supporting us via Patreon and gaining access to our our kind Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nChris Sexton\nAllison McMillanSpecial Guests: Sean Griffin and Tess Griffin.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 014: Conferencing After Babies</h2>\n\n<h3>00:16 Welcome, <a href=\"https://twitter.com/GriffinTess\" rel=\"nofollow\">Tess</a> and <a href=\"https://twitter.com/sgrif\" rel=\"nofollow\">Sean Griffin</a>!</h3>\n\n<p>Tess is a Site Engineer at <a href=\"https://github.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">GitHub</a>.  Sean is a developer at <a href=\"https://www.shopify.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Shopify</a>,  renowned Rails committer, the creator of the <a href=\"http://diesel.rs/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Diesel Framework</a>, host of <a href=\"http://yakshave.fm/\" rel=\"nofollow\">The Yak Shave</a> podcast, and a former host of <a href=\"http://bikeshed.fm/\" rel=\"nofollow\">The Bike Shed</a> podcast.</p>\n\n<h3>02:14 Deciding on Conference to Go To and Speak At</h3>\n\n<p>Conferences who offer on-site childcare are very attractive. Shoutout to <a href=\"http://rubycentral.org/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Ruby Central</a> conferences and <a href=\"https://www.rust-belt-rust.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Rust Belt Rust</a>! </p>\n\n<h3>09:56 Evening Childcare</h3>\n\n<p>Going through conference organizer recommendations is preferencial because they spend a lot of time scouting the cities, however, services like <a href=\"https://www.urbansitter.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">UrbanSitter</a> and <a href=\"https://www.care.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Care.com</a> are options in a pinch.</p>\n\n<p>Conferences that offer child/kid-friendly after-hours activities are also great for parents. It seems like more conferences like that are popping up and opting for less bar atomosphere gatherings. 👍</p>\n\n<h3>16:38 Awesome Conference-Provided Amenities / Wishlist Items</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Swag Options for Kids (onesies and t-shirts!)</li>\n<li>Badges for Kids and Babies</li>\n<li>A list of kid-tolerant folks / Babysitting Co-ops for parents amongst attendees / Equipment share (Could be in the form of a Slack channel.</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>23:34 Having Answers BEFORE Asking People to Commit</h3>\n\n<p>Just having people click a box saying they will need childcare but not having any details about what those plans are isn&#39;t cool. (It also gives them a great excuse to turn down coming.) Parents want to know from the get-go that there is a solid childcare plan in place before they commit to going to a conference. Remember, the younger the child, the more logistics are involved around needs and <em>stuff</em> (equipment). </p>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Is there a supermarket or supermarket delivery service nearby?</li>\n<li>How will I get from the airport to the conference hotel? </li>\n<li>Is there additional costs for children?</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>27:31 Getting Around</h3>\n\n<p>Public transportation around your conference is key. 10-15 minutes away from the airport is an ideal distance. </p>\n\n<h3>29:26 School-Age Children and Conferences</h3>\n\n<h3>32:43 Genius / Fail Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Chris: Print-and play projects (#Genius) </li>\n<li>Tess: Investing in a nice child gate (#Genius)</li>\n<li>Allison: Having thoughtful and interactive conversations with your kids (#Genius)</li>\n<li>Sean: Teaching babies words is hilarious! 🤣</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.<br>\nWe are listener supported. Please consider <a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Supporting us via Patreon</a> and gaining access to our our kind Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a></p><p>Special Guests: Sean Griffin and Tess Griffin.</p>","summary":"In this episode, Tess and Sean Griffin talk about what it's been like attending and speaking at conferences with their infant daughter, Ruby. They also talk about what makes attending some conferences more attractive than others, logistics around travel, and options for evening childcare.","date_published":"2018-11-07T05:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/5906ffac-9314-476c-a5c4-20be671756b8.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":39483180,"duration_in_seconds":2350}]},{"id":"26ee35cb-09be-4ef8-8150-d3b7333a502f","title":"013: Babies at Work","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/babies-at-work","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 013: Babies at Work?!\n\n00:15 Welcome, Leah Silber!\n\nLeah is the CEO of Tilde Inc.  She is also an organizer of EmberConf, RustConf and RailsConf, and Ember.js Core Team Member, a jQuery Core Team alum, author of Event Driven: How to Run Memorable Tech Conferences, and all around technophile.\n\n01:08 KWu is Planning Her Son's 1st Birthday Party! + How Old Are They?\n\nDon't let first birthday parties get out of hand. Not worth it. Get a cake. Let the kid smash. Also, please stop referring to your child's age in months when they turn 2.\n\n04:05 Babies at Work: It’s Weird that it’s Weird\n\nIn August 2017, Leah wrote this blog post and it was super well received. In the blog post, she talks about a lot of the objections and concern she had at first that turned out to be unfounded. It turns out, bringing her baby to work changed the mood and culture of Tilde in a positive way -- even among self-proclaimed \"non-baby people\". \n\n09:26 What About The Fussy Days?\n\n\nWorking from home can be an option especially on days like vaccination days. \nHaving a quiet area like a conference room or an empty office gets people through short fussy spells. \nIf that doesn't work, going home is encouraged. \nLeah says that having the babies at work made actually for a much happier baby!\n\n\n17:56 Nursing\n\n\nUp to the mom! Breastfeeding in public is acceptable, and there are dedicated nursing rooms/spaces to keep it legal (and more private)\nIt becomes normalized! People don't even notice\n\n\nSquatty Potty\n\n\n\n23:53 Culture From The Core\n\n\nStating expectations for parents/non-parents during the interview process\nScaling as children age\nBring the Nanny to work too!\nOlder children must be up to date on vaccinations\nBecomes a routine\n\n\n32:43 Does Company Size Matter?\n\n\nJust because there are 50 people in a company does not mean that the volume of babies is going to go up\nSetting a limit is an option: luck of the draw\nThe bigger the company, the more space non-baby people have to stay away from the babies\n\n\n35:02 Program Evolution\n\n\nEffects on Nannies\nBeneficial for dads too!\n\n\n42:37 Avoiding Judgement\n\n\nTurns out, people (who aren't the child's parents) are more helpful than judgemental\nPets are not babies...no, your dog can not come to work because my baby is here\n\n\n48:31 Genius / Fail Moments\n\n\nKWu: Water coming out of the tub faucet is fascinating and acts as a baby magnet to draw them to the bathroom for a bath! (#Genius)\nAllison: Creating an insane schedule of hodgepodge childcare that involves massive amounts of logistics. (#Fail)\nLeah: Shoutout to the parents who think their kids will never walk. Her son started walking at 18 months! (#Genius)\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\nWe are listener supported. Please consider Supporting us via Patreon and gaining access to our our kind Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nAllison McMillan\nKatherine WuSpecial Guest: Leah Silber.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 013: Babies at Work?!</h2>\n\n<h3>00:15 Welcome, <a href=\"https://twitter.com/wifelette\" rel=\"nofollow\">Leah Silber!</a></h3>\n\n<p>Leah is the CEO of <a href=\"https://www.tilde.io/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Tilde Inc.</a>  She is also an organizer of <a href=\"https://emberconf.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">EmberConf</a>, <a href=\"https://rustconf.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">RustConf</a> and <a href=\"https://railsconf.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">RailsConf</a>, and <a href=\"https://www.emberjs.com/team/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Ember.js Core Team</a> Member, a <a href=\"https://jquery.org/team/\" rel=\"nofollow\">jQuery Core Team</a> alum, author of <a href=\"https://leanpub.com/eventdriven/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Event Driven: How to Run Memorable Tech Conferences</a>, and all around technophile.</p>\n\n<h3>01:08 KWu is Planning Her Son&#39;s 1st Birthday Party! + How Old Are They?</h3>\n\n<p>Don&#39;t let first birthday parties get out of hand. Not worth it. Get a cake. Let the kid smash. Also, please stop referring to your child&#39;s age in months when they turn 2.</p>\n\n<h3>04:05 <a href=\"https://hackernoon.com/babies-at-work-its-weird-that-it-s-weird-b285b070d456\" rel=\"nofollow\">Babies at Work: It’s Weird that it’s Weird</a></h3>\n\n<p>In August 2017, Leah wrote this blog post and it was super well received. In the blog post, she talks about a lot of the objections and concern she had at first that turned out to be unfounded. It turns out, bringing her baby to work changed the mood and culture of Tilde in a positive way -- even among self-proclaimed &quot;non-baby people&quot;. </p>\n\n<h3>09:26 What About The Fussy Days?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Working from home can be an option especially on days like vaccination days. </li>\n<li>Having a quiet area like a conference room or an empty office gets people through short fussy spells. </li>\n<li>If that doesn&#39;t work, going home is encouraged. </li>\n<li>Leah says that having the babies at work made actually for a much happier baby!</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>17:56 Nursing</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Up to the mom! Breastfeeding in public is acceptable, and there are dedicated nursing rooms/spaces to keep it legal (and more private)</li>\n<li>It becomes normalized! People don&#39;t even notice\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.squattypotty.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Squatty Potty</a></li>\n</ul></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>23:53 Culture From The Core</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Stating expectations for parents/non-parents during the interview process</li>\n<li>Scaling as children age</li>\n<li>Bring the Nanny to work too!</li>\n<li>Older children must be up to date on vaccinations</li>\n<li>Becomes a routine</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>32:43 Does Company Size Matter?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Just because there are 50 people in a company does not mean that the volume of babies is going to go up</li>\n<li>Setting a limit is an option: luck of the draw</li>\n<li>The bigger the company, the more space non-baby people have to stay away from the babies</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>35:02 Program Evolution</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Effects on Nannies</li>\n<li>Beneficial for dads too!</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>42:37 Avoiding Judgement</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Turns out, people (who aren&#39;t the child&#39;s parents) are more helpful than judgemental</li>\n<li>Pets are not babies...no, your dog can not come to work because my baby is here</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>48:31 Genius / Fail Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>KWu: Water coming out of the tub faucet is fascinating and acts as a baby magnet to draw them to the bathroom for a bath! (#Genius)</li>\n<li>Allison: Creating an insane schedule of hodgepodge childcare that involves massive amounts of logistics. (#Fail)</li>\n<li>Leah: Shoutout to the parents who think their kids will never walk. Her son started walking at 18 months! (#Genius)</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.<br>\nWe are listener supported. Please consider <a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Supporting us via Patreon</a> and gaining access to our our kind Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">Katherine Wu</a></p><p>Special Guest: Leah Silber.</p>","summary":"Leah Silber joins the show to talk about why her company, Tilde.io, implemented a bring your baby to work option for new parents. She talks about dealing with fussiness, nursing, how much employees and co-workers aren't bothered by babies, and that having the babies at work actually make for a much happier baby! ","date_published":"2018-10-31T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/26ee35cb-09be-4ef8-8150-d3b7333a502f.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":56448017,"duration_in_seconds":3400}]},{"id":"cdd6dd39-27d5-4188-8b10-6324ac554feb","title":"012: Traveling with Kids","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/traveling-with-kids","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 012: Traveling with Kids\n\n00:48 The Great Screen Debate\n\nToday's particular panelists are all about screens while traveling as long as it's not detracting from the travel experience. Everyone agrees that screens are a great way to keep kids occupied and quiet. \n\n08:09 Transportation Challenges, Woes, and Genius Tips\n\n\nWhen your kid gets flagged on her first plane ride...\nTSA Pre√ (Worth its weight in gold!!)\nDownload shows to devices in advance\nHave a variety of activities (besides screens)\n\n\nHotel Paper &amp; Pens\nBooks\nCheerios\n... and a Walkman? \n\nBuilding Up Good Will with People Around You: Is it worth bribing others (with chocolate??) and socializing or should they just deal with you traveling with your kiddo(s)?\nUse Car Services like Lyft!\n\n\n24:25 Transportation + Car Seats (Deserves its own conversation, obviously.)\n\n\nAmazon a cheap one + have delivered to your destination then donate when you go home (Pro tip: Do the same thing with diapers!)\nUber and Lyft have car seat options in select cities\nRenting Car Seats: Yay or Nay?\n\n\n32:58 On-The-Go Childcare\n\n\nHotel Concierge - Check Yelp Reviews!\nMake sure you know where the closest hospital/urgent care center is\n\n\n37:46 We're Here. Now What?\n\n\nGoogle \"Top 10 things to do in X\"\nUse an app like Winnie\n\n\n39:48 A Round of Helpful Hints and Tricks\n\n\nJosh: If possible, get a hotel room with a separate bedroom.\nMandy: Hotels with pools are delightful. (Especially if your kids can swim on their own.) Also use Uber Eats for food delivery to the hotel if going out is undesirable.\nChris: Pizza chains will deliver to hotel pools for an easy pizza party. Great for traveling sports teams!\nAllison: Bring a roll of duct tape and use a taller chair on the side of the bed to act as a bedrail. \nAndy: Aluminum foil and a sponge!\n\n\n43:42 Genius / Fail Moments\n\n\n Allison: MilkStork: A breast milk shipping company when you're away from your infant.\n Andy: Andy's son offered his teddy bear to a friend in need!\n Chris: Playing Mario Kart on the Nintendo Wii as a family activity to teach good sportsmanship and kindness.\n Mandy: Staying on the boardwalk part of the beach on the ground level. Also, if you do a lot of traveling, save up points! Mandy uses Marriott Rewards to get free nights in select hotels for summer vacation fun!\n\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. \n\nOur website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel\n\nAndy Croll\nChris Sexton\nAllison McMillan\nMandy Moore\nJosh Puetz","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 012: Traveling with Kids</h2>\n\n<h3>00:48 The Great Screen Debate</h3>\n\n<p>Today&#39;s particular panelists are all about screens while traveling as long as it&#39;s not detracting from the travel experience. Everyone agrees that screens are a great way to keep kids occupied and quiet. </p>\n\n<h3>08:09 Transportation Challenges, Woes, and Genius Tips</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>When your kid gets flagged on her first plane ride...</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://www.tsa.gov/precheck\" rel=\"nofollow\">TSA Pre√</a> (Worth its weight in gold!!)</li>\n<li>Download shows to devices in advance</li>\n<li>Have a variety of activities (besides screens)\n\n<ul>\n<li>Hotel Paper &amp; Pens</li>\n<li>Books</li>\n<li>Cheerios</li>\n<li>... and a <a href=\"https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Walkman\" rel=\"nofollow\">Walkman</a>? </li>\n</ul></li>\n<li>Building Up Good Will with People Around You: Is it worth bribing others (with chocolate??) and socializing or should they just deal with you traveling with your kiddo(s)?</li>\n<li>Use Car Services like <a href=\"https://www.lyft.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Lyft!</a></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>24:25 Transportation + Car Seats (Deserves its own conversation, obviously.)</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Amazon a cheap one + have delivered to your destination then donate when you go home (Pro tip: Do the same thing with diapers!)</li>\n<li><a href=\"https://offspring.lifehacker.com/how-to-ride-with-a-car-seat-in-an-uber-or-lyft-1826237627\" rel=\"nofollow\">Uber and Lyft have car seat options in select cities</a></li>\n<li>Renting Car Seats: Yay or Nay?</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>32:58 On-The-Go Childcare</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Hotel Concierge - Check <a href=\"https://www.yelp.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Yelp</a> Reviews!</li>\n<li>Make sure you know where the closest hospital/urgent care center is</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>37:46 We&#39;re Here. Now What?</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Google &quot;Top 10 things to do in X&quot;</li>\n<li>Use an app like <a href=\"https://winnie.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Winnie</a></li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>39:48 A Round of Helpful Hints and Tricks</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li>Josh: If possible, get a hotel room with a separate bedroom.</li>\n<li>Mandy: Hotels with pools are delightful. (Especially if your kids can swim on their own.) Also use <a href=\"https://www.ubereats.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">Uber Eats</a> for food delivery to the hotel if going out is undesirable.</li>\n<li>Chris: Pizza chains will deliver to hotel pools for an easy pizza party. Great for traveling sports teams!</li>\n<li>Allison: Bring a roll of duct tape and use a taller chair on the side of the bed to act as a bedrail. </li>\n<li>Andy: Aluminum foil and a sponge!</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>43:42 Genius / Fail Moments</h3>\n\n<ul>\n<li> Allison: <a href=\"https://www.milkstork.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">MilkStork</a>: A breast milk shipping company when you&#39;re away from your infant.</li>\n<li> Andy: Andy&#39;s son offered his teddy bear to a friend in need!</li>\n<li> Chris: Playing <a href=\"https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mario_Kart\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mario Kart</a> on the <a href=\"https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wii\" rel=\"nofollow\">Nintendo Wii</a> as a family activity to teach good sportsmanship and kindness.</li>\n<li> Mandy: Staying on the boardwalk part of the beach on the ground level. Also, if you do a lot of traveling, save up points! Mandy uses <a href=\"https://www.marriott.com/loyalty.mi\" rel=\"nofollow\">Marriott Rewards</a> to get free nights in select hotels for summer vacation fun!</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. </p>\n\n<p>Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h3>Panel</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/andycroll\" rel=\"nofollow\">Andy Croll</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/therubyrep\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mandy Moore</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a></p>","summary":"In this episode, we talk about helpful what it's like to travel with kids: challenges, woes, pro tricks, and great tips!","date_published":"2018-10-24T05:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/cdd6dd39-27d5-4188-8b10-6324ac554feb.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":47871153,"duration_in_seconds":3003}]},{"id":"805f921e-f69b-42fa-9f85-da10d2164e11","title":"011: Being a Trans Parent","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/being-a-trans-parent","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 011: Being a Trans Parent\n\n00:30 We're joined by our friend Jess today\n\nWe've been soliciting questions from our audience which will help guide our conversation today\n\n02:00 How do you help young children who want to categorize everything in to boys and girls?\n\nHow do we talk about boy parts and girl parts and gender identity especially with young children?\nIt's a complex topic. Different children classify in different ways. Does it talk to how we socialize children? It changes when your children interact with other children in school.\nScience has proven that gender identity is mostly internal and it is in flux until children are around 3 and then they demonstrate more behaviors that can be associated with a specific gender.\n\n07:50 How much do body parts relate to gender identity?\n\nTalking about body parts and explaining that you can't tell what a person is by looking at them. You need to ask,\n\n9:00 Children see the world in different ways\n\nThere's a need to talk to children in different ways because the way children classify and categorize are different. It's important to reach a child in a way that makes sense for them.\n\nYou can still categorize and have these boundaries but talking about what defining characteristics and boundaries are is important. \n\nWe're seeing more categories now that are gender non-binary or gender fluid and that's another set of categories to introduce and look for in books.\n\nWhen other people define those categories, it's also very difficult and overwriting peer pressure and social norms is tough.\n\nWe have to understand details and nuance. Needing to overwrite social norms and outside influence is so much of parenting.\n\nIt's a beautiful thing when parents can help their children learn compassion and talk through these questions.\n\n14:14 If a child sees someone and wants to know what gender that person is, what is a good way to make sure we're guiding them correctly and having them ask in a way that is not offense and hurtful to the individual?\n\nParents react in a variety of ways when children ask. Jess talks about some of the reactions she's gotten and what is helpful in the moment.\n\nThe polite way to ask as an adult is \"hi, my pronouns are  and . What are your pronouns?\" It's hard to tell by looking at folks so it can be normalized by just asking.\n\nSarah talks about a camp that does this and the children have picked up on it super quickly.  Kids are much more open to these discussions now than we are at our age and they might be more open to these discussions because they are being raised in a different time.\n\n19:50 Listener comment\n\nConversations about a trans girl in elementary school led to a lot of parental learning.\n\n20:20 Are younger kids talking about this more and recognizing this earlier?\n\nDefinitely. Talking about media representations and cultural expectations of trans people in the past and present.\n\nLate transitioners are going to become less and less common.\n\n22:00 What's helpful as parents to make sure our children feel comfortable having these conversations with us?\n\nPodcast: How to be a girl about a parent raising a trans girl\nBook: Transgender 101 helps address these issues\nAs well as some helpful questions and approaches for parents with children talking about gender identification.\n\n25:00 - 28:30 How do you deal with people who can't understand?\n\ntrigger warning Gender dysphoria and depression\ndysphoria and euphoria. Talking about calling in a support system and recognizing how to be honest with ourselves and our families.\n\n29:00 As parents, how to support trans families?\n\nBest allies are simple things like using the correct pronouns because it's more about being a person and not about being trans.\n\nJess shares a Mother's Day story which shows fellow parent support and an example of allyship.\n\n32:00 How to help young children develop identity in a world of gender policing?\n\nGraciously accept gifts and then lose them. Trying to phrase things as play or as talking about play as what the child is doing.\n\nGiving children options is good as well.\n\n36:00 What are good resources?\n\nRed: A Crayon's Story\nI am Jazz\nKids books are few and far between.\n\nFor adults, pflag chapters are also good.\nJenny Boylan as an author is great.\nJess is also happy to chat on twitter!\n\n39:00 Genius / Fail moments\n\nAllison - I took my son to see the fireworks and he was excited but also terrified and asked to leave. I thought it was ok but then once we got home we needed to have a long discussion about how he's safe in the house from fireworks. I may have scarred him for life. #Fail\nChris -  My kids wanted to wash the truck which was great but then they got bored of washing and took the hose to the side yard and now it's a muddy mess. #Genius\nJess -  My son's daycare has been growing cucumbers and he brought home cucumbers to make pickles! #Genius\nJosh -  The food wars continue. My daughter helps me pick out the meals that get sent every week so she recognizes that she's agreed to what gets sent. #Genius\nSarah - My daughter drew a picture of being a spider vet when she grows up, but actually it was a spider pirate. She's got a great imagination. #Genius\nAlso, future genius? Family vacations are hard so instead of a family trip. We're doing 1-on-1 trips depending on where each child wants to go.\n\n53:40 Contact Us!\n\nTell us if you have a question you want us to discuss on air!\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel:\n\nJosh Puetz\nSarah Olson\nAllison McMillan\nChris SextonSpecial Guest: Jess Szmajda.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 011: Being a Trans Parent</h2>\n\n<h3>00:30 We&#39;re joined by our friend <a href=\"https://twitter.com/jszmajda\" rel=\"nofollow\">Jess</a> today</h3>\n\n<p>We&#39;ve been soliciting questions from our audience which will help guide our conversation today</p>\n\n<h3>02:00 How do you help young children who want to categorize everything in to boys and girls?</h3>\n\n<p>How do we talk about boy parts and girl parts and gender identity especially with young children?<br>\nIt&#39;s a complex topic. Different children classify in different ways. Does it talk to how we socialize children? It changes when your children interact with other children in school.<br>\nScience has proven that gender identity is mostly internal and it is in flux until children are around 3 and then they demonstrate more behaviors that can be associated with a specific gender.</p>\n\n<h3>07:50 How much do body parts relate to gender identity?</h3>\n\n<p>Talking about body parts and explaining that you can&#39;t tell what a person is by looking at them. You need to ask,</p>\n\n<h3>9:00 Children see the world in different ways</h3>\n\n<p>There&#39;s a need to talk to children in different ways because the way children classify and categorize are different. It&#39;s important to reach a child in a way that makes sense for them.</p>\n\n<p>You can still categorize and have these boundaries but talking about what defining characteristics and boundaries are is important. </p>\n\n<p>We&#39;re seeing more categories now that are gender non-binary or gender fluid and that&#39;s another set of categories to introduce and look for in books.</p>\n\n<p>When other people define those categories, it&#39;s also very difficult and overwriting peer pressure and social norms is tough.</p>\n\n<p>We have to understand details and nuance. Needing to overwrite social norms and outside influence is so much of parenting.</p>\n\n<p>It&#39;s a beautiful thing when parents can help their children learn compassion and talk through these questions.</p>\n\n<h3>14:14 If a child sees someone and wants to know what gender that person is, what is a good way to make sure we&#39;re guiding them correctly and having them ask in a way that is not offense and hurtful to the individual?</h3>\n\n<p>Parents react in a variety of ways when children ask. Jess talks about some of the reactions she&#39;s gotten and what is helpful in the moment.</p>\n\n<p>The polite way to ask as an adult is &quot;hi, my pronouns are <blank> and <blank>. What are your pronouns?&quot; It&#39;s hard to tell by looking at folks so it can be normalized by just asking.</p>\n\n<p>Sarah talks about a camp that does this and the children have picked up on it super quickly.  Kids are much more open to these discussions now than we are at our age and they might be more open to these discussions because they are being raised in a different time.</p>\n\n<h3>19:50 Listener comment</h3>\n\n<p>Conversations about a trans girl in elementary school led to a lot of parental learning.</p>\n\n<h3>20:20 Are younger kids talking about this more and recognizing this earlier?</h3>\n\n<p>Definitely. Talking about media representations and cultural expectations of trans people in the past and present.</p>\n\n<p>Late transitioners are going to become less and less common.</p>\n\n<h3>22:00 What&#39;s helpful as parents to make sure our children feel comfortable having these conversations with us?</h3>\n\n<p>Podcast: <a href=\"http://www.howtobeagirlpodcast.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">How to be a girl</a> about a parent raising a trans girl<br><br>\nBook: <a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/Transgender-101-Simple-Guide-Complex/dp/0231157134\" rel=\"nofollow\">Transgender 101</a> helps address these issues<br><br>\nAs well as some helpful questions and approaches for parents with children talking about gender identification.</p>\n\n<h3>25:00 - 28:30 How do you deal with people who can&#39;t understand?</h3>\n\n<p><strong>trigger warning</strong> Gender dysphoria and depression<br><br>\ndysphoria and euphoria. Talking about calling in a support system and recognizing how to be honest with ourselves and our families.</p>\n\n<h3>29:00 As parents, how to support trans families?</h3>\n\n<p>Best allies are simple things like using the correct pronouns because it&#39;s more about being a person and not about being trans.</p>\n\n<p>Jess shares a Mother&#39;s Day story which shows fellow parent support and an example of allyship.</p>\n\n<h3>32:00 How to help young children develop identity in a world of gender policing?</h3>\n\n<p>Graciously accept gifts and then lose them. Trying to phrase things as play or as talking about play as what the child is doing.</p>\n\n<p>Giving children options is good as well.</p>\n\n<h3>36:00 What are good resources?</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/Red-Crayons-Story-Michael-Hall/dp/0062252070\" rel=\"nofollow\">Red: A Crayon&#39;s Story</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/I-Am-Jazz-Jessica-Herthel/dp/0803741073/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=\" rel=\"nofollow\">I am Jazz</a><br>\nKids books are few and far between.</p>\n\n<p>For adults, <a href=\"https://www.pflag.org/\" rel=\"nofollow\">pflag</a> chapters are also good.<br>\n<a href=\"http://jenniferboylan.net/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Jenny Boylan</a> as an author is great.<br>\nJess is also happy to chat on twitter!</p>\n\n<h3>39:00 Genius / Fail moments</h3>\n\n<p><em>Allison</em> - I took my son to see the fireworks and he was excited but also terrified and asked to leave. I thought it was ok but then once we got home we needed to have a long discussion about how he&#39;s safe in the house from fireworks. I may have scarred him for life. #Fail<br><br>\n<em>Chris</em> -  My kids wanted to wash the truck which was great but then they got bored of washing and took the hose to the side yard and now it&#39;s a muddy mess. #Genius<br><br>\n<em>Jess</em> -  My son&#39;s daycare has been growing cucumbers and he brought home cucumbers to make pickles! #Genius<br><br>\n<em>Josh</em> -  The food wars continue. My daughter helps me pick out the meals that get sent every week so she recognizes that she&#39;s agreed to what gets sent. #Genius<br><br>\n<em>Sarah</em> - My daughter drew a picture of being a spider vet when she grows up, but actually it was a spider pirate. She&#39;s got a great imagination. #Genius<br><br>\nAlso, future genius? Family vacations are hard so instead of a family trip. We&#39;re doing 1-on-1 trips depending on where each child wants to go.</p>\n\n<h3>53:40 Contact Us!</h3>\n\n<p>Tell us if you have a question you want us to discuss on air!</p>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h2>Panel:</h2>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/saraheolson\" rel=\"nofollow\">Sarah Olson</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a></p><p>Special Guest: Jess Szmajda.</p>","summary":"We talk about being a trans parent, gender identity, and talking about these things with your children.","date_published":"2018-09-11T12:15:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/805f921e-f69b-42fa-9f85-da10d2164e11.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":54214010,"duration_in_seconds":3259}]},{"id":"8dfae413-fde4-4954-83cd-4e038950d1f7","title":"010: Doing Good with Our Children LIVE! From Ruby For Good","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/doing-good-with-our-kids","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 010: Doing Good with Kids, Live Episode\n\n00:50 We're LIVE from Ruby For Good\n\n02:30 How do we make our kids do good?\n\nSchool is a good place to start. There are lots of options for kids and parents to start out.\nWe talk about different activities at different ages, preschool to high school\n\n03:37 Where to start when you want to have childcare at your conference\n\nTreat it as any other vendor\nGo to the conference venue and ask for recommendations\nAsk for recommendations from the hotel, local user groups, etc.\n\n5:30 Various programs are mentioned\n\nFor Girl Scout cookies you can purchase a cookie to have sent to troops overseas\nGirls on the Run each session has a theme related to \"good\" things\n\n6:40 For young children, focus on having the conversation\n\nWhat does it mean to do good things? We talk about PJ Library and Tikkun Olam\nSimple things are good like the Dawn soap that you can use to tell a story\nBox Tops can be taken to school\nThe more exposure, the better\n\n9:50 Bring the kids along\n\nAt this conference, bringing kids can help them see that we're doing good things. It also happens when kids see you packing up food for shelters.\nThe more exposure you have, the better\nJC talks about how they help people move a lot. Religious institutions are also a good way to find opportunities.\nMandy talks about doing something nice for a homeless person and the conversation that resulted from that action\n\n13:30 Helping family is also a good option\n\nHelping family members and grandparents can be very important.\nFinding places with family and extended family or neighbors to do good things for is really great.\nHelping our kids be aware of opportunities to help others is key\n\n17:00 The News\n\nWe talk about what's going on in the world and how we help our kids understand them.\nDo we bring our children to rallies? or marches? What is the importance of talking about what is going on in the news and being aware of how it affects our children, the world, and others.\nHow do we support our children if they want to participate in walk-outs or some of the activism happening with our kids these days?\n\n21:20 - 22:53 Trigger Warning: We talk a bit about the Parkland Shooting and gun violence related to our children\n\n23:00 What do we do for the world for our kids?\n\nBeyond involving our kids, we get involved in issues that affect the world our children are growing up in\nLike elections, environment, infrastructure, etc.\nWriting letters to the Senate can be incredibly important so that funding continues for life changing programs.\n\n26:30 Showing kids that doing good is also bi-directional. You give and you get.\n\nLocal tech stuff, mentoring, starting a Women Who Code chapter and more\n\n29:00 Monetary donations are also great\n\nSometimes you're not going to be able to do things hands-on, giving money is also important\nInvolve kids in where to donate\nAllow children to allocate money to a charity or charity type\nBirthdays are a great opportunity as well, money to charity instead of gifts \n\n34:00 Genius / Fail moments\n\nAllison - We sleep trained our daughter! We were going to wait but we didn't and it's worked out really well. #Genius\nJC -  Teenager was being a teenager and we took him off the Spotify premium family plan. #Genius\nChris -  My son doesn't enunciate always and we had a Trader Joe's chicken in the freezer and we called it Emergency Chicken. One day Lars was in class and said Emergency Chicken is his favorite food. #Fail\nMandy -  I've been super busy this conference season and end of the school year and I missed an email from a teacher which apparently said there were portfolio reading. My daughter was super sad and I just missed it. But I'm making up for it! #Fail\n\n44:40 Contact Us!\n\nTell us if you have a question you want us to discuss on air!\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel:\n\nMandy Moore\nAllison McMillan\nJC Avena\nChris Sexton","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 010: Doing Good with Kids, Live Episode</h2>\n\n<h3>00:50 We&#39;re LIVE from <a href=\"https://rubyforgood.org/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Ruby For Good</a></h3>\n\n<h3>02:30 How do we make our kids do good?</h3>\n\n<p>School is a good place to start. There are lots of options for kids and parents to start out.<br>\nWe talk about different activities at different ages, preschool to high school</p>\n\n<h3>03:37 Where to start when you want to have childcare at your conference</h3>\n\n<p>Treat it as any other vendor<br>\nGo to the conference venue and ask for recommendations<br>\nAsk for recommendations from the hotel, local user groups, etc.</p>\n\n<h3>5:30 Various programs are mentioned</h3>\n\n<p>For <a href=\"https://www.girlscouts.org/en/cookies/all-about-cookies.html\" rel=\"nofollow\">Girl Scout cookies</a> you can purchase a cookie to have sent to troops overseas<br>\n<a href=\"https://www.girlsontherun.org/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Girls on the Run</a> each session has a theme related to &quot;good&quot; things</p>\n\n<h3>6:40 For young children, focus on having the conversation</h3>\n\n<p>What does it mean to do good things? We talk about <a href=\"https://pjlibrary.org/home\" rel=\"nofollow\">PJ Library</a> and <a href=\"https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tikkun_olam\" rel=\"nofollow\">Tikkun Olam</a><br>\nSimple things are good like the <a href=\"https://dawn-dish.com/en-us/dawn-saves-wildlife\" rel=\"nofollow\">Dawn soap</a> that you can use to tell a story<br>\n<a href=\"https://www.boxtops4education.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Box Tops</a> can be taken to school<br>\nThe more exposure, the better</p>\n\n<h3>9:50 Bring the kids along</h3>\n\n<p>At this conference, bringing kids can help them see that we&#39;re doing good things. It also happens when kids see you packing up food for shelters.<br>\nThe more exposure you have, the better<br>\nJC talks about how they help people move a lot. Religious institutions are also a good way to find opportunities.<br>\nMandy talks about doing something nice for a homeless person and the conversation that resulted from that action</p>\n\n<h3>13:30 Helping family is also a good option</h3>\n\n<p>Helping family members and grandparents can be very important.<br>\nFinding places with family and extended family or neighbors to do good things for is really great.<br>\nHelping our kids be aware of opportunities to help others is key</p>\n\n<h3>17:00 The News</h3>\n\n<p>We talk about what&#39;s going on in the world and how we help our kids understand them.<br>\nDo we bring our children to rallies? or marches? What is the importance of talking about what is going on in the news and being aware of how it affects our children, the world, and others.<br>\nHow do we support our children if they want to participate in walk-outs or some of the activism happening with our kids these days?</p>\n\n<h3>21:20 - 22:53 <strong>Trigger Warning:</strong> We talk a bit about the Parkland Shooting and gun violence related to our children</h3>\n\n<h3>23:00 What do we do for the world for our kids?</h3>\n\n<p>Beyond involving our kids, we get involved in issues that affect the world our children are growing up in<br>\nLike elections, environment, infrastructure, etc.<br>\nWriting letters to the Senate can be incredibly important so that funding continues for life changing programs.</p>\n\n<h3>26:30 Showing kids that doing good is also bi-directional. You give and you get.</h3>\n\n<p>Local tech stuff, mentoring, starting a <a href=\"https://www.womenwhocode.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Women Who Code</a> chapter and more</p>\n\n<h3>29:00 Monetary donations are also great</h3>\n\n<p>Sometimes you&#39;re not going to be able to do things hands-on, giving money is also important<br>\nInvolve kids in where to donate<br>\nAllow children to allocate money to a charity or charity type<br>\nBirthdays are a great opportunity as well, money to charity instead of gifts </p>\n\n<h3>34:00 Genius / Fail moments</h3>\n\n<p><em>Allison</em> - We sleep trained our daughter! We were going to wait but we didn&#39;t and it&#39;s worked out really well. #Genius<br>\n<em>JC</em> -  Teenager was being a teenager and we took him off the Spotify premium family plan. #Genius<br>\n<em>Chris</em> -  My son doesn&#39;t enunciate always and we had a Trader Joe&#39;s chicken in the freezer and we called it Emergency Chicken. One day Lars was in class and said Emergency Chicken is his favorite food. #Fail<br>\n<em>Mandy</em> -  I&#39;ve been super busy this conference season and end of the school year and I missed an email from a teacher which apparently said there were portfolio reading. My daughter was super sad and I just missed it. But I&#39;m making up for it! #Fail</p>\n\n<h3>44:40 Contact Us!</h3>\n\n<p>Tell us if you have a question you want us to discuss on air!</p>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h2>Panel:</h2>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/therubyrep\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mandy Moore</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jcavena\" rel=\"nofollow\">JC Avena</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a></p>","summary":"We record live from Ruby for Good about volunteering and doing good with our children","date_published":"2018-08-15T06:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/8dfae413-fde4-4954-83cd-4e038950d1f7.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":44108316,"duration_in_seconds":2730}]},{"id":"1eb82ffd-d08b-47ee-985e-1363bbe36929","title":"009: Planning Childcare at Conferences","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/planning-conference-childcare","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 009: Planning Childcare at Conferences\n\n00:25 We're joined by Abby Phoenix today\n\n01:00 When did childcare at Ruby Central events start?\n\nstarted in 2015 and have now been at 6 conferences\nThe intention is to always have childcare at RailsConf and RubyConf\n\n03:37 Where to start when you want to have childcare at your conference\n\nTreat it as any other vendor\nGo to the conference venue and ask for recommendations\nAsk for recommendations from the hotel, local user groups, etc.\n\n6:10 Smaller conferences\n\nSmaller conferences are a little more difficult but also easier because if it's in the same location every year you can use the same provider year after year\n\n7:30 Very important that childcare is based in the city of the conference\n\nThey know how to get around\nThey have alternative options\nThey are on time \nThey have the equipment they need\n\n9:10 How many people use childcare at conferences?\n\nTypically 5-7 kids \nUsually younger children especially since RubyConf and RailsConf are during the school year so most older children are in school \nAlways a question of whether or not a parent can make it work because bringing a child to a conference can be challenging\n\n13:45 Lactation room is also offered\n\nVisibility is very important\nIt is important that it is known in the community that childcare and lactation rooms are available at these conferences\nWhat to call the lactation room?\nHow it works at a conference to make sure you don't get walking in on and to make sure it is easy\nThe lactation room has outlets and a fridge.\n\n20:20 We tangent about all the things we can't wait to forget as parents\n\nDiapers\nWiping bums\nand more\n\n21:30 Lactation rooms are really easy to put in place as a conference organizer\n\n22:20 What have been the biggest challenges of providing childcare at a conference?\n\nThere were things we did not know to ask when we started and so now we have a list which is helpful\nAbby goes in to which questions they have started to ask \n\n26:00 What do you wish you could provide?\n\nEvening childcare so parents can do things.\nThey will try to work with childcare providers to offer after-hours care but can't provide it themselves \n\n31:00 Childcare is often tailored to 1-5 year olds\n\nMost of the participants are younger\n\n32:00 Mandy talks about what you can do with an older child at a conference\n\nIs it worth it to bring an older child to a conference?\nWhat conferences have a \"kids track\"?\nHow to engage older kids at conferences?\nThe childcare provider will often tailor childcare towards the age range of the children there \n\n39:30 What are the costs involved for organizers and participants\n\nParticipants are not charged for using childcare\nDiscussion about costs in different cities\n\n44:00 Genius / Fail moments\n\nAllison - My daughter has had a rough few weeks and loves being bounced on a ball but it's tiring for me and hurts my back, so I put her on the ball, tummy down, bounced her, and it calmed her down and she got gas out #Genius\nAndy - After a difficult day, my daughter wrote \"I love you daddy, even when you're grumpy\" #Genius? or #Fail?\nMandy - My daughter got the principals award for having a positive attitude, was responsible, did homework, and more. I was very proud! #Genius\nKWu - I'm on call for the week and so I set up a daybed in the office and negotiated with my husband that after the wake-ups, I would go to the office and turn off the monitor and be off duty for a few hours #Genius\nAbby - My daughters are very picky eaters. My youngest will eat waffles that she'll eat for breakfast. Recently she brought one over to me and said, \"mommy I really like these. I like that there is candy inside\" #Fail \nWith my oldest, I asked her to describe her perfect meal and I thought she'd talk about candy or ice cream but she said \"My perfect meal is a cheese plate\" and so from then on every night has been a cheese plate for dinner, which to her means little bits of a variety of food #Genius\n\n54:00 RubyConf is coming!\n\nFind more information at @rubyconf and rubyconf.org has some information right now.\nRegistration will open in August or September\n\n54:40 Contact Us!\n\nEmail us to ask questions.\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel:\n\nMandy Moore\nAllison McMillan\nKWu\nAndy CrollSpecial Guest: Abby Phoenix.","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 009: Planning Childcare at Conferences</h2>\n\n<h3>00:25 We&#39;re joined by <a href=\"https://twitter.com/aphoenix\" rel=\"nofollow\">Abby Phoenix</a> today</h3>\n\n<h3>01:00 When did childcare at Ruby Central events start?</h3>\n\n<p>started in 2015 and have now been at 6 conferences<br>\nThe intention is to always have childcare at <a href=\"https://railsconf.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">RailsConf</a> and <a href=\"https://rubyconf.org/\" rel=\"nofollow\">RubyConf</a></p>\n\n<h3>03:37 Where to start when you want to have childcare at your conference</h3>\n\n<p>Treat it as any other vendor<br>\nGo to the conference venue and ask for recommendations<br>\nAsk for recommendations from the hotel, local user groups, etc.</p>\n\n<h3>6:10 Smaller conferences</h3>\n\n<p>Smaller conferences are a little more difficult but also easier because if it&#39;s in the same location every year you can use the same provider year after year</p>\n\n<h3>7:30 Very important that childcare is based in the city of the conference</h3>\n\n<p>They know how to get around<br>\nThey have alternative options<br>\nThey are on time <br>\nThey have the equipment they need</p>\n\n<h3>9:10 How many people use childcare at conferences?</h3>\n\n<p>Typically 5-7 kids <br>\nUsually younger children especially since RubyConf and RailsConf are during the school year so most older children are in school <br>\nAlways a question of whether or not a parent can make it work because bringing a child to a conference can be challenging</p>\n\n<h3>13:45 Lactation room is also offered</h3>\n\n<p>Visibility is very important<br>\nIt is important that it is known in the community that childcare and lactation rooms are available at these conferences<br>\nWhat to call the lactation room?<br>\nHow it works at a conference to make sure you don&#39;t get walking in on and to make sure it is easy<br>\nThe lactation room has outlets and a fridge.</p>\n\n<h3>20:20 We tangent about all the things we can&#39;t wait to forget as parents</h3>\n\n<p>Diapers<br>\nWiping bums<br>\nand more</p>\n\n<h3>21:30 Lactation rooms are really easy to put in place as a conference organizer</h3>\n\n<h3>22:20 What have been the biggest challenges of providing childcare at a conference?</h3>\n\n<p>There were things we did not know to ask when we started and so now we have a list which is helpful<br>\nAbby goes in to which questions they have started to ask </p>\n\n<h3>26:00 What do you wish you could provide?</h3>\n\n<p>Evening childcare so parents can do things.<br>\nThey will try to work with childcare providers to offer after-hours care but can&#39;t provide it themselves </p>\n\n<h3>31:00 Childcare is often tailored to 1-5 year olds</h3>\n\n<p>Most of the participants are younger</p>\n\n<h3>32:00 Mandy talks about what you can do with an older child at a conference</h3>\n\n<p>Is it worth it to bring an older child to a conference?<br>\nWhat conferences have a &quot;kids track&quot;?<br>\nHow to engage older kids at conferences?<br>\nThe childcare provider will often tailor childcare towards the age range of the children there </p>\n\n<h3>39:30 What are the costs involved for organizers and participants</h3>\n\n<p>Participants are not charged for using childcare<br>\nDiscussion about costs in different cities</p>\n\n<h3>44:00 Genius / Fail moments</h3>\n\n<p><em>Allison</em> - My daughter has had a rough few weeks and loves being bounced on a ball but it&#39;s tiring for me and hurts my back, so I put her on the ball, tummy down, bounced her, and it calmed her down and she got gas out #Genius<br>\n<em>Andy</em> - After a difficult day, my daughter wrote &quot;I love you daddy, even when you&#39;re grumpy&quot; #Genius? or #Fail?<br>\n<em>Mandy</em> - My daughter got the principals award for having a positive attitude, was responsible, did homework, and more. I was very proud! #Genius<br>\n<em>KWu</em> - I&#39;m on call for the week and so I set up a daybed in the office and negotiated with my husband that after the wake-ups, I would go to the office and turn off the monitor and be off duty for a few hours #Genius<br>\n<em>Abby</em> - My daughters are very picky eaters. My youngest will eat waffles that she&#39;ll eat for breakfast. Recently she brought one over to me and said, &quot;mommy I really like these. I like that there is candy inside&quot; #Fail <br>\nWith my oldest, I asked her to describe her perfect meal and I thought she&#39;d talk about candy or ice cream but she said &quot;My perfect meal is a cheese plate&quot; and so from then on every night has been a cheese plate for dinner, which to her means little bits of a variety of food #Genius</p>\n\n<h3>54:00 RubyConf is coming!</h3>\n\n<p>Find more information at <a href=\"https://twitter.com/rubyconf\" rel=\"nofollow\">@rubyconf</a> and <a href=\"https://rubyconf.org/\" rel=\"nofollow\">rubyconf.org</a> has some information right now.<br>\nRegistration will open in August or September</p>\n\n<h3>54:40 Contact Us!</h3>\n\n<p>Email us to ask questions.</p>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h2>Panel:</h2>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/therubyrep\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mandy Moore</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwu\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/andycroll\" rel=\"nofollow\">Andy Croll</a></p><p>Special Guest: Abby Phoenix.</p>","summary":"We talk about how to get started if you want to have childcare at your conference and what it's like to be a conference organizer","date_published":"2018-07-11T06:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/1eb82ffd-d08b-47ee-985e-1363bbe36929.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":53588327,"duration_in_seconds":3332}]},{"id":"d1b2295e-65f5-4ee4-b9e7-91bbe3ef31bb","title":"008: Remote Work with Kids","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/remote-working-with-kids","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 008: Remote working with kids\n\n00:37 Who all works remotely?\n\n02:30 Working remotely with kids at home\n\nLifestyle choice \nNursing and alternate schedules\nSpouses working from home as well\n\n06:00 Working remotely before and after having a child\n\nThe difference between working from home with a spouse also working from home vs. not\nHard starts and stops to your day \n\n10:00 JC forgets pickup\n\n11:00 Dealing with interruptions\n\nThis classic example\nInterruptions from your spouse vs. the kid(s)\n\n15:00 Allison joins\n\n15:45 Do companies who accept remote work also do better at understanding flexible schedules and work/life balance?\n\nTyranny of the green dot on Slack\nWhat are the expectations of being remote?\nDo we feel guilty about doing \"life\" or kid stuff during the work day?\n\n19:53 Being a remote worker vs. being on a distributed team\n\nUnderstanding working hours\nHelping colleagues be more purposeful about working hours and communication\n\n23:00 Shared calendars and communicating hours to your team\n\nslack notifications and snoozing\ngoogle calendar work hours\nbasecamp Tools\n\n24:00 Based on Cate's blog post Going in to an office established a lot of defaults for a team and working remotely it helps to be more explicit\n\n25:30 Being in the office is nice because you get to talk to other adults. How do you deal with isolation?\n\nGoing to stores\nBeing in the coffee shop\nParenting groups and daycares\nPlaydates with other kids\nThe difficulty of coworking and coffee shop working while pumping\nLeads to great isolation which is pretty difficult \nRant about when people tell you to be social while pumping (spoiler: it's not that easy!!) \n\n31:00 Being home instead of going out as a matter of priorities\n\nWhat do you want to have time for?\n\n33:00 Listener Question!! Our first!! It is so exciting!!!\n\nWhen is the right time to introduce screens to your child and how did you do it?\n\nAllison introduced games first, mostly on flights. When Allison introduced tv shows, she tried to make it educational like Daniel Tiger, PBS shows, etc.\nTalking to your child about what they watched and what they learned\nKWu thinks what screen time and for what purpose. And introduce something, see the effect and make changes from there.\nJC said as you have more kids, it's harder to control media and screen time. Having structure around things is very important.\nJosh remembers lots of research but can't remember when they introduced screens\nAndy says do it collectively and sparingly\nKWu says that technology and watching things can be used as bonding time and can focus on artistic or creative endeavors as opposed to isolating\nJC talks about use of imagination using programs like minecraft.\n\n45:00 Genius / Fail moments\n\nJC - my daughter has been playing softball and she looked at pictures of herself batting and fixed an issue! She was resilient and didn't get discouraged. #Genius\nAllison - Everything is a genius and fail right now. My son's preschool teacher told me that he's doing fantastic #Genius\nJosh - my daughter has guinea pigs named Ana and Elsa and one of them fell which led to a visit to the vet. There they found out Ana and Elsa are male which led to a great discussion about gender and what gender means. #Genius\nKWu - Marriage win! We started watching the Americans together and it is so nice to be doing something together and have something not household related to talk about. #Genius\nAndy - After a difficult day, my daughter wrote \"I love you daddy, even when you're grumpy\" #Genius? or #Fail?\n\n53:00 Contact Us!\n\nTell us what you're learning! \n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel:\n\nJosh Puetz\nAllison McMillan\nJC Avena\nKWu\nAndy Croll\n\nAdditional links:\n\n\n100 Remote Work Stats, Quotes, and Statistics\n https://medium.com/@benthompson/breaking-down-the-father-on-bbc-being-interrupted-by-his-children-9840cdc8857b\nhttps://youtu.be/-Ojvk-4IcOE\n","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 008: Remote working with kids</h2>\n\n<h3>00:37 Who all works remotely?</h3>\n\n<h3>02:30 Working remotely with kids at home</h3>\n\n<p>Lifestyle choice <br>\nNursing and alternate schedules<br>\nSpouses working from home as well</p>\n\n<h3>06:00 Working remotely before and after having a child</h3>\n\n<p>The difference between working from home with a spouse also working from home vs. not<br>\nHard starts and stops to your day </p>\n\n<h3>10:00 JC forgets pickup</h3>\n\n<h3>11:00 Dealing with interruptions</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://youtu.be/Mh4f9AYRCZY\" rel=\"nofollow\">This classic example</a><br>\nInterruptions from your spouse vs. the kid(s)</p>\n\n<h3>15:00 Allison joins</h3>\n\n<h3>15:45 Do companies who accept remote work also do better at understanding flexible schedules and work/life balance?</h3>\n\n<p>Tyranny of the green dot on Slack<br>\nWhat are the expectations of being remote?<br>\nDo we feel guilty about doing &quot;life&quot; or kid stuff during the work day?</p>\n\n<h3>19:53 Being a remote worker vs. being on a distributed team</h3>\n\n<p>Understanding working hours<br>\nHelping colleagues be more purposeful about working hours and communication</p>\n\n<h3>23:00 Shared calendars and communicating hours to your team</h3>\n\n<p>slack notifications and snoozing<br>\ngoogle calendar work hours<br>\nbasecamp Tools</p>\n\n<h3>24:00 Based on <a href=\"https://cate.blog/2016/12/29/figuring-out-remote-work-is-figuring-out-work/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Cate&#39;s blog post</a> Going in to an office established a lot of defaults for a team and working remotely it helps to be more explicit</h3>\n\n<h3>25:30 Being in the office is nice because you get to talk to other adults. How do you deal with isolation?</h3>\n\n<p>Going to stores<br>\nBeing in the coffee shop<br>\nParenting groups and daycares<br>\nPlaydates with other kids<br>\nThe difficulty of coworking and coffee shop working while pumping<br>\nLeads to great isolation which is pretty difficult <br>\nRant about when people tell you to be social while pumping (spoiler: it&#39;s not that easy!!) </p>\n\n<h3>31:00 Being home instead of going out as a matter of priorities</h3>\n\n<p>What do you want to have time for?</p>\n\n<h3>33:00 Listener Question!! Our first!! It is so exciting!!!</h3>\n\n<p>When is the right time to introduce screens to your child and how did you do it?</p>\n\n<p>Allison introduced games first, mostly on flights. When Allison introduced tv shows, she tried to make it educational like <a href=\"http://pbskids.org/daniel/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Daniel Tiger</a>, <a href=\"http://pbskids.org/\" rel=\"nofollow\">PBS shows</a>, etc.<br>\nTalking to your child about what they watched and what they learned<br>\nKWu thinks what screen time and for what purpose. And introduce something, see the effect and make changes from there.<br>\nJC said as you have more kids, it&#39;s harder to control media and screen time. Having structure around things is very important.<br>\nJosh remembers lots of research but can&#39;t remember when they introduced screens<br>\nAndy says do it collectively and sparingly<br>\nKWu says that technology and watching things can be used as bonding time and can focus on artistic or creative endeavors as opposed to isolating<br>\nJC talks about use of imagination using programs like <a href=\"https://minecraft.net/en-us/\" rel=\"nofollow\">minecraft</a>.</p>\n\n<h3>45:00 Genius / Fail moments</h3>\n\n<p><em>JC</em> - my daughter has been playing softball and she looked at pictures of herself batting and fixed an issue! She was resilient and didn&#39;t get discouraged. #Genius<br>\n<em>Allison</em> - Everything is a genius and fail right now. My son&#39;s preschool teacher told me that he&#39;s doing fantastic #Genius<br>\n<em>Josh</em> - my daughter has guinea pigs named Ana and Elsa and one of them fell which led to a visit to the vet. There they found out Ana and Elsa are male which led to a great discussion about gender and what gender means. #Genius<br>\n<em>KWu</em> - Marriage win! We started watching the Americans together and it is so nice to be doing something together and have something not household related to talk about. #Genius<br>\n<em>Andy</em> - After a difficult day, my daughter wrote &quot;I love you daddy, even when you&#39;re grumpy&quot; #Genius? or #Fail?</p>\n\n<h3>53:00 Contact Us!</h3>\n\n<p>Tell us what you&#39;re learning! </p>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h2>Panel:</h2>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jcavena\" rel=\"nofollow\">JC Avena</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwu\" rel=\"nofollow\">KWu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/andycroll\" rel=\"nofollow\">Andy Croll</a></p>\n\n<h2>Additional links:</h2>\n\n<ul>\n<li><a href=\"https://officearrow.com/remote-work-statistics/\" rel=\"nofollow\">100 Remote Work Stats, Quotes, and Statistics</a></li>\n<li> <a href=\"https://medium.com/@benthompson/breaking-down-the-father-on-bbc-being-interrupted-by-his-children-9840cdc8857b\" rel=\"nofollow\">https://medium.com/@benthompson/breaking-down-the-father-on-bbc-being-interrupted-by-his-children-9840cdc8857b</a></li>\n<li><a href=\"https://youtu.be/-Ojvk-4IcOE\" rel=\"nofollow\">https://youtu.be/-Ojvk-4IcOE</a></li>\n</ul>","summary":"The panel discusses working remotely after having children (and sometimes with kids around)","date_published":"2018-06-20T06:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/d1b2295e-65f5-4ee4-b9e7-91bbe3ef31bb.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":55215526,"duration_in_seconds":3248}]},{"id":"aef62fe7-af30-4d1c-a83f-30ed363ecc90","title":"007: Learning After Kids","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/learning-after-kids","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 007: Keeping up to date with tech\n\n00:27 Welcome back Allison\n\n01:00 Today topic: Learning during the work day\n\n02:47 It's ok if learning doesn't happen when your kids are little\n\n04:14 Learning if you're a single parent is more difficult\n\nIt's more difficult if you don't have a partner to hand things off to\nReal talk: you will always just have less time \n\n7:15 Choices and Bringing your laptop along\n\nBeing efficient and aware of the time you have\nBut don't burn out \n\n12:36 The pressure to always be learning\n\nPros and cons to these feelings\nHow it relates to burn out \nHow it related to work/life balance \n\n15:35 Staying competitive in the industry\n\nTools, tips, and tricks\n\n18:36 Learning staycations\n\n22:33 Know how you learn and setting goals\n\nKnowing how you learn is really important\nHow much do you want to learn? To what extent? etc.\n\n23:34 Learning while you're on the clock\n\nConvincing your employer to give you time to learn \nSelling learning time to your boss\n\n34:36 External groups like meetups, slack, etc. are extremely important for having a peer group to learn from\n\nSupport groups are super important \nCoworking locally is even helpful if you can't make it to meetups, etc.\n\n37:10 Genius / Fail moments\n\nChris - Conference swag as gifts for kids when you get home #Genius\nAllison - I get to do 3 because it's been a while. I started a subscription to Le Tote so I can get new clothes that are nursing and postpartum body friendly #Genius\nBaby has been sleeping for the entire podcast #Genius\nMy son didn't realize he could get out of his room on his own in the morning and he thought he had been left home alone #Fail\nJosh - Labo is a set of projects made out of cardboard and it's integrated into a Nintendo Switch. It's awesome, but we haven't had a chance to do it yet. #Genius\nJC -We're participating in the mulch fundraiser. My kids had to go out and hustle and sell mulch, cover fees, etc. But the fail was that my 15 year old had a snarky answering machine message on his phone and he lost a sale as a result. #Genius turned #Fail\n\n53:00 Contact Us!\n\nTell us what you're learning! \n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel:\n\nJosh Puetz\nAllison McMillan\nChris Sexton\nJC Avena","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 007: Keeping up to date with tech</h2>\n\n<h3>00:27 Welcome back Allison</h3>\n\n<h3>01:00 Today topic: Learning during the work day</h3>\n\n<h3>02:47 It&#39;s ok if learning doesn&#39;t happen when your kids are little</h3>\n\n<h3>04:14 Learning if you&#39;re a single parent is more difficult</h3>\n\n<p>It&#39;s more difficult if you don&#39;t have a partner to hand things off to<br>\nReal talk: you will always just have less time </p>\n\n<h3>7:15 Choices and Bringing your laptop along</h3>\n\n<p>Being efficient and aware of the time you have<br>\nBut don&#39;t burn out </p>\n\n<h3>12:36 The pressure to always be learning</h3>\n\n<p>Pros and cons to these feelings<br>\nHow it relates to burn out <br>\nHow it related to work/life balance </p>\n\n<h3>15:35 Staying competitive in the industry</h3>\n\n<p>Tools, tips, and tricks</p>\n\n<h3>18:36 Learning staycations</h3>\n\n<h3>22:33 Know how you learn and setting goals</h3>\n\n<p>Knowing how you learn is really important<br>\nHow much do you want to learn? To what extent? etc.</p>\n\n<h3>23:34 Learning while you&#39;re on the clock</h3>\n\n<p>Convincing your employer to give you time to learn <br>\nSelling learning time to your boss</p>\n\n<h3>34:36 External groups like meetups, slack, etc. are extremely important for having a peer group to learn from</h3>\n\n<p>Support groups are super important <br>\nCoworking locally is even helpful if you can&#39;t make it to meetups, etc.</p>\n\n<h3>37:10 Genius / Fail moments</h3>\n\n<p><em>Chris</em> - Conference swag as gifts for kids when you get home #Genius<br>\n<em>Allison</em> - I get to do 3 because it&#39;s been a while. I started a subscription to Le Tote so I can get new clothes that are nursing and postpartum body friendly #Genius<br>\nBaby has been sleeping for the entire podcast #Genius<br>\nMy son didn&#39;t realize he could get out of his room on his own in the morning and he thought he had been left home alone #Fail<br>\n<em>Josh</em> - <a href=\"https://labo.nintendo.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Labo</a> is a set of projects made out of cardboard and it&#39;s integrated into a Nintendo Switch. It&#39;s awesome, but we haven&#39;t had a chance to do it yet. #Genius<br>\n<em>JC</em> -We&#39;re participating in the mulch fundraiser. My kids had to go out and hustle and sell mulch, cover fees, etc. But the fail was that my 15 year old had a snarky answering machine message on his phone and he lost a sale as a result. #Genius turned #Fail</p>\n\n<h3>53:00 Contact Us!</h3>\n\n<p>Tell us what you&#39;re learning! </p>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h2>Panel:</h2>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jcavena\" rel=\"nofollow\">JC Avena</a></p>","summary":"We talk about how we keep up to date and learn new things with limited time.","date_published":"2018-05-23T06:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/aef62fe7-af30-4d1c-a83f-30ed363ecc90.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":52146778,"duration_in_seconds":3253}]},{"id":"11037d99-dcf8-422e-a9c9-e1b517b4dc2b","title":"006: Screen Time","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/screen-time","content_text":"Parent Driven Development\n\nEpisode 006: Screen Time\n\n00:17 Today topic: Screen Time\n\n03:10 Screen time limits\n\nHow do we set limits for our children and their devices\n\n06:59 Other people's screen time policies\n\nNegotiating our screen time policies versus other parents opinions\n\n09:16 Is all screen time the same?\n\nDoes it matter what types of activities our children are engaging in on their screens? How do we teach our children the different between good content and bad content?\n\n21:00 Explaining our own relationships to devices\n\nWe carry digital devices around all the time: how do we explain that to our children? How can we model good behavior?\n\n26:23 Screen time limits per activities\n\nThe discussion turns to setting screen time limits per activity, and helping kids budget their time\n\nCircle by Disney \n\n30:57 What each of us do for screen time in our households\n\nEach of the hosts states for the record what our current screen time policies are\n\n38:47 Genius / Fail moments\n\nJosh - Preordering gifts from business trips from Amazon. #Genius\nKWu - Introducing new foods early with Spoonful One (link), scientific experiments to introduce new solids #Genius\nSarah - \"Helpful coupons\" artwork #Fail\n\n47:00 Contact Us!\n\nUse your screen time to contact us! \n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com. Our website is at ParentDrivenDevelopment.com\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel:\n\nJosh Puetz\nSarah Olson\nKatherine Wu","content_html":"<h1>Parent Driven Development</h1>\n\n<h2>Episode 006: Screen Time</h2>\n\n<h3>00:17 Today topic: Screen Time</h3>\n\n<h3>03:10 Screen time limits</h3>\n\n<p>How do we set limits for our children and their devices</p>\n\n<h3>06:59 Other people&#39;s screen time policies</h3>\n\n<p>Negotiating our screen time policies versus other parents opinions</p>\n\n<h3>09:16 Is all screen time the same?</h3>\n\n<p>Does it matter what types of activities our children are engaging in on their screens? How do we teach our children the different between good content and bad content?</p>\n\n<h3>21:00 Explaining our own relationships to devices</h3>\n\n<p>We carry digital devices around all the time: how do we explain that to our children? How can we model good behavior?</p>\n\n<h3>26:23 Screen time limits per activities</h3>\n\n<p>The discussion turns to setting screen time limits per activity, and helping kids budget their time</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://meetcircle.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">Circle by Disney</a> </p>\n\n<h3>30:57 What each of us do for screen time in our households</h3>\n\n<p>Each of the hosts states for the record what our current screen time policies are</p>\n\n<h3>38:47 Genius / Fail moments</h3>\n\n<p><em>Josh</em> - Preordering gifts from business trips from Amazon. #Genius<br>\n<em>KWu</em> - Introducing new foods early with Spoonful One (link), scientific experiments to introduce new solids #Genius<br>\n<em>Sarah</em> - &quot;Helpful coupons&quot; artwork #Fail</p>\n\n<h3>47:00 Contact Us!</h3>\n\n<p>Use your screen time to contact us! </p>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>. Our website is at <a href=\"https://parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">ParentDrivenDevelopment.com</a></p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h2>Panel:</h2>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/saraheolson\" rel=\"nofollow\">Sarah Olson</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">Katherine Wu</a></p>","summary":"We talk about screen time policies and how we manage these with our children.","date_published":"2018-04-18T07:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/11037d99-dcf8-422e-a9c9-e1b517b4dc2b.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":46480879,"duration_in_seconds":2899}]},{"id":"cea09ae8-c6ab-4dc3-ae7f-9aecdc4e3d60","title":"005: Net Neutrality","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/net-neutrality","content_text":"00:32 Meet our guest Jonathan Wallace\n\nHe is a mentor, speaker, organizer, developer and open source contributor. Married with three kids and a dog. He's also been a Georgia state legislator since January.\n\n01:07 Net neutrality\n\nWe start off talking about net neutrality and how it affects our children. How the repeal affects who regulates the infrastructure companies. How does it affect the internet content builders, how might it affect free speech, and how the internet is becoming the civic square. Are rules being put in place ahead of time or coming up and cleaning up after?\n\n6:04 States are stepping in\n\nWhat effect does having states stepping up to manage net neutrality have on the internet? Is zero rating an unfair practice? How about throttling? QoS is also a useful tool but at what level is it fair? Playing favorites can benefit consumers in some instances, but it could be detrimental to competition and innovation. Monopolistic practices can come into consideration. We don't see the choice of ISPs we would like to see throughout the country. Rural areas in particular are underserved. We've had instances where zero rating has come into play. Everything is online. Government services are online and people need to have adequate access to the internet to function in society.\n\n13:36 Nuances in the discussion over net neutrality\n\nWhat are some of the nuances we miss regarding the net neutrality discussion when we view it from a distance? Jonathan talks about some of the insights he has about this. Telecom providers were required to lease space to other providers. Multiple ISPs provided DSL but used the same telecom in the background. New technologies can leapfrog existing technologies that have regulatory constraints. Providers may not be able to prioritize service in areas where it is not profitable due to too much regulation. \n\n17:37 Bringing technological expertise to the legislature\n\nJonathan speaks about how his experience in technology has helped his approach as a legislator. There are so many aspects of law to cover that he points out how he brings his expertise in tech but also ignorance in other areas. Legislators are either rich, retired or broke. There are a lot of retired people in legislation, but there are few that have a tech background. He's been learning what the process and tradition are as a legislator. There are many layers of abstraction and nuance in the legislative process. \n\n20:16 Net Neutrality and basic human rights\n\nThe discussion shifts to speaking about net neutrality and how it relates to basic human rights. Free speech is important to be preserved in this new public square. The concentration of power can be abused by the few. It's important to have rules in place to ensure freedom of communication in these private networks. We can't control the passage of time, but we can control where we are paying attention. \n\n25:16 Managing it all\n\nJonathan is involved in technology and now in the public sphere, so how is he managing all this along with his family? There is a zero sum game when it comes to time available. His son was ready to start advocating for his opponents so he might be home more. With the blessing and support of his family, Jonathan's been able to make significant changes and sacrifices to be able to serve. It's a part-time job wth full-time obligations. \n\n29:48 Jonathan's approach to children and technology\n\nHow has Jonathan introduced technology into his children's lives? Jonathan considers it his moment of shame. He's been able to introduce some education games and shown them some programming with Scratch. He sees himself more of a facilitator and a support for his children. \n\n32:55 Genius / Fail moments\n\nJohnny Rae - Still no cable. Their streaming device crashed and it did not get replaced and the kids were fine. #Genius\nJosh - Nightly family routine watching a \"Just add magic\" episode and discussing it with their daughter. #Genius\nKWu - Has been introducing solids to her 6.5 month baby, specifically avocados. Since baby will only eat a bit and not wanting the avocado to go bad, KWu has been eating the rest of it. #Genius\nJC - Won the tie tying competition at the daddy/daughter dance with his 3rd grader. Took home a giant heart-shaped mylar balloon. #Genius\nJonathan - Both a Fail and a Genius moment. \n\n\n Did not manage his child's anxiety properly knowing he'd be gone during the week and got impatient. #Fail\n Uses Dragonbox to teach the concepts of algebra to his kids in a sneaky way. #Genius\n\n\n40:12 Where's Jonathan?\n\nYou can find Jonathan on Twitter at @jonathanwallace for personal and @wallacefor119 for his political work.\n\n49:40 Contact us!\n\nWe're here ready to answer all your questions with terrible advice! \n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel:\n\nJosh Puetz\nJC Avena\nJohnny Rae Austin\nKatherine Wu\nChris SextonSpecial Guest: Jonathan Wallace.","content_html":"<h3>00:32 Meet our guest Jonathan Wallace</h3>\n\n<p>He is a mentor, speaker, organizer, developer and open source contributor. Married with three kids and a dog. He&#39;s also been a Georgia state legislator since January.</p>\n\n<h3>01:07 Net neutrality</h3>\n\n<p>We start off talking about net neutrality and how it affects our children. How the repeal affects who regulates the infrastructure companies. How does it affect the internet content builders, how might it affect free speech, and how the internet is becoming the civic square. Are rules being put in place ahead of time or coming up and cleaning up after?</p>\n\n<h3>6:04 States are stepping in</h3>\n\n<p>What effect does having states stepping up to manage net neutrality have on the internet? Is zero rating an unfair practice? How about throttling? QoS is also a useful tool but at what level is it fair? Playing favorites can benefit consumers in some instances, but it could be detrimental to competition and innovation. Monopolistic practices can come into consideration. We don&#39;t see the choice of ISPs we would like to see throughout the country. Rural areas in particular are underserved. We&#39;ve had instances where zero rating has come into play. Everything is online. Government services are online and people need to have adequate access to the internet to function in society.</p>\n\n<h3>13:36 Nuances in the discussion over net neutrality</h3>\n\n<p>What are some of the nuances we miss regarding the net neutrality discussion when we view it from a distance? Jonathan talks about some of the insights he has about this. Telecom providers were required to lease space to other providers. Multiple ISPs provided DSL but used the same telecom in the background. New technologies can leapfrog existing technologies that have regulatory constraints. Providers may not be able to prioritize service in areas where it is not profitable due to too much regulation. </p>\n\n<h3>17:37 Bringing technological expertise to the legislature</h3>\n\n<p>Jonathan speaks about how his experience in technology has helped his approach as a legislator. There are so many aspects of law to cover that he points out how he brings his expertise in tech but also ignorance in other areas. Legislators are either rich, retired or broke. There are a lot of retired people in legislation, but there are few that have a tech background. He&#39;s been learning what the process and tradition are as a legislator. There are many layers of abstraction and nuance in the legislative process. </p>\n\n<h3>20:16 Net Neutrality and basic human rights</h3>\n\n<p>The discussion shifts to speaking about net neutrality and how it relates to basic human rights. Free speech is important to be preserved in this new public square. The concentration of power can be abused by the few. It&#39;s important to have rules in place to ensure freedom of communication in these private networks. We can&#39;t control the passage of time, but we can control where we are paying attention. </p>\n\n<h3>25:16 Managing it all</h3>\n\n<p>Jonathan is involved in technology and now in the public sphere, so how is he managing all this along with his family? There is a zero sum game when it comes to time available. His son was ready to start advocating for his opponents so he might be home more. With the blessing and support of his family, Jonathan&#39;s been able to make significant changes and sacrifices to be able to serve. It&#39;s a part-time job wth full-time obligations. </p>\n\n<h3>29:48 Jonathan&#39;s approach to children and technology</h3>\n\n<p>How has Jonathan introduced technology into his children&#39;s lives? Jonathan considers it his moment of shame. He&#39;s been able to introduce some education games and shown them some programming with Scratch. He sees himself more of a facilitator and a support for his children. </p>\n\n<h3>32:55 Genius / Fail moments</h3>\n\n<p><em>Johnny Rae</em> - Still no cable. Their streaming device crashed and it did not get replaced and the kids were fine. #Genius<br>\n<em>Josh</em> - Nightly family routine watching a &quot;Just add magic&quot; episode and discussing it with their daughter. #Genius<br>\n<em>KWu</em> - Has been introducing solids to her 6.5 month baby, specifically avocados. Since baby will only eat a bit and not wanting the avocado to go bad, KWu has been eating the rest of it. #Genius<br>\n<em>JC</em> - Won the tie tying competition at the daddy/daughter dance with his 3rd grader. Took home a giant heart-shaped mylar balloon. #Genius<br>\n<em>Jonathan</em> - Both a Fail and a Genius moment. </p>\n\n<ul>\n<li> Did not manage his child&#39;s anxiety properly knowing he&#39;d be gone during the week and got impatient. #Fail</li>\n<li> Uses <a href=\"https://dragonbox.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Dragonbox</a> to teach the concepts of algebra to his kids in a sneaky way. #Genius</li>\n</ul>\n\n<h3>40:12 Where&#39;s Jonathan?</h3>\n\n<p>You can find Jonathan on Twitter at <a href=\"https://twitter.com/jonathanwallace\" rel=\"nofollow\">@jonathanwallace</a> for personal and <a href=\"https://twitter.com/wallacefor119\" rel=\"nofollow\">@wallacefor119</a> for his political work.</p>\n\n<h3>49:40 Contact us!</h3>\n\n<p>We&#39;re here ready to answer all your questions with terrible advice! </p>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h2>Panel:</h2>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jcavena\" rel=\"nofollow\">JC Avena</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/recursivefunk\" rel=\"nofollow\">Johnny Rae Austin</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">Katherine Wu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a></p><p>Special Guest: Jonathan Wallace.</p>","summary":"We talk about net neutrality with our guest Jonathan Wallace. As usual we follow up with some genius and fail moments from the panel and our guest.","date_published":"2018-03-21T06:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/cea09ae8-c6ab-4dc3-ae7f-9aecdc4e3d60.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":40277734,"duration_in_seconds":2511}]},{"id":"a97de094-a3a9-4447-a376-b7d575cafdc3","title":"004: Managing Multiples","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/managing-multiples","content_text":"00:19 - Dave Bock - Multiples!\n\nDave has been a software engineer since 1991, with several forays into management, and even ran a small consulting firm with a couple of friends for 8 years.  He’s currently the DevOps Service Area Lead at Excella Consulting, a father of 10 year old triplet boys, is the director of the nonprofit LoudounCodes, helps organize the RubyNation and DevOps DC Days conferences, and co-organizes a handful of meet ups in the Northern Virginia area.\n\n00:55 10 Year old triplet boys!\n\nDave and his wife did IVF. They were hoping for one child and were delighted/shocked to have three! The odds for three embryos implanting was 2%. They always wanted three, just didn't expect them all at once. 3x of everything! It was 3x the work with only two of them. Now that they are older, they do help each other a lot. \n\n3:50 Going back to work\n\nLeveling up the difficulty by quitting his job and starting a consultancy 3 months into the pregnancy. Dave talks about the tension with billing hourly and feeling like you're losing money if you're not working while trying to manage three newborns. They realized with triplets all milestones (walking, talking) happened within days of each other too, so you need to be paying attention. It took a while to get the consultancy to the point where there was a good work/life balance.\n\n8:52 Triplets vs One at a time\n\nThe stages are spread out across longer years vs doing all the work for each stage at once.\nSome people with three kids do diapers for 10 years. For them, when they were done with diapers, they were done.\nThey had to use assembly line processes to get the kids fed. They couldn't keep up and started buying pre-mixed formula. The delivery person thought she was delivering food for a pony and asked to see it.\nNo hand-me-downs. Have to have at least 4 choices when getting something so each kid can have a choice even if picking last.\n\n13:23 Andy joins the call!\n\nWe continue talking about how the triplets have their individual personalities and how they've nurtured that individuality. They've kept the kids in separate classrooms with their own friends and such. They go on one-on-one outings with each kid. Invidual personalities come out when they are on their own but blend when the kids are together.\n\n17:15 Multiples learn to share early on\n\nThe kids develop a sense of fairness early on.\nOlder kids seem to get stricter parents, but it's probably just a matter of being able to control their environment.\nKids are growing up with a lot of screen time.\n\n20:35 Technology at different ages\n\nSpread out kids have different technology available when they get to a certain age. Triplets hit the same tech at the same time.\n\n21:54 How do you find events to take kids to?\n\nDave talks about how he's volunteered for years in different capacities and at different places. That's allowed him to influence the curriculum the kids are exposed to regarding technology. He suggested Hour of Code and they've been using it since his kids were in first grade. He also teaches highschool kids and runs the LoudounCodes program. He buys started kits that teach his kids how to solder and build electronics. Also local events in the community, playgrounds, museums, etc. Programming with Scratch. Letting the kids find something they like to do and giving them free time to do it.\n\n27:44 An endlessly adapting river of water of parenting\n\nAfter a long and varied career, Dave's wife decided to stay home and work at home with the children. She's the one that keeps everything running. Dave also credits his mom with helping keep things going. She has an in-law suite at their home and helps with the children and dinner. Andy talks about how he and his wife have been able to work from home while having their children. JC talks about being able to work from home for a large part of his children's early years and how that helped the balancing act with his wife who eventually went back into the workforce. Allison talks about mental load and how difficult it can be to mentally unload the home management part of life while working full time. Dave talksa about being equal partners and sharing the load. It's called parenting, not babysitting your kids\n\n36:44 Teasing your children\n\nDave talks about a few ways they've pranked the children. Zombies, the Walking Dead and RubyDCamp. Gummy bear addiction.\n\n40:42 Genius/Fail moments\n\nJC - Decided to take his kids to see Black Panther as a surprise and forgot about his daughter's end of season pizza party which she missed. #FAIL\nAndy - Managed to survive their childrens' \"half-term\" days off when all their plans fell apart. #GENIUS\nAllison - Ran out of patience and yelled. The rest of us feel like it's called \"morning\". - #FAIL\nDave - After one of his kid had his apendix removed, a second started having similar symptoms. The third child started worrying that it may be contagious. Dave tried to tease him about it and the kid turned it around on him. - #FAIL\n\n48:44 Where's Dave?\n\nYou can usually find dave under bokman on various sites. He's bokmann on Twitter, Github, Skype, and just about anywhere.\nHis non-profit can be reached at Loudouncode.org with a mission to support computer science education for Loudoun County's K-12 students.\n\n49:40 Contact us!\n\nWe'd love to hear from our listeners.\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel:\n\nAllison McMillan\nAndy Croll\nChris Sexton\nJC AvenaSpecial Guest: Dave Bock.","content_html":"<h3>00:19 - Dave Bock - Multiples!</h3>\n\n<p>Dave has been a software engineer since 1991, with several forays into management, and even ran a small consulting firm with a couple of friends for 8 years.  He’s currently the DevOps Service Area Lead at Excella Consulting, a father of 10 year old triplet boys, is the director of the nonprofit LoudounCodes, helps organize the RubyNation and DevOps DC Days conferences, and co-organizes a handful of meet ups in the Northern Virginia area.</p>\n\n<h3>00:55 10 Year old triplet boys!</h3>\n\n<p>Dave and his wife did IVF. They were hoping for one child and were delighted/shocked to have three! The odds for three embryos implanting was 2%. They always wanted three, just didn&#39;t expect them all at once. 3x of everything! It was 3x the work with only two of them. Now that they are older, they do help each other a lot. </p>\n\n<h3>3:50 Going back to work</h3>\n\n<p>Leveling up the difficulty by quitting his job and starting a consultancy 3 months into the pregnancy. Dave talks about the tension with billing hourly and feeling like you&#39;re losing money if you&#39;re not working while trying to manage three newborns. They realized with triplets all milestones (walking, talking) happened within days of each other too, so you need to be paying attention. It took a while to get the consultancy to the point where there was a good work/life balance.</p>\n\n<h3>8:52 Triplets vs One at a time</h3>\n\n<p>The stages are spread out across longer years vs doing all the work for each stage at once.<br>\nSome people with three kids do diapers for 10 years. For them, when they were done with diapers, they were done.<br>\nThey had to use assembly line processes to get the kids fed. They couldn&#39;t keep up and started buying pre-mixed formula. The delivery person thought she was delivering food for a pony and asked to see it.<br>\nNo hand-me-downs. Have to have at least 4 choices when getting something so each kid can have a choice even if picking last.</p>\n\n<h3>13:23 Andy joins the call!</h3>\n\n<p>We continue talking about how the triplets have their individual personalities and how they&#39;ve nurtured that individuality. They&#39;ve kept the kids in separate classrooms with their own friends and such. They go on one-on-one outings with each kid. Invidual personalities come out when they are on their own but blend when the kids are together.</p>\n\n<h3>17:15 Multiples learn to share early on</h3>\n\n<p>The kids develop a sense of fairness early on.<br>\nOlder kids seem to get stricter parents, but it&#39;s probably just a matter of being able to control their environment.<br>\nKids are growing up with a lot of screen time.</p>\n\n<h3>20:35 Technology at different ages</h3>\n\n<p>Spread out kids have different technology available when they get to a certain age. Triplets hit the same tech at the same time.</p>\n\n<h3>21:54 How do you find events to take kids to?</h3>\n\n<p>Dave talks about how he&#39;s volunteered for years in different capacities and at different places. That&#39;s allowed him to influence the curriculum the kids are exposed to regarding technology. He suggested Hour of Code and they&#39;ve been using it since his kids were in first grade. He also teaches highschool kids and runs the LoudounCodes program. He buys started kits that teach his kids how to solder and build electronics. Also local events in the community, playgrounds, museums, etc. Programming with Scratch. Letting the kids find something they like to do and giving them free time to do it.</p>\n\n<h3>27:44 An endlessly adapting river of water of parenting</h3>\n\n<p>After a long and varied career, Dave&#39;s wife decided to stay home and work at home with the children. She&#39;s the one that keeps everything running. Dave also credits his mom with helping keep things going. She has an in-law suite at their home and helps with the children and dinner. Andy talks about how he and his wife have been able to work from home while having their children. JC talks about being able to work from home for a large part of his children&#39;s early years and how that helped the balancing act with his wife who eventually went back into the workforce. Allison talks about mental load and how difficult it can be to mentally unload the home management part of life while working full time. Dave talksa about being equal partners and sharing the load. It&#39;s called parenting, not babysitting your kids</p>\n\n<h3>36:44 Teasing your children</h3>\n\n<p>Dave talks about a few ways they&#39;ve pranked the children. Zombies, the Walking Dead and RubyDCamp. Gummy bear addiction.</p>\n\n<h3>40:42 Genius/Fail moments</h3>\n\n<p><em>JC</em> - Decided to take his kids to see Black Panther as a surprise and forgot about his daughter&#39;s end of season pizza party which she missed. #FAIL<br>\n<em>Andy</em> - Managed to survive their childrens&#39; &quot;half-term&quot; days off when all their plans fell apart. #GENIUS<br>\n<em>Allison</em> - Ran out of patience and yelled. The rest of us feel like it&#39;s called &quot;morning&quot;. - #FAIL<br>\n<em>Dave</em> - After one of his kid had his apendix removed, a second started having similar symptoms. The third child started worrying that it may be contagious. Dave tried to tease him about it and the kid turned it around on him. - #FAIL</p>\n\n<h3>48:44 Where&#39;s Dave?</h3>\n\n<p>You can usually find dave under <em>bokman</em> on various sites. He&#39;s <em>bokmann</em> on <a href=\"https://twitter.com/bokmann\" rel=\"nofollow\">Twitter</a>, <a href=\"https://github.com/bokmann\" rel=\"nofollow\">Github</a>, Skype, and just about anywhere.<br>\nHis non-profit can be reached at <a href=\"https://loudouncodes.org\" rel=\"nofollow\">Loudouncode.org</a> with a mission to support computer science education for Loudoun County&#39;s K-12 students.</p>\n\n<h3>49:40 Contact us!</h3>\n\n<p>We&#39;d love to hear from our listeners.</p>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h2>Panel:</h2>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/andycroll\" rel=\"nofollow\">Andy Croll</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jcavena\" rel=\"nofollow\">JC Avena</a></p><p>Special Guest: Dave Bock.</p>","summary":"We discuss managing multiple children with our guest Dave Bock, proud father of triplets!","date_published":"2018-03-07T11:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/a97de094-a3a9-4447-a376-b7d575cafdc3.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mp3","size_in_bytes":48420269,"duration_in_seconds":3020}]},{"id":"31d7de45-c636-4e60-bf72-e985825f7927","title":"003: Internet Privacy and Kids","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/internet-privacy-and-kids","content_text":"0:31\n\nFirst Guest!\nHeidi Waterhouse - Parent of two. Developer evangelist for LaunchDarkly. Volunteers teaching sex ed to teenagers. She likes to sew her own conference dresses and ride her bike.\n\n1:00 Internet privacy and safety and how it is adaptable to kids of all ages.\n\nHow should kids protect themselves online, have manners, and use their time wisely. Online behavior is permanent these days, so kids should also consider using obfuscated names online. Pseudonyms are personas you can discard if necessary while keeping you safe. Online predation is possible, but you are more likely to be get gendered grief online. \n\n8:00 Problematic relationships with Facebook\n\nYou can have a real name account, but you have to behave as if in an office all day. Kids have a harder time controlling impulses. Due to COPPA regulation, parents wanting their non teenage children to have an online account have to lie about the child’s age when signing them up. COPPA, well intentioned, but disenfranchises kids under 13 and forces parents to jump through hoops when getting their children online.\n\n10:57 Wallet identity\n\nSometimes you want accolades and other positive achievements tied to your persona. Each kid is different and some will want the attention while others won’t. Some things you do in public and online forums will be public, regardless of your preference. As parents, we make decisions for our children. Everything decision we make for our children will be things they’ll have to live with. Some parents choose to not make choices for their children regarding online personas.\n\n14:45 Less physical spaces\n\nA book from Danah Boyd discusses how we’ve deprived teenagers from any space they can meet and hang out so the only space they have left is cyber space. Overscheduling, curfews, no hanging out at malls. Technology is making physical gatherings less common. \n\n16:29 Cyber safety is the new Sex Ed\n\nSchools have Google accounts for kids to use the Google suite for education. Cyber security education is the equivalent of abstinence only sex ed. 70% of parents have a password to their kids’ phones and monitor their devices.\n\n20:35 Safe places for kids to explore online communication and not raising trolls.\n\nOnline platforms where kids can interact safely. Discord. Teach children what is appropriate, and give them the ability to identify what is right and wrong. “It’s only online, it doesn’t matter” is how you build an online troll. Everyone is a human on the other side of the screen.\n\n24:51 Determining when your children should level up\n\nEach kid is different and timing depends on each kid. Learnign what should be downloadable to your computer so it doesn’t break. What about your kid wanting a YouTube career? (Yes YouTube, no comments) Keeping their online circles to friend they know in person helps, while having open discussion about their online lives. Let them know they can be monitored, and privileges can be narrowed.\n\n35:13 Genius/Fail moments\n\nAndy - Picked up his kids from school but left his dog there. #FAIL\n\nAllison - Continuation of last episode’s fail. Still reading fire safety book at bedtime. #FAIL\n\nHeidi - 15YO assembled IKEA storage system by himself. #GENIUS\n\nChris - Kids decided to spend time roughhousing instead of online. Though he overheard from downstairs:  SON: Stop! You’re going to break my arm! DAUGHTER: I don’t want to break your arm, I want to break your spirit! #GENIUS\n\nMandy - Going to Disney World! After a long long time of saving, it’s happening. #GENIUS\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel:\n\nAllison McMillan\nChris Sexton\nAndy Croll\nJosh Puetz\nMandy MooreSpecial Guest: Heidi Waterhouse.","content_html":"<h3>0:31</h3>\n\n<p>First Guest!<br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/wiredferret\" rel=\"nofollow\">Heidi Waterhouse</a> - Parent of two. Developer evangelist for <a href=\"https://launchdarkly.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">LaunchDarkly</a>. Volunteers teaching sex ed to teenagers. She likes to sew her own conference dresses and ride her bike.</p>\n\n<h3>1:00 Internet privacy and safety and how it is adaptable to kids of all ages.</h3>\n\n<p>How should kids protect themselves online, have manners, and use their time wisely. Online behavior is permanent these days, so kids should also consider using obfuscated names online. Pseudonyms are personas you can discard if necessary while keeping you safe. Online predation is possible, but you are more likely to be get gendered grief online. </p>\n\n<h3>8:00 Problematic relationships with Facebook</h3>\n\n<p>You can have a real name account, but you have to behave as if in an office all day. Kids have a harder time controlling impulses. Due to COPPA regulation, parents wanting their non teenage children to have an online account have to lie about the child’s age when signing them up. <a href=\"https://www.ftc.gov/enforcement/rules/rulemaking-regulatory-reform-proceedings/childrens-online-privacy-protection-rule\" rel=\"nofollow\">COPPA</a>, well intentioned, but disenfranchises kids under 13 and forces parents to jump through hoops when getting their children online.</p>\n\n<h3>10:57 Wallet identity</h3>\n\n<p>Sometimes you want accolades and other positive achievements tied to your persona. Each kid is different and some will want the attention while others won’t. Some things you do in public and online forums will be public, regardless of your preference. As parents, we make decisions for our children. Everything decision we make for our children will be things they’ll have to live with. Some parents choose to not make choices for their children regarding online personas.</p>\n\n<h3>14:45 Less physical spaces</h3>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/Its-Complicated-Social-Lives-Networked/dp/0300166311\" rel=\"nofollow\">A book from Danah Boyd</a> discusses how we’ve deprived teenagers from any space they can meet and hang out so the only space they have left is cyber space. Overscheduling, curfews, no hanging out at malls. Technology is making physical gatherings less common. </p>\n\n<h3>16:29 Cyber safety is the new Sex Ed</h3>\n\n<p>Schools have Google accounts for kids to use the Google suite for education. Cyber security education is the equivalent of abstinence only sex ed. 70% of parents have a password to their kids’ phones and monitor their devices.</p>\n\n<h3>20:35 Safe places for kids to explore online communication and not raising trolls.</h3>\n\n<p>Online platforms where kids can interact safely. <a href=\"https://discord.me\" rel=\"nofollow\">Discord</a>. Teach children what is appropriate, and give them the ability to identify what is right and wrong. “It’s only online, it doesn’t matter” is how you build an online troll. Everyone is a human on the other side of the screen.</p>\n\n<h3>24:51 Determining when your children should level up</h3>\n\n<p>Each kid is different and timing depends on each kid. Learnign what should be downloadable to your computer so it doesn’t break. What about your kid wanting a YouTube career? (Yes YouTube, no comments) Keeping their online circles to friend they know in person helps, while having open discussion about their online lives. Let them know they can be monitored, and privileges can be narrowed.</p>\n\n<h3>35:13 Genius/Fail moments</h3>\n\n<p><em>Andy</em> - Picked up his kids from school but left his dog there. #FAIL</p>\n\n<p><em>Allison</em> - Continuation of last episode’s fail. Still reading fire safety book at bedtime. #FAIL</p>\n\n<p><em>Heidi</em> - 15YO assembled IKEA storage system by himself. #GENIUS</p>\n\n<p><em>Chris</em> - Kids decided to spend time roughhousing instead of online. Though he overheard from downstairs:  SON: Stop! You’re going to break my arm! DAUGHTER: I don’t want to break your arm, I want to break your spirit! #GENIUS</p>\n\n<p><em>Mandy</em> - Going to Disney World! After a long long time of saving, it’s happening. #GENIUS</p>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h2>Panel:</h2>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/andycroll\" rel=\"nofollow\">Andy Croll</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a><br>\n<a href=\"http://twitter.com/recursivefunk\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mandy Moore</a></p><p>Special Guest: Heidi Waterhouse.</p>","summary":"Our first guest, Heidi Waterhouse, talks to us about internet privacy and kids at different ages followed up by some genius and fail moments from the panel.","date_published":"2018-02-21T06:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/31d7de45-c636-4e60-bf72-e985825f7927.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":42334952,"duration_in_seconds":2640}]},{"id":"41f5b584-2aba-4a3e-849c-569d6b6b3106","title":"002: Travel Guilt, Playing Hooky, and Getting Judged as Parents","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/travel-guilt-playing-hooky-and-getting-judged-as-parents","content_text":"00:34 - Combating Burnout\n\nMandy was on “vacation” and has to make an appearance at another conference. Her daughter doesn’t want her to go and Mandy feels really bad about it. She’s been on the road a lot the past six months and is feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. JC says it’s important to learn to say no and recharge by doing hobbies. Chris says it comes down to priorities.\n\n06:12 - Playing Activity Hooky: AS A PARENT!\n\nMandy also feels bad because she knowingly skipped her daughter’s gymnastics practice because after returning from her trip, she didn’t feel like going, her daughter didn’t bring it up, so they didn’t go! Revelation: Other people have been known to do it too!\n\nThe panelists talk about how most of them grew up with their parent’s beliefs being drilled into them that if you sign up for a commitment, you do the commitment. Allison had the opposite upbringing when it came to that though.\n\n16:45 - Feeling Judgement\n\nAs well as feeling bad about all of the above, Mandy has people in her life that judge her parenting style -- namely nosy neighbors. The panel talks about the differences between mothers and fathers getting judged and possibly having different licenses in the gender department when it comes to being parents.\n\nThey also discuss kids playing outside these days and that it is scary to let your child run free sometimes but come to the consensus that it’s generally necessary and healthy.\n\n27:07 - Letting Kids Figure it Out by Themselves\n\nThe panelists talk about how it’s important for kids to learn conflict resolution instead of solving all of their problems for them. Eventually, they WILL work it out! They also agree they like to let their kids be themselves and have some independence when it comes to dressing themselves.\n\nGenius/Fail Moments of the Week:\n\nAllison: Her son is afraid of smoke detectors! #FAIL\n\nJosh: Unknowingly let his daughter stay home from school for a snow day -- from the wrong school! #FAIL\n\nChris: Played Survive: Escape From Atlantis all day to keep his kids busy during a snow day! #GENIUS\n\nMandy: Signed up for the food delivery service, Plated. #GENIUS\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.\n\nPanel:\n\nAllison McMillan\nChris Sexton\nJC Avena\nJosh Puetz\nMandy Moore","content_html":"<h3>00:34 - Combating Burnout</h3>\n\n<p>Mandy was on “vacation” and has to make an appearance at another conference. Her daughter doesn’t want her to go and Mandy feels really bad about it. She’s been on the road a lot the past six months and is feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. JC says it’s important to learn to say no and recharge by doing hobbies. Chris says it comes down to priorities.</p>\n\n<h3>06:12 - Playing Activity Hooky: AS A PARENT!</h3>\n\n<p>Mandy also feels bad because she knowingly skipped her daughter’s gymnastics practice because after returning from her trip, she didn’t feel like going, her daughter didn’t bring it up, so they didn’t go! Revelation: Other people have been known to do it too!</p>\n\n<p>The panelists talk about how most of them grew up with their parent’s beliefs being drilled into them that if you sign up for a commitment, you do the commitment. Allison had the opposite upbringing when it came to that though.</p>\n\n<h3>16:45 - Feeling Judgement</h3>\n\n<p>As well as feeling bad about all of the above, Mandy has people in her life that judge her parenting style -- namely nosy neighbors. The panel talks about the differences between mothers and fathers getting judged and possibly having different licenses in the gender department when it comes to being parents.</p>\n\n<p>They also discuss kids playing outside these days and that it is scary to let your child run free sometimes but come to the consensus that it’s generally necessary and healthy.</p>\n\n<h3>27:07 - Letting Kids Figure it Out by Themselves</h3>\n\n<p>The panelists talk about how it’s important for kids to learn conflict resolution instead of solving all of their problems for them. Eventually, they WILL work it out! They also agree they like to let their kids be themselves and have some independence when it comes to dressing themselves.</p>\n\n<h3>Genius/Fail Moments of the Week:</h3>\n\n<p><em>Allison:</em> Her son is afraid of smoke detectors! #FAIL</p>\n\n<p><em>Josh:</em> Unknowingly let his daughter stay home from school for a snow day -- from the wrong school! #FAIL</p>\n\n<p><em>Chris:</em> Played <a href=\"https://boardgamegeek.com/boardgame/2653/survive-escape-atlantis\" rel=\"nofollow\">Survive: Escape From Atlantis</a> all day to keep his kids busy during a snow day! #GENIUS</p>\n\n<p><em>Mandy:</em> Signed up for the food delivery service, <a href=\"https://www.plated.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Plated</a>. #GENIUS</p>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.</p>\n\n<h2>Panel:</h2>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jcavena\" rel=\"nofollow\">JC Avena</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a><br>\n<a href=\"http://twitter.com/recursivefunk\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mandy Moore</a></p>","summary":"A week of parental guilt followed up by some genius and fail moments from the panel.","date_published":"2018-02-07T06:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/41f5b584-2aba-4a3e-849c-569d6b6b3106.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":45448763,"duration_in_seconds":2835}]},{"id":"153638cf-ca46-4c16-bf3e-32f71592f6c0","title":"001: Greetings & Salutations","url":"https://www.parentdrivendevelopment.com/greetings-and-salutations","content_text":"01:40 - Allison Intro\n\nAllison talks a bit about kids being curious, asking questions, and how they somehow sneakily get past some safety measures we try to put in place. The older ones blatantly just write us notes and leave the house.\n\n04:53 - Andy Intro\n\nAndy introduces us to parenting multiples and how he’s been “leading a small team!” We also comment on how our children always seem to plot against us.\n\n08:17 - Sarah Intro\n\nSarah goes into how she’s navigating being the parent of a gymnast and how kids activities easily can consume your life. She also talks about how her little one is an empath and the panelists talk about how sad movies (i.e. Bambi) have ruined everyone forever as parents.\n\n12:55 - Josh Intro\n\nJosh says that his family has moved around a lot and that it can be hard on kids. He talks about his daughter’s hobbies which include cosplay and that they are entering the adolescent years terrified as two dads facing the puberty of their little girl. We are all confused as to why wearing bras is now the cool thing to do. (Before it’s necessary!) We also briefly touch on the difference between having boys and girls and gender neutrality.\n\n22:02 - Mandy Intro\n\nMandy tells the story of how her daughter got the nickname “Chicken” and being a single mom. We then talk a little bit about a topic that we are going to delve into more in two weeks with our guest, Heidi Waterhouse: Internet Safety &amp; Privacy.\n\n26:25 - Johnny Intro\n\nJohnny talks about some solutions he’s found to combat the Internet monitoring conundrum such as the Nvidia Shield and Mobicip.\n\nWe also talk about kids do have a conscience and are capable of understanding the difference between right and wrong. Andy mentions he is reading the book, The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haidt. We also weigh the pros and cons of “making” our kids watch educational content.\n\n38:55 - KWu Intro\n\nKWu says she is nervous about going back to work after having a baby. Allison suggests learning to enjoy little moments like finishing a cup of coffee when it was still hot. And then there’s the topic of pumping and how your brain chemistry changes after having children. The panel also touches on how having a partner can make parenting easier and Mandy talks briefly about being a single mom and using the Spoon Theory to get through the days. Except she calls them her “Fs to Give”.\n\n49:32 - JC Intro\n\nJC has kids of all ages (between 8 and 17) and talks about how it goes so fast. He also has a pet name for his daughter: “Monkey”. His family also loves their lives since having cut the cable cord.\n\n56:48 - Chris Intro\n\nChris’ son wants to be a developer so he encourages him to play Minecraft.\n\nFollow &amp; Support\n\nPlease follow us @parentdrivendev on Twitter or email us at panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com.\n\nSupport us via Patreon and get access to our our Slack Community.  \n\nPanel:\n\nAllison McMillan\nAndy Croll\nSarah Olson\nJosh Puetz\nMandy Moore\nJohnny Ray Austin\nKatherine Wu\nJC Avena\nChris Sexton","content_html":"<h3>01:40 - Allison Intro</h3>\n\n<p>Allison talks a bit about kids being curious, asking questions, and how they somehow sneakily get past some safety measures we <em>try</em> to put in place. The older ones blatantly just write us notes and leave the house.</p>\n\n<h3>04:53 - Andy Intro</h3>\n\n<p>Andy introduces us to parenting multiples and how he’s been “leading a small team!” We also comment on how our children always seem to plot against us.</p>\n\n<h3>08:17 - Sarah Intro</h3>\n\n<p>Sarah goes into how she’s navigating being the parent of a gymnast and how kids activities easily can consume your life. She also talks about how her little one is an empath and the panelists talk about how sad movies (i.e. Bambi) have ruined everyone forever as parents.</p>\n\n<h3>12:55 - Josh Intro</h3>\n\n<p>Josh says that his family has moved around a lot and that it can be hard on kids. He talks about his daughter’s hobbies which include cosplay and that they are entering the adolescent years terrified as two dads facing the puberty of their little girl. We are all confused as to why wearing bras is now the cool thing to do. (Before it’s necessary!) We also briefly touch on the difference between having boys and girls and gender neutrality.</p>\n\n<h3>22:02 - Mandy Intro</h3>\n\n<p>Mandy tells the story of how her daughter got the nickname “Chicken” and being a single mom. We then talk a little bit about a topic that we are going to delve into more in two weeks with our guest, Heidi Waterhouse: Internet Safety &amp; Privacy.</p>\n\n<h3>26:25 - Johnny Intro</h3>\n\n<p>Johnny talks about some solutions he’s found to combat the Internet monitoring conundrum such as the <a href=\"https://www.nvidia.com/en-us/shield/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Nvidia Shield</a> and <a href=\"http://www.mobicip.com/\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mobicip</a>.</p>\n\n<p>We also talk about kids do have a conscience and are capable of understanding the difference between right and wrong. Andy mentions he is reading the book, <a href=\"https://www.amazon.com/Righteous-Mind-Divided-Politics-Religion/dp/0307455777\" rel=\"nofollow\">The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haidt</a>. We also weigh the pros and cons of “making” our kids watch educational content.</p>\n\n<h3>38:55 - KWu Intro</h3>\n\n<p>KWu says she is nervous about going back to work after having a baby. Allison suggests learning to enjoy little moments like finishing a cup of coffee when it was still hot. And then there’s the topic of pumping and how your brain chemistry changes after having children. The panel also touches on how having a partner can make parenting easier and Mandy talks briefly about being a single mom and using the <a href=\"https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theory\" rel=\"nofollow\">Spoon Theory</a> to get through the days. Except she calls them her “Fs to Give”.</p>\n\n<h3>49:32 - JC Intro</h3>\n\n<p>JC has kids of all ages (between 8 and 17) and talks about how it goes so fast. He also has a pet name for his daughter: “Monkey”. His family also loves their lives since having cut the cable cord.</p>\n\n<h3>56:48 - Chris Intro</h3>\n\n<p>Chris’ son wants to be a developer so he encourages him to play Minecraft.</p>\n\n<h3>Follow &amp; Support</h3>\n\n<p>Please follow us <a href=\"https://twitter.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">@parentdrivendev</a> on Twitter or email us at <a href=\"mailto:panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com\" rel=\"nofollow\">panel@parentdrivendevelopment.com</a>.</p>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://www.patreon.com/parentdrivendev\" rel=\"nofollow\">Support us via Patreon</a> and get access to our our Slack Community.  </p>\n\n<h2>Panel:</h2>\n\n<p><a href=\"https://twitter.com/allie_p\" rel=\"nofollow\">Allison McMillan</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/andycroll\" rel=\"nofollow\">Andy Croll</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/saraheolsen\" rel=\"nofollow\">Sarah Olson</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/joshpuetz\" rel=\"nofollow\">Josh Puetz</a><br>\n<a href=\"http://twitter.com/recursivefunk\" rel=\"nofollow\">Mandy Moore</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/recursivefunk\" rel=\"nofollow\">Johnny Ray Austin</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/kwugirl\" rel=\"nofollow\">Katherine Wu</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/jcavena\" rel=\"nofollow\">JC Avena</a><br>\n<a href=\"https://twitter.com/crsexton\" rel=\"nofollow\">Chris Sexton</a></p>","summary":"Meet all the hosts of the Parent Driven Development, let them introduce themselves, their kids and have a little chat!","date_published":"2018-01-25T13:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/ef187756-b31b-4346-99a0-4797a7967913/153638cf-ca46-4c16-bf3e-32f71592f6c0.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":57371351,"duration_in_seconds":3580}]}]}